when you post such lovely thoughts that make you think we would never toss you off . Heck we wouldnt toss you off for anything . It made me think of the way i did things many years ago. I know i am not the same as i once was .
sugarsmom2 donna wva
current weight: 221.0
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We would never kick you off for such a lovely post!
There is much more to health than telling yourself what not to eat. The best decision that my wife and I have made was buying our house and moving to a smaller town that was close enough to my work that I can walk or ride my bike to work every day. We also have a health food store, farmers market, park, library, and grocery store close enough for the bikes. Of course the down side to all those amenities is that the property tax is sky high, but the schools are great and I guess you do get what you pay for. We have lived here 15 years now and even with all the walking and bike riding I managed to gain 35 pounds in my 40's. It was finding Spark People and watching what I eat and adding more strenuous exercise that has allowed me to lose the weight. At 50 I am in better shape than I was when I was in the Army during my 20's.
I've found without question that the best way to lead others to a more plant-based diet is by example - to lead with your fork, not your mouth. ~Bernie Wilke
I have really enjoyed reading all the replies to my original post. I would love to network with others who are trying to regain a sense of balance and well-being. I am out in California this week and today was in Sonoma eating lunch and just LOVING the spectacular ingredients in my arugula, roasted pear and chicory salad - and the best part is that because I am remembering to "be kind to myself", I focused on having a fabulous lunch, knowing that would mean a very very light dinner. Just being able to sit outside and breathe in the great crisp air with the sun on my back was a huge stress reliever.
Thanks to all for sharing your thoughts. For the rest of February, I am focusing on: a) walking with a purpose (getting to a store, taking photography, commuting, just out to browse) b) trying to get good at eating til I am starting to feel full - and then STOPPING. What was that think I read once about how certain cultures eat until they are 80% full, period. The tricky part there is paying enough attention to your body so you can hear it saying HEY I AM GETTiNG FULL and not plowing forward and eating OVER its voice.
I feel very grateful for all the opportunities I am given every day to live my life to the fullest.
Love this post Eastfalls. You recognize that your whole lifestyle changed and became more sedentary and you have to work now to compensate for that. A similar thing happened to me when I moved to college. I had to focus on studying (school had previously always been "easy" for me) and that meant a lot of time in the library and at a computer. I was used to being on dance team, and drama club, constantly on the move. I gained 25 pounds my freshman year of college. From there, I have yo-yo'd, depending on where I put myself as a priority. When I'm focused on work/school/family, I always gain weight, because I don't make time for myself to exercise and cook healthy meals. But when I successfully lose weight, it's never because I obsess about what I'm eating or how many calories I'm burning. It's more organic than that. Over time, I just make myself a priority, and get into a mindset that every choice I make affects me. If I skip breakfast because I'm running late for work and the kids are demanding my attention, it affects me. If I get a cheeseburger instead of a salad at lunch because it's faster to eat one-handed in the car, it affects me. If I skip my "bike time" because the baby is teething and whiny, it affects me. When I start thinking about these things, and making better choices naturally, I get healthier. SP is GREAT to get me back into healthy habits, but eventually I think they want us to "graduate" and carry our good habits forward without needing points, trophies and accountability buddies. Eventually, it has to become second-nature. Like when you walked everywhere just to get from A to B and didn't have to think "I have to walk one more bus stop to get my points for the day!" I hope all of us get to that point one day. Thanks for the post, and for making me think about this.
Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.
After reading your post, I have to agree with you. Our overall lifestyle is a major contributor to our societys' collective trend toward obesity. Good for you for identifying this and implementing changes to move toward a more healthy lifestyle!
I recently left my job in the corporate world and find that to be a major improvement for my lifestyle as well! I was like a rat on a treadmill while there & had to adjust the rest of my life around the unpredictable demands of my job. This meant fast food, no time to cook healthy meals, get to the gym or enjoy life! Now, I'm poor and much happier! :D
Since you love photography & love to wander, you may enjoy street photography! Perhaps you are already pursuing this? I often go downtown with a camera on my shoulder and walk for exercise and make pics as I go.
Great post, and so true! I always lose weight on vacation, because I usually go to destinations in Europe or South America, and don't rent a car. When I'm not beholden to anyone's schedule but my own, there's tons of time to just walk around and be amazed, but it doesn't take me long to get back into my routine of piling errands on top of errands, for myself and others, when I get home...
Wise words and food for thought!
"I will run, until there's no one left to run. I will love, until there's no one else to love." - The Dears
current weight: 222.0
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Thanks Eastfalls. This was a great post. I am having my own "ahah" moment about taking care of myself, as well. Your words about caring for your unborn child by feeding yourself right really rang true for me.
