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Be yourself from the start of any relationship. If you begin the relationship by putting on the front of a perfect hybrid version of you and some sort of Stepford wife, what happens when the cracks begin to show? Be yourself from day one, and your spouse will have proven that you are accepted and loved for who you really are, not who you are pretending to be.



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Have self-control today.
Know that without self-control communication can easily spin
Out of control and turn into a argument. Remember that careless words are like weapons and they do cut deep. We need self control to listen to one another. Read Proverbs 25:28.



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Day 9 - 31 Days of Prayer for Our Marriages
Looking for a husband’s version of this prayer? Click here

A young woman was troubled. After five years, her marriage wasn’t going quite the way that she hoped it would. She was a busy mom of two little ones, they were struggling financially, laundry was backed up, the dishwasher was broken, and her husband was often overtired after long days of work. It had been a while since she had “mom and dad” time and even longer since she had any time for herself.

She was discouraged.

This wasn’t what she saw growing up. For the most part her parents seemed really happy so why wasn’t she?

Sitting across from her mother one afternoon, she opened up about her problems. “Mom,” she said, “how do you and Dad do it? How have you managed to raise four kids together and stay happy all of these years?”

Pouring her daughter a cup of tea, her mom smiled at her, hung up her apron and sat down for a chat. “One thing I can tell you for sure,” she said, “when I finally leave this earth I’ll be able to say that I had a reason to smile each and every day of my marriage.”

“But how do you know that for sure,” she asked. “What if he isn’t the same man tomorrow? And what if he disappoints you?”

“Because,” her mother said, reaching out for her hand, “He doesn’t hold the key to my joy–God does. As long as I’m married I’ll find a reason to smile. And if I have to dig deep for one, that’s what I’ll do.”


The best way to show my gratitude is to accept everything, even my problems with joy. – Mother Teresa
Choosing happiness is a decision we make each and every day. And here’s the thing–it’s not merely a mood that we choose for the moment, it’s an investment we make in our future. When we bring joy into our home we’re changing the atmosphere and impacting the lives of those around us. The scary thing is however that our our ongoing attitude has the potential to either impact them in a positive or a negative way.

Numerous studies have shown that people tend to mirror other people’s behavior. Knowing this was an issue, I was hesitant about leaving a Christmas party so early last year. Unfortunately however, we had something up and had to head home. Sure enough as soon as we started getting our boots on, several people stood up, grabbed their coats and followed us to the door.

I’ve seen this same type of behavior take place in restaurants. When one person decides to order dessert others follow suit. We’re just wired that way I suppose.

I watched a youtube video once where a woman started laughing on a train. Within three minutes the entire train car was laughing and no one knew why.

This can be a good thing, when someone has a positive impact on us, but it can also be a damaging thing when we mirror the bad behavior of others.

Regardless of how people treat us, or how bad our day is going, we always have a choice to choose our mood.

Don’t get me wrong. We’ve all seen how devastating depression can be. I’m not saying that this is a cure for clinical depression. But having suffered with it, I can say that this did help me to get through some of the dark days.

A good attitude can brighten a home. And let’s not forget that a good attitude is contagious.

In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. – 1 Thessalonians 5:18

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You are loved by an almighty God,

Darlene Schacht
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What Does it Mean to be a Homemaker?
My focus here on my blog is Gospel-Centered Homemaking and so over time, I’ve received a lot of comments from women who feel like they don’t fit in this “homemaker” box. I hear comments from wives who work full time and express that they can’t wait until they stay home full time so they can finally be homemakers. Single women email me and share that “one day” they hope to be homemakers. And I have discussion after discussion with busy, stressed, overwhelmed moms that they just wish they could be “better” homemakers.

I want to challenge you to think outside the box a little when it comes to being a homemaker. I don’t think that a homemaker is something you become, but rather, something that you are.

You are a homemaker by definition. You are a homemaker if you are a woman. Whether or not you have kids. Whether or not you work outside the home. Whether or not you are married. You are a homemaker because God has designed your role to be a keeper of your home.

“And so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive, that the word of God may not be reviled.” ~ Titus 2:4-5

Managing a home, or helping your parents manage a home, is about so much more than dusting and dishes. Keeping a home takes motivation, direction, and a vision of what you want for your home.

