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11/8/10 9:21 A

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STFY31 - I think we can only rely on our own willpower. My husband doesn't push me to drink, but of course it's so tempting for me to drink, if he is. I have found that it has to be completely up to me!! That is the hardest stuggle of all!!

***Leslie on Cape Cod***

Sometimes it's not easy to get motivated to workout or go to the gym. But when I am finished, I have NEVER once said, "Gee, I wish I didn't do that."

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11/6/10 1:39 P

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Ugh! I am so frustrated, I just wish my husband would support me on this. He knows how miserable I am at this weight and a big problem is the amount we drink. If I say I am not going to drink during the week he will come home mid week with a bottle of something. After long days fighting kids it sure is tempting. More often than not I go along with him. I just wish he wouldn't even ask and I wish I had more will power!!

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11/5/10 9:07 A

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I found this topic from 7 months ago and wanted to comment on it. My drinking over the last couple of years is directly related to my (new) husband's drinking. (See my "Introducing Myself" message.) I will never blame him or use him as an excuse that I drink, but simply put, I drink now that I'm with him, and I didn't before. We both acknowledge that we need to drink less; for both financial and health reasons, and I ALWAYS end up being the voice of reason to not "have one." He has no willpower whatsoever, so it's always up to me, and I end up being the "alcohol sheriff." If I say "let's not have another," about half the time he'll "not have one," too. My goal is for me to drink less and, as a result, guide him to drink less, along the way.

So I feel like I'm carrying the burden for two.
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Edited by: WESTCOASTKID at: 11/5/2010 (09:08)
***Leslie on Cape Cod***

Sometimes it's not easy to get motivated to workout or go to the gym. But when I am finished, I have NEVER once said, "Gee, I wish I didn't do that."

~~ELEVEN pounds in ELEVEN weeks in two thousand ELEVEN~~


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4/17/10 8:10 A

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It is hard, but it is also funny when we go out and I dont have a drink he is kinda excited because he knows how much I want to lose this weight emoticon

Yesterday is over! We can't go back and redo anything that happened...But we can make better choices today! With God's grace we have a NEW chance everyday!

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4/16/10 7:04 P

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I've got the same issue as Doobs - DH & I will have streaks of drinking, where one or the other brings home the wine, but then we'll have AF streaks. I'm not too happy when the drinking streaks last longer than the AF ones, but we're working on it.

Wishing you & yours well!

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4/14/10 4:15 P

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My DH is a bad influence on me too but sometimes I'm a bad influence on him! We've not been very good this year. Hopefully one of us will lead the other soon.

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4/14/10 1:35 P

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I too am trying to stop drinking but my husband isn't on the same track as me we don't go to the bar and drink anymore only at home, but it is everyday. I am trying not to drink every other day. He is starting to try to do it but has not been very consistant. I used to fight with him about how much he drinks and yell about it alot but it did no good so I finally made my mind up not to stress about it anymore and if he wanted to pass out on the couch every night that was now ok by me. It is hard not to drink when he goes and gets the booze I am still weak and say yeah get me something to but I am trying to stay on track with going every other day if i can. I am hoping that if he sees me do it he finally will but if not I try not to stress because he isn't and it is only making me feel bad.
We are both retired now but we are raising 3 grandkids I was hoping it was going to be the 2 of us since my kids are grown but since we have the grandkids I don't see that happening for awhile. I guess we have to hope for the best and hope our partners will see the light and try to stop drinking too.
Good Luck to you!!!

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4/14/10 12:18 P

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Has anyone had a problem with your spouse drinking a lot when you are trying to stop drinking?

I really want to stop drinking, but my husband seems to be going the opposite direction with excessive drinking on the weekends. I am tired of picking him up at the bar, fighting with him and tired, period.

I love him and want us to enjoy our time together as our kids continue to grow and leave home (just one left). He seems content to go on 6 hour drinking binges with his single buddy.

Has anyone been here? What did you do?

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