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EDELWEISS33's Photo EDELWEISS33 Posts: 1,998
4/6/14 1:14 P

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look into his diet. my friend found all kinds of food allergies in her little one. the docs didn't know or take the time. she found out through the elimination diet. within a few months, she'd figured most things out & her son was a whole different person!!! There is hope!!

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As a teacher, I have worked with many children that are ADD/ADHD and others that are just active. There is a big difference between kids that are just active and those that have ADHD. Once you learn more about it and if your son does have ADHD, you will recognize the common attributes and they should explain a lot of his behavior or struggles. The good things is that, in my experience, when the parents get a diagnosis of ADHD and start treatment, the kids make huge improvements not only academically but also emotionally and socially. I have seen miracles happen. I think it is wonderful you are looking into getting him help at a young age. Work with your pediatrician, the school and the teachers, they have many resources and they generally have your child's best interest in mind.

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1/16/11 8:59 P

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My son had the same problems. We discovered that he wasn't going to sleep until really late because his mind was running. He was also diagnosed in 4th grade with ADD. So now he takes a non-stimulant medication to help him focus and he takes an extremely low dose blood pressure med that acts like a sedative. It was amazing how well his temperament and grades improved at school. There is a survey that you can get from doctor that you take and surveys that go to the teacher to be filled out. It helps the dr. to get a better picture of the issues the child is having. I would work closely with your pediatrician, especially since a lot of ADD/ADHD meds aren't FDA approved for children under six.

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All of my children have had difficulties focusing at one point or another... school is long and boring. Preschool is alot funner. I think this has alot to do with it. As for my 6 yr old, I am pretty sure he has ADHD, I have started a reward system for all of them and when they get a smilie face for the day/ good behavior, staying focused that day,etc then they get a treat when they get home from school. My hyperactive child often gets a note home saying he wasn't following directions, or staying focused etc.. those days he doesn't get a treat. He is getting better, more smilies as the weeks progress.. he really wants that treat! Maybe implementing a reward system will help. My kindergartener was having a major issue staying focused at the beginning of this yr, and the reward system is what has helped him to do better. :-) good luck!



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9/4/10 7:16 A

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I hope your son is doing better now. How is he doing? How are all the kids doing in school for everyone since school started up again.

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3/13/09 11:31 P

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I just I would add this was the scary route because it's not accredited.

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3/13/09 11:30 P

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Hi,
I'm sure you are doing all you can. As for your district being able to diagnose him, hopefully it is possible. I had to take my second son to a regional center to be evaluated for Autism- I didn't much help from the district but great help from his teacher at the time. Anyways, my oldest had the same problem - got into K and it was a lot different from preschool. I had never been a big advocate of homeschooling, but a week home with pink eye and I saw my son's confidence build.

From that momment, I knew homeschooling would be much better for him. After trying charter schools, k12, and other homeschooling programs - I decided to take what was the "scary" route. (for me anyway) I visited California home school network websites, filed a PSA, and order the circulumns which I thought would best suite my 2 grader and Kindergartner.

I chose the Life Pac sets for all the subjects and don't regret it one bit. The Bible is included in Science, History, etc. and my second grader is has a Bible curriculum for grade 2 that he is working on.

I just thought I would throw the idea out there. I do hope everything goes well with your son.

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10/21/08 2:19 P

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Hang in there. You are doing great. Keep giving those hugs and keep Heavenly Father a big part of your parenting. I remember the days that I used to come home from IEP (Individual Educational Plan) meetings and cry for much of the afternoon. I felt like I must have been doing something wrong as a parent. But now that the kids are older and I see the progress they have made, my perspective has changed a lot. I have 4 boys. Three of them ended up needing resource help at school and interestingly enough three of them also ended up in the gifted program. Obviously, there was some overlap there. At first, that seemed so odd to me. I thought the school was just totally clueless as to what to do with my boys. But I have since found that is not uncommon. Here is one little bit of advice that I have from my experiences. When my boys needed resource help, I had to sign forms at school stating what their particular "label" was. This was necessary for various reasons (that could be a whole other discussion). Anyway, the adults involved wanted to make sure that my kids were aware of their labels so they wouldn't feel badly about their progress or something like that. I didn't feel comfortable about that because I didn't want those labels to become an excuse for not trying to improve. I had many discussions with well meaning educators concerned about my boys self esteem, etc. They were worried what my boys would think when they got pulled out for help or didn't do as well. This was my philosophy: I told my boys that everyone learns differently and that we were helping them figure out the best way that they learned so that they could figure out how to best use the skills and talents (and challenges) that Heavenly Father had given them. And as long as they tried their best Heavenly Father would be pleased with them and so would I. I am happy to tell you that my boys have grown through many of their challenges. My oldest just returned from a mission in Honduras and is in college studying to be a high school teacher. My second is having wonderful experiences on his mission in Colorado. My third is in high school taking AP classes and doing quite well. My fourth is in middle school, has finally become an independent reader, and is getting good grades. Has it always been easy? No way. Has the efforts and prayers been worth it? Absolutely! They have each overcome their obstacles at differents rates and in different ways. But I am convinced that if you keep loving them, keep working with them, and keep Heavenly Father on your team, you will find success with your son and you may even be surprised at what you decide is the biggest success. My thoughts are with you. But do know there can and will be a bright side at the other end.