Keeping a home means transforming four walls into a place of rest from this world. It means creating a haven for your family to slow down and focus on Christ. Creating a Gospel-Centered Home means crafting an atmosphere of Christ-likeness.



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AMEN!
Can social media harm your marriage? It may start out innocently, just reconnecting with an old friend. Then you start sharing interests and news that you haven’t told your spouse. Be cautious: Online intimacy can grow and seem more exciting than real life.




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Gayle, you sure spoke to me with this. Thank you.

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REMEMBER TO LEAD YOUR HEART!

1.TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR HEART'S CONDITION AND DIRECTION!

2. REALIZE THAT YOU HAVE CONTROL OVER WHERE YOUR HEART IS.

3. ASK GOD FOR POWER TO GUARD OR PROTECT YOUR HEART BY TAKING
IT OFF THE WRONG THINGS AND SETTING IT ON THE RIGHT THINGS.

SO LEAD YOUR HEART. HAVE A GREAT DAY. AR

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Don’t complain about anyone or anything today, even if it’s legitimate. A non-complaining/whining spouse is nicer to be around. Maybe you can hold off complaining for two days…



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Begin by talking about the solvable problem without criticism or contempt. You are trying to establish a problem solving team instead of one person trying to win.

REMEMBER IT DOESN'T MATTER WHO IS RIGHT OR WRONG.



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“Come to me, all you who labor and are overburdened, and I will give you rest.” (Mt 11:28) You may not need this scripture right now, but you’ll need it sometime. Hang on to these words of comfort when you’re feeling overwhelmed. Be Jesus’ comfort to your beloved.

The Power of Believing in Your Spouse

One of the greatest gifts you can give your mate is to believe in his or her dreams. As the pressures of life intensify, sometimes the difference between going after a dream and remaining passive is having someone say, "I believe in you!" If it's your desire to become an encouragement for your spouse, I suggest you answer two important questions.

1. What are your mate's dreams? The first step -- learn what your spouse is dreaming about. What specific things motivate him in life? What does she want to accomplish in her lifetime? During a road trip, Erin and I made a list of all the things we wanted to complete before we die. As Erin talked, I was amazed at the diversity of her dreams. I had no idea she even dreamt about some of those things. Understanding your mate's goals is a great way to deepen your intimacy.



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“For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.” (Mt 18:20) Did you gather in Jesus’ name today? Believe that Jesus is with you in your marriage, always.



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“Whoever wishes to come after me must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me.” (Mt 16:24) We never have to carry our crosses alone. Turn to Christ and allow your spouse to help you carry your cross as well.



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Parents, has your child disappointed you in some way? You need to hold him or her accountable, but that doesn’t mean you can’t welcome your child back with open arms. Can you think of any offense that is not forgivable? God can’t.



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“Someone said that a successful marriage requires partners of steel. I believe that is true. But I would add that prayer is the anvil upon which the partners in a successful marriage must be shaped. If you and your spouse follow a proper plan of prayer, God will shape you according to His desires and will make your marriage everything He wants it to be.
“What is a proper plan of prayer? It is simply a plan that helps you and your spouse consistently and fervently pray God’s will for all areas of your relationship. God loves you so much that He revealed His will for every area of your life in His Word. For your marriage to reach the highest level possible, you and your partner must know God’s will for your relationship and live accordingly. The best way to begin is to pray God’s very Word, asking Him to carry out His will in your lives” (Lee Roberts, from the book “Praying God’s Will for My Marriage”).
And that’s what we’d like to do in this Marriage Message. As we’ve said before, the principles for loving each other in marriage are the principles for living that God reveals throughout the Bible. So with that in mind, we’d like to encourage you to not only read the principles for living that are given to us in the Bible, and to live them out, but to also use them as prayer guidelines in praying for each other.

But what if you are the only one who is praying in your marriage?

“Your prayers for your marriage have power, even when you are the only one praying. That’s because the two of you are one in the eyes of God, and what one does affects the other —either for good or for bad. Of course, the power is even greater when the two of you pray together, but I don’t want to belabor that point. If you have a husband (wife) who will pray with you, consider yourself blessed. Most people don’t have that.

