Hey Sueacct - welcome to the Paleo lifestyle. Not a silly question - you will find a lot of seemingly contradictory information in the Paleosphere.
As a general rule, beans can be hard to digest for many people, but there are also many in the Paleo world that are less negative towards them, so it depends on whose advice/opinion you are following (you will find this with many things Paleo - dairy, agave, etc.).
My advice would be to keep asking, keep searching for answers and ultimately, it is all about finding out what works for you. Here are a couple of links for some additional reading.
Hi, Sue! No, beans aren't a grain, but they contain similar anti-nutrients which disturb gut health/balance (phytates and lectins). Paleo is about optimal food... and beans aren't optimal... but that doesn't mean you have to stop eating them if you find you do well on them. Check out the following articles... and subscribe to MDA... I find he is one of the best on-going and developing resources for these sorts of questions, and he will lead you to further research.
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