frankly, i've witnessed this type of behavior more frequently than i think i expected to with the grad students i work with in university housing. alls i can say is "WOW"...
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That's great. My DH and I just had a similar problem. A duo of friends from college announced they are pregnant, two months after he lost his job. No planned BC failed. She works part time at the library and they are selling the house due to finances. He is really sensitive so we could only say "wow" and "uh." Your answer was so much better! I did make them a cake. I like making cakes and I feel kinda sorry for them. Luckily our not wanting kids comments has gotten us off the God Parent list. YAH!
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Sometimes we just have to bite our tongues. If she is happy then you should be happy for her as her friend. Maybe there is an underlying reason you can't be happy for. I know it's irritating when people "brag" about things we don't find brag-worthy, but there's no reason to make that fact known.
I like the "You must be thrilled" response. You don't have to congratulate her if you only want to, but at least acknowledge how she feels.
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DO NOT take your concubines suggestion. It would be rude. And pointless, since you already know it happened by mistake. You'd best conceal your feelings if this is a friend (you really don't have a lot in common with this friend!). Bite your tongue. I wouldn't go so far as to offer condolences, but neither would I congratulate them. I'd probably just say something like "Wow. I can't even imagine it" or perhaps even "Better you than me" or something similarly vague. Good luck.
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I think it would be appropriate to tell her that you hope everything goes well - smooth pregnancy, healthy baby - because I'm sure you do wish her those things. You can wish her well without congratulating or condoning her behavior - especially if it seems this was unplanned and maybe unwanted.
I had a similar situation with friends who reported that they were pregnant again accidentally. I thought to myself - do they still not know where babies come from?!?
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Just read your posting, although you might not think that having another baby is the best thing for your friend, I dont think why so many would be a good idea. If I was you i would just say congrats and keep your other thoughts private.
I have a group of 6 college friends that I keep in close touch with (15 years post-graduation). I live in FL and the rest live in NY/NJ and Boston, so I don't see tham all that much.
Only one out of the group has kids - well 2 considering they are married to each other. On Monday, she sent an e-mail to the group saying that around Thanksgiving she and her hubby will be having baby number FOUR! The way she worded her e-mail made it clear that this baby was unplanned.
It does not seem like anyone has replied to her yet, unless they didn't hit "reply all". Frankly, I'm grossed out. Four children is environmentally and financially irresponsible - especially for them, as she has said many times the only way they are making it is because they live rent free in the other side of her parents' 2-family house.
BF suggested I email saying, "Congratulations. Just curious, why so many?". I'm not happy for her and I don't know if I can even say congratulations.
Any suggestions for a response? I feel kind of bad that I have not responded to her mail.
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