• Lord, please show me how to find the time to store your commands within my mind. As I turn my ear to Your wisdom, help me to apply my heart to doing things YOUR way. I know you are the giver of wisdom; help me to hear what you want me to learn even if I don’t always understand Your ways, or why you allow certain things to happen in my married life. I want to trust you with my whole heart. Please help me. I know that as I trust in You, You have promised me that You will make my paths straight. Thank You. (Based on Proverbs 2:1-6 and Proverbs 3:5-6.)



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Time Out Part 1: Ever shaken a can of soda and then opened it? Pretty messy! Emotions can be like that. Once riled up, we’re liable to say or do something “messy.” One solution: take a time out.



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Evaluate where your self-worth comes from.
With very few exceptions, we tend to base our sense of self-worth on the things that are most important to us, from careers to cars. But how often do you hear, "I am the world's luckiest husband," or "I have the best family"?

"Assess where your marriage really falls right now on your list of personal accomplishments," Patkin suggests. "Are you consistently relying on something (else), to make you feel good about yourself?"



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St. Paul exhorts us to remove all bitterness, fury, anger, shouting, abuse, and malice from our relationships. Instead cultivate kindness, compassion, and forgiveness. (Eph. 4:31-32).



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“The whole Israelite community grumbled against Moses.” (Ex 4:12) It’s tempting to grumble against one’s spouse, or even God, when things aren’t going well. An occasional grumble can be an OK way to let off steam, but try to balance it with expressions of gratitude.



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“My husband, Frank, and I have learned that our sexual union should be focused on giving rather than getting. NFP provided the environment to live this out.” – Jennifer, from Signs of Grace.



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Keeping Alive Romance and Security...

"A gardener--nurturer--has a responsibility not only to find out what's wrong with a plant, but also to do whatever is necessary to nurse it back to health. In Ephesians 5:21-33, we see this picture as a role of the husband."
From It Takes Two to Tango by Gary and Norma Smalley.



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Thank you for this. At times I feel that way.

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REMEMBER, DOING THINGS TOGETHER IS GREAT, BUT DEPENDING ON
YOUR PERSONALITY, SOME SPOUSE MAY BEGIN TO FEEL SMOTHERED.
DO YOU HAVE ENOUGH ALONE TIME?OR PERSONAL HOBBIES TO REFRESH
YOUR SPIRIT AND BRING A RENEWED YOU AND NEW IDEAS TO YOUR MARRIAGE



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Nightly phone call and prayer.

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FROM: TO LOVE, HONOR AND VACUUM

My husband likes to hang out with “the guys” after work, and he’s rarely home. I’m lonely. Is that normal?

That’s tough, isn’t it? So let me give a few quick thoughts.
My Husband Never Wants to Spend Time with Me: Thoughts on how to build your friendship
First, it is absolutely fine for men to hang out with friends.

They do need male bonding. That being said, everything should be in balance, and if he’s consistently with his friends, and he’s never with you, that’s not healthy for your relationship.
However, nagging rarely helps anything. If you complain about it, then he will feel like he’s being attacked, or that you’re pressuring him, and that could cause him to withdraw further.
Instead, ask yourself: Do WE have a good friendship?

So instead, let’s just think about the dynamics of your relationship. Often when people marry, they marry because they love each other and they want to be together. But they don’t necessarily have a really good friendship. They don’t necessarily have things that they enjoy doing together (other than sex). So, once you’re married, it’s easy to start to drift apart because you didn’t have regular things that you did together.
Guys, when they don’t have something specific planned, will then often say, “I’ll hang out with the guys, because nothing else is on at home tonight.”
So what I would recommend is that you sit down with your husband and ask what sorts of things he enjoys doing that you can do with him. Does he like to fish? Then start fishing with him (even if you don’t like to fish!). Does he like taking bike rides? Then start riding bikes together. Does he like watching sporting events? Then try going to some. Or take up a new hobby, like tennis together.
Find something that you can do, rather than just hang out at home.

If you have something specific planned, he’s more likely to come home. And if it’s something that he enjoys, all the better! Find ways to laugh together, instead of nagging him to just be home. Many men don’t want to “just be home”. They need a reason, like something that they are going to do together. Of course, that’s tricky if you have little kids, but see if you can find things to do as a family, or swap baby-sitting with another couple, so you can have some one-on-one time.
But instead of saying, “let’s do something tonight”, try saying, “let’s take a walk”, or “let’s paint the deck”, or “let’s play a game of tennis.” Be specific.
Also remember that men tend to communicate side by side, rather than face to face.

