I try (but certainly don't always succeed) to do less giving of advice and more providing of ideas. The difference is that advice is something we might hope/expect them to follow. Ideas are something I hope will kick off other's own problem-solving thinking. Maybe that idea will help or maybe it will lead them to another idea that works better for them.
My DDa is breaking me of the advice habit. She rarely wants advice when she's venting (not about weight issues). She wants and ear and she wants a gentle nudge to quit whining and start thinking outside the box.
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