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4/1/11 11:10 A

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Wow. Last night I had to use number 16. Resolve anger in relationships before the sun goes down (Ephesians 4:26; Matthew 5:23-24).

My son(who has brain damage) was really working on my nerves the past couple days. Last night at 8:15 pm someone pulls in the driveway and it is this girl and her baby- coming to visit! Okay- we have a rule in our house- copmany comes during the day- not at night because at 9 or so I like to get in my pajamas, relax and we go to bed early. SO I am annoyed but didn't say anything, I was trying to be polite. Supposedly she was here to look at his truck that is for sale-how do you look at a truck for sale in the dark I don't know- but that was the stroty. Then they sat in the livingroom. My daughter(18) said "Hey, Jon, when did you drive the truck in the livingroom! But he still didn't understand that she was being wise to him- and the girl didn't get it either.
Anyway- at 9:30, the baby is crying (no bottle or diaperbg ever appeared) and I am getting madder. I NEVER had my children out that late socializing -especially on cold, rainy and dark nights! Finally after my husband giving several hints to my son and then coming flat out and saying it was time for company to leave(10 pm) this girl leaves. So then we had a discussion with my son on how and why it was not appropriate for this girl to be here that late all alone with her baby at a strangers house - she had called my son about the truck after seeing the ad on the internet and liked his voice and wanted to meet him! Okay- does this sound like disaster to anyone!!! We were up until about 12 o'clock. He was mad at us so we had to explain that we were not trying to be mean, we were trying to keep him safe- this girl is a stranger and who knows what she was really up to- like since she has a newborn where is the father? Outside waiting