They like talking while they’re doing something. They don’t tend to like just sitting around and talking face to face, the way we women do. So the more you can find things to do, the more you’ll likely communicate. And if you start laughing and finding things to do together, he’ll probably want to be with you more.
So rather than tell him that you want him home more, or that you want him to do something that you want to do, try to find things that he enjoys doing that you can do with him, even if you have to stretch yourself or go outside of your comfort zone. The best thing that you can do for your relationship is just to learn to be friends again, so try that out!



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This says it all. Thank you.

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Biblical Submission

“Everyone knows the Apostle Paul was a male chauvinist PIG!”

Senior Editor
Major conservative evangelical Christian publisher
Editorial Dept. discussion of marriage manuscript from international speaker/author

A moment of (stunned) silence followed.

Submit.

It’s the dirty little word that packs a powerful punch in 21st Century Christian religion.

The very idea of yielding one’s will to the oversight, direction, or decisions of another is antithetical to everything taught by the current religious spirit of the age . . . actually, to the spirit of any age.

Unless Jesus is involved . . .

Then the adoration and praise songs about his sovereignty, authority, might, power, lordship are endless.

Submit to Him? No problem (we say). He’s good, righteous, just, merciful, and possesses all power and authority. There’s no qualification to be placed on the authority of Jesus and the Bride’s, the Church’s, responsibility to submit to Him.

But then there’s the ‘S’ word directed to wives about their own husbands.

Submit to him? Not so fast.

Some wives have legitimate reasons not to submit to the men they are married to but, biblically speaking, these are exceptions, not the norm . . . and that’s the critical issue.

What is normal for biblical order in Christian marriage? When it comes to reading your own mail – the parts of the Bible directed to you – do you have a normal Christian marriage?

Ephesians 5:22 could hardly be clearer. In Christian marriage, a wife submitted to her husband is normal.

Never has a simple, straightforward passage of Scripture engendered so much anger and acrimony in so many.

Which makes sense.

Nobody’s flesh is going down without a fight.

Lisa and I went to hear Elisabeth Elliot speak a few years back. To the horror of many present, she put it like this:

“I don’t submit to my husband because I want to. I don’t want to.
I don’t submit to my husband because I like to. I don’t like to.
I don’t submit to my husband because it makes me feel good. It doesn’t make me feel good.

I submit to my husband because the Scriptures command me to. I do it out of obedience to Christ.” ~ Elisabeth Elliot

Biblical submission isn’t yielding to your husband’s will. It’s embracing the order Christ established and submitting to Him.

That’s what the phrase, as unto the Lord, in Ephesians 5:22 means. Embracing biblical order in marriage is service to Christ, not subservience to your husband.

If we Christian men walked more consistently in holiness, it would be easier for wives to embrace this Scripture but, it wouldn’t change everything.

Jesus is the perfect Head of the Church, His bride. Does His perfection make the Church’s response to Him consistently holy, right, and yielded? No, because despite His perfection, we still struggle against our flesh.

And so it is in marriage. Having the perfect husband will not make you the perfect wife. God gave Lisa an imperfect husband and yet still calls her to obedience in the matter of embracing biblical order.

She is not a weak woman. Submitting to us less than ideal husbands isn’t weakness. It’s an exercise of your power to choose obedience and service to Jesus Christ.

Normal biblical marriage is a radical departure from what our flesh naturally wants and what the world says is healthy. There are many stripes, brands, and flavors of Christian-like religion to identify with. For those who aspire to normal, biblical Christian marriage, it’s not complicated, and not particularly sophisticated.

Exercise your power. Submit to your own husband (not men, just your husband) as unto the Lord – as your service to Jesus Christ.

~ Matthew
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Matt and LisaMatthew Jacobson has been in the book publishing industry for 22 years and is currently the president of Loyal Arts Literary Agency. For the last 10 years, he’s served as a teaching elder in his local Church. Matthew and his beautiful bride of 21 years, Lisa, raise their 8 children in the Pacific NW. You can join him at his blog by clicking here: MatthewLJacobson.com or find Matthew on facebook.