I can only guess why the title, this group is about a different topic and perhaps you want to duplicate this as a blog entry and let others benefit from it as well as in a motivational message board. What you seem to have found is a way to deal with your new lifestyle, you found new rewards which motivate you so you can be yourself, in a nutshell.
Thank you for posting.
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In my small rural town it's impossible to get out and walk when the weather permits. Neighbors will stop you consistantly and ask you to come in for coffee...........LOL I was told to wear headphones/music.................LOL that did not work because they would get right in front of you. Needless to say it's a very sweet, friendly place to live. I do better since I got my wii and wii fit plus for Christmas.
However, I have difficulty walking like that. In our small city there is no place like that to walk too. We have a "Y" but the one here doesn't take our insurance and being on fixed-income, I can't afford it anyway!
Right now, with the winter weather, it would be impossible. Glad you are able to do it.
I have an addition to sugar, and am SF..
"All things work together for the good of those who love the Lord, and are called according to His purpose."
I wonder sometimes if we aren't causing more problems for ourselves weight-wise and fitness-wise by obsessing and focusing on weight as in pounds and fitness as in exercise.
Let me explain what I mean
I never had a weight problem until I was in my 40's. I was on diets as a teenager, but didn't need to be. I got into running short distances in my late 20's because I felt like it and was living with my brother who was doing it.
I didn't even have a weight issue after my daughter was born.
So what happened?
I moved from a city-based lifestyle where I walked every day. I walked to the subway. I walked home from the subway. I walked up 3 flights of steep stairs to a 3rd and 4th floor apartment. And down again. And up again. And to the market. And to the park. I was constantly walking to my favorite café and then a bookstore. Etc.
Before that, I lived abroad and walked. I had fun going to the cheese store for cheese and the bakery for fresh bread and the Saturday markets for fresh fruits and vegetables. I remember the one in Brussels where they had huge signs proclaiming the arrival of white asparagus with giant letters and exclamation points.
Before that I grew up in a small time where..... You guessed it. I walked to the store and took a bus to the closest small city where I would wander the streets and look at shops (my early indoctrination into the world of having fun doing nothing but wandering).
Then --- almost 12 years ago, I moved to a suburban location. Not because I wanted to move to the suburbs but because that is where the housing market took me. I am still in city limits but there is no bakery to walk to, no bookstore, no farmer's market, etc.
And the pounds just crept on. I lost the sense of wonderment at the world around me. I shopped in the same grocery stores that everyone else did, driving to them and then back home again.
When I started trying to lose weight a year and a half ago, I yo yo'd around because I set myself up to feel deprived. Couldn't eat this, couldn't eat that, couldnt drink this or that. Inevitably I would slip off the wagon and then I would be discouraged and remorseful and gain back every pound I had so painstakingly lost
Then I entered what Dov Seidman called The Valley of Confusion. I read a lot of books - Bittman, Pollan, the women who wrote The Happiness project and Why French Women Don't get Fat. My dad got sicker and sicker with his oral cancer and died in front of me in April. My mom got sick and I stayed with her in her from in the hospital for a week. My brother in law died of brain and lung cancer. I read and thought and started to play around with a camera and new lenses my husband bought me. Little by little I started to wake up from what seems like more than a decade of detachment from what really matters to me and what I want to do with my life
I want to be kind to myself. I haven't been. When I was pregnant with my daughter, I made every morsel and sip that went into my body COUNT!!! Why then could I do that for another human being - the baby inside me - but not myself?
I want to participate in all of life's subtle joys. You can't do that from a car. I take pictures everywhere I go and started making photo cards that I send to friends and family. I took hundreds of photos in the house at was in my family for almost 100 years before we sold it, and used them to make memory books for my mom and sisters and brothers.
I started going to different shops for different foods again. No crappy fruits at the local chain And I treat myself on Saturdays to a sunrise special combo of grapes, pineapple, strawberries and oranges smoothie that I used to tell myself was too expensive. I would buy something that cost more than that for someone else but not for myself.
If I focus on the ways to be kind to myself and appreciate as many of the incredible things around me - music, trees, flowers, bridges, movies, books, etc - I find that food and drink start to take their proper place in my world. Not something to obsess about but to enjoy in moderation and have fun finding the things that are best for me. If I am walking with my camera or driving to a small town and spending a couple of hours wandering the streets looking, I find that my exercise makes me more engaged with my world, not detached from it
Anyway, that is where I am at. I will let you know how things progress for me.
If this is helpful to anyone, I am glad I shared!!
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