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10/21/08 1:30 P

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Than you Kingloser...

And you are right, mothers get depressed after hearing nothing but negative comments about their sons. It has only been a couple of months since my son started school and I feel it.

I love my son so much and I want to help him. When I was young, I hated going to school, I don't want my son to feel that way.
So ever night before we do homework we pray to Heavenly Father for help... I always hugh him and tell him I love him so much, that he is very smart and that the only thing that matters is that he is trying.

Sometimes you think you are the only one that is going thru something...

Thanks for sharing your experiences with me, it helps me to know that what I've doing is the right thing to do. And that I'm not crazy...

Thank you all so much....

Monse

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My son had problems in school until he was in 5th grade. I had teachers tell me ADHD with out the H(hyperactivity). I took him to the doctor and had him evaluated both through our doctors and through the school. It was very educating because they did educate me more when I took him to the doctors for evaluation and they made us (my husband and I) take classes about dealing with ADHD. I really began to believe that there was something wrong with my son and even took it very personally. That actually is very normal. Did you know that the mothers of ADHD children are more likely to be depressed. No wonder, with all of the negative feed back they get!

When my son was in 5th grade his teacher saw something no other teacher saw in him. She told me he was the most creative writer in the class. My chin hit the floor because up until then I had heard he was way behind in writing. We thought he was disgraphic (unable to write). She told us he was top of the class in math. We weren't too surprised to hear that because he had been good with math but the teachers had a hard time dealing with him because he always got to the right answer but in a different way than what they taught. She had him tested for gate. He turned out to be a gate student.

A lot of times teachers have problems with children who don't learn the same way and at the same rate as the other children. They aren't cut from the same cookie cutter and don't fit in the same mold. They may be late bloomers anyway. It is the schools responsibility to adapt to your son and not your son's responsibility to adapt to the teacher. Yes, there are other children in the class and they can't focus only on your son but if he doesn't learn in the same way as the other children you, his best advocate can stand up and request the help he needs not to be "left behind."

Remember one more thing. Heavenly Father made your son the way he is for a reason that we don't understand and He loves him like no one else can. You too know how special he is. Don't let what others say to you about him make you forget that he is a very special and loved child of Heavenly Father and you. Help him to learn in the way he was made to learn without making him feel he doesn't make the standards of others. Keep teaching him in the way he learns best. Keep encouraging him to be the wonderful young man he is and striving to be his best. You may have a few hard years. He may come around in a few years but you will be surprised at how far he can come if you prayerfully figure out what is best for him and remember that the schools aren't always right.

B.

"Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are but princesses that are waiting to see us act just once with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything terrible is in its deepest essence, something helpless that needs our love." -Rainer Maria Rilke



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10/20/08 1:44 P

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Thank you guys...i'll keep you posted....

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First of all, don't panic. Keep loving your son and encouraging him in all of the things he is doing right and doing well. I have found that my kids sometimes responded much better to certain teachers and teaching styles and not as well to others. Don't ignore the teachers concerns, but don't go crazy worrying about it either. One of the teacher's that one of my sons had was constantly telling me about how my son couldn't concentrate, couldn't sit still, wasn't learning things like he should, and how much he'd benefit from being on medication. I was skeptical, because although he was struggling to learn to read, he had had other teachers that described him as bright, curious, and very intelligent. We had him evaluated, but I was grateful for a doctor who refused to put a label on him and medicate him. (Some kids may need medication, but I don't think it was the best answer in my son's case). We kept working with him on reading and even started practicing sitting still at home. I would read to him any book that he chose, and his job was to sit still - we would do that for a 1/2 hour every day and I think it helped. Anyway, to make a long story short. He ended up graduating from high school with an A average and did just fine his first year in college. It can be scary and intimidating when a teacher tells you your child has a "problem", but don't panic. Just keep loving them and work a little bit each day on whatever the challenge is and the results will pay off - kind of like SparkPeople and making small good choices each day will pay off in better health. Good luck and let us know how things go and if you continue to have questions. I'm sure that there are several of us who have been there before. And believe me, it's not as bad looking at it from the other end - when they have grown up and are doing OK. You'll get there, too.

Edited by: SONDRAELLIOTT at: 10/20/2008 (13:25)
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I agree with EXMISH. Talk to the district and see what they can do to get him tested. My husband was diagnosed with it in High School, but he had it since he was in Kindergarten.

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My son had similar issues when he started kindergarten -- where he had nothing like that in preschool. That ironed itself out after the first month or so -- so it could be that your son is just still adjusting to school. Some of it may be the personality of the teacher, the structure of the classroom, or the fact that kindergarten has more demands than preschool.

Your school district should be able to evaluate him for ADHD -- call your school and ask to talk to the director of special education and s/he can help you know how to proceed from there. :)

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Good morning sisters....

I have a 5 year old son who is in kindergarten, his teacher has talked to me a couple of times, because he is having a little bit of problems concentrating. He never had these type of problems in preschool. I took him to the dr. to make sure nothing else was going on with him, and everything seems to be ok. The next step is to take him to get evaluated for ADHD. How can I help my son....

Thank you....

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