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“For when I am weak, then I am strong.” (2 Cor 12:10) Sometimes spouses can be a thorn in each other’s side. Annoying as this can be, it can also be a path to self-correction and humility. Name your own weaknesses and strengths.



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1) Start with Your Priorities
Pull out your list of priorities, because you need to start with what is most important in your day (and remember, this list is personal to you and your family. Don’t try to mimic your schedule to look like someone else’s!!). You need to schedule these things into your day first, before you can say yes to anything else



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This is beautiful, thank you!

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• Lord, please show me how to find the time to store your commands within my mind. As I turn my ear to Your wisdom, help me to apply my heart to doing things YOUR way. I know you are the giver of wisdom; help me to hear what you want me to learn even if I don’t always understand Your ways, or why you allow certain things to happen in my married life. I want to trust you with my whole heart. Please help me. I know that as I trust in You, You have promised me that You will make my paths straight. Thank You. (Based on Proverbs 2:1-6 and Proverbs 3:5-6.)

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Learn – and then do – what makes your spouse feel most loved.
Say you love to get gifts. So whenever you want to let your wife know that you're thinking about her, you bring home flowers, a CD, a book. Only problem is, what your wife is really craving is a nice, long hug.

"The fact is that we all feel loved in different ways," Patkin says. "Find out what makes your spouse feel the most loved. Simply ask, 'What have I done in the past that made you feel the most special?' Some people might want a date night. Others might need to be told verbally that they are the greatest.

"Then include those actions or words into your regular repertoire. You'll notice a big difference, and you'll probably find your spouse reciprocates."



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Daily Marriage Tip For June 24, 2014:
John the Baptist leapt in the womb when Mary greeted his mother, Elizabeth. What a joyful scene! Pray for couples expecting children today, and for those who await this blessing.



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emoticon Thank you Gayle. I am so blessed to know you and have you share your wisdom with me. emoticon

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Give each other the benefit of any doubts. You have built a relationship based on trust. Don't assume that your spouse is doing things for the purpose of irritating you - maybe s/he just doesn't realize something s/he does is bothering you. Let your spouse know about things that bother you without assuming the worst of him or her, and once it's out in the open give your mate time to make adjustments and corrections.

SHARON JUST CONTINUE TO PRAY FOR YOUR HUSBAND.
GOD WILL DO THE REST. YOU HAVE TO REALLY LET YOUR LOVE
FOR CHRIST SHINE THROUGH YOU. I KNOW IT GETS ROUGH. BUT GOD
IS IN THE PLAN.

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This is something that is taking my time--my husband had a difficult childhood and trust is not easy for him.

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Daily Marriage Tip For June 17, 2014:
(Reader’s Tip) The most important thing for a long and happy marriage is to be friends with your spouse. You need to have a friend who always has your back, no matter what comes up.



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Couples need to believe that, by God's power, they CAN resolve their marriage problems if both parties will really work at it.

Philippians 4:13 - I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. If we trust in ourselves we may fail. But we must believe that Jesus will provide the strength we need to please to God.



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Be yourself from the start of any relationship. If you begin the relationship by putting on the front of a perfect hybrid version of you and some sort of Stepford wife, what happens when the cracks begin to show? Be yourself from day one, and your spouse will have proven that you are accepted and loved for who you really are, not who you are pretending to be.


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Daily Marriage Tip For June 6, 2014:
Scripture tells us to “humbly regard others as more important than yourselves” (Phil 2:3). What act of humility can you practice in your marriage today?



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Daily Marriage Tip For May 27, 2014:
Rita Boeke tells of how she played a practical joke on her husband, Bob, by filling his car with balloons when he was a teacher. (Forever And A Day) Can you think of a practical joke that would bring a smile to your beloved – and not get you in trouble?



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JESUS SAID TO PRAY INSTEAD OF QUITTING (SEE LUKE 18:1)

TAKE SOME TIME TO PRAY FOR YOUR MARRIAGE
AND ASK THE LORD TO LEAD AND GUIDE YOU
ON HOW TO BE THE SPOUSE YOU NEED TO BE.
LET GOD WORK ON YOU SPOUSE!



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The Power of Believing in Your Spouse

One of the greatest gifts you can give your mate is to believe in his or her dreams. As the pressures of life intensify, sometimes the difference between going after a dream and remaining passive is having someone say, "I believe in you!" If it's your desire to become an encouragement for your spouse, I suggest you answer two important questions.

