i don't have anything to say about HRMs, i never use one, so i'm glad you got to exchange thoughts and experiences!
i use a regular shower gel, and moisturizing lotion after my swims. i usually don't wash my hair after every swim because it reacts VERY sensitive to frequent shampooing. most of the time i just rinse out the chlorine very thoroughly, then use a spray silk conditioner that you don't rinse out. if i do wash my hair, i use a shampoo for strained and dry hair.
i know i should get around to using a cap, but i just hate the feeling.
"Our way is not soft grass, it's a mountain path with lots of rocks. but it goes upward, forward, toward the sun." *Dr. Ruth Westheimer