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10/9/11 8:08 A

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I agree with Loren... also, I think you are in a tough spot because (and I am making a HUGE generalization here) but I think that people who are regular church-goers tend to be more likely to have kids... so if you like to attend church regularly but don't have/want kids, it can be tough.

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9/29/11 6:33 P

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If you aren't happy going, then i would move on. You can still be friends with the people you like if you want, but I think you are growing up :). I'd hate for you to go into teacher mode on one of the kids and then have the parent resent you (then have you feel like you need to leave).

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9/28/11 10:33 P

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I always feel DH and I are in the weird in between stage. I am 29 and he is 30 and we have no kids and none planned. I LOVE the ppl in our church small group but I can not stand their children and I am a teacher for pete's sake.

The format is that every week each couple offers to host the group, bring a snack to share, or cover child care. Those who don't have kids don't have to host b/c they wouldn't have toys or other things to occupy children. So when you take care of the kids you are babysitting them for a while. All the ones in our group 4-5 year olds and under.

In the past, the parents would allow them to wrestle each other and let them be boys and now that they are older, they are hurting each other so they are telling them to stop. Well DUH. I am a school teacher and from the beginning, I thought it was a bad idea to let them play so rough but this isn't at school so what can I do? It makes DH and I uncomfortable watching the kids b/c they aren't ours. If I was at school, I would go into teacher mode and get them in line but we aren't.

Last night, one of the 4 year old boys hit DH TWICE. Seriously? If that were my child, he wouldn't would have been not been sitting down for a week b/c there would have been a spanking coming his way.The BS about spanking affecting their self esteem is not something I buy into. I was spanked when I was little, and I am fine.

I figured maybe if we looked at a 30's group that does not provide childcare, that we will be with people who either don't have children, or have older chlidren who don't need babysitting b/c this is getting on my nerves. Career wise DH has been a cop for almost 6 years and I have been teaching for 7 years so we are established there so we could have that in common with those in their 30's.

I would greatly miss this group we are in, but it could be time for us to move on. Thoughts?

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