1. What are your mate's dreams? The first step -- learn what your spouse is dreaming about. What specific things motivate him in life? What does she want to accomplish in her lifetime? During a road trip, Erin and I made a list of all the things we wanted to complete before we die. As Erin talked, I was amazed at the diversity of her dreams. I had no idea she even dreamt about some of those things. Understanding your mate's goals is a great way to deepen your intimacy.



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You fill in the blank

I remember when I _____. I felt really _____. I don’t know if that’s like what you’re going through, but either way, I want to be there for you.



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THANK YOU, BUT PRAY MUCH FOR ME FOR
I AM A WORK IN PROGRESS ALSO,

Remember you are partners yet still individuals, and individuals have different opinions. Respect the opinions of your significant other. My husband and I often have differing political points of view yet we can have civilized conversations. We allow each other to explain our position, we ask each other questions, and we never, ever criticize the differing opinion.



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Thank you Gayle, I so very much needed to read this today. Thank you for being a stronger, Christ-centered leader!!

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1 John 5:14 - Be confident that, if we ask according to His will, He hears us. [Matt. 6:13; 1 Pet. 5:7]
When we have marriage problems, especially serious ones, we need to believe that God will answer prayer. If both the husband and wife are faithful Christians then they should spend much time together and individually praying for God's help with their problems.
Remember, however, that God answers according to His will. If your companion is not a Christian or is not faithful, then God will not force them to do right. He may, however, give them an opportunity to learn His will for their lives.



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Talk to each other. Find a time each day to talk about life, love, finances, the kids, family, friends, the news, politics, anything. Look each other in the eye and have a conversation.



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You Can't Lose!

This way you can't lose. Hopefully, your husband or wife will respond well to the changes you make by making some changes of his or her own. In this case you're marriage will certainly improve. But even if you're spouse doesn't join you and follow your example you'll still be better off. Any positive changes that you make and any new skills that you develop will work to increase your happiness and effectiveness not only in your marriage, but in your other relationships and activities as well.

So with this in mind, let's work on your growth. All of us have issues that we can improve on in order to be a better husband or wife. Here's a list of what I think are some of the most important characteristics of a healthy spouse. I've limited this list to things that you can do to improve your marriage regardless of whether or not your spouse participates in working on your marriage.



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Change Demands into Wants

The bottom line is that each of us are responsible for our own well-being and behavior. Of course, sacrifice and thoughtful caring for your spouse are important for your marriage. But boundaries of personal responsibility need to be maintained and expectations/demands for your spouse need to be changed into desires/requests.

If there's something important that you want your spouse to do for you then ask. But make sure that you ask without pressure, realizing that your spouse has the right to say no, even if it's disappointing to you. Instead of saying, "You shouldÖ" say "I wantÖ Can you support me with that?" And instead of saying, "Why didn't you...?" say, "Next time it would help me if you could try toÖ"

The other issue that we need to acknowledge is that it's difficult to make real and lasting changes in how we relate with others. To do it you've got to be motivated. And if you're the one who wants a better relationship then you're the one who is motivated! So don't expect your spouse to do what he or she isn't motivated to do. Instead, focus your energies on what you are responsible for and what you can control ñ your behavior!

Then as you grow and make changes talk to your spouse about what you're learning. And set an example for him or her to follow.



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Be Patient for God is at Work it may not seem like it
but if you look just at the small changes that are positive
you will see the hand of the Lord. Just put that in prayer and believe God
to do it!

III. RESPECT BIBLE AUTHORITY

A. Follow the Bible Instead of Feelings, Human Wisdom, etc.
Proverbs 3:5,6 - Trust in the Lord and let Him guide our paths. Don't lean on our own human understanding. Too often troubled couples seek sources of guidance outside the Bible.
Some folks follow psychologists, marriage counselors, etc. Others are guided by feelings. People get divorced saying, "I just don't feel anything for her (or him) anymore." But no amount of feelings can change what God's word says.

2 Timothy 3:16,17 - Scriptures provide to all good works. If solving marriage conflict is a good work, then the Bible will tell us how to do it. Other people may help, but we must reject any ideas that do not agree with the Bible.



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Thank you for this...I am praying for my husband to realize that the computer is not who he is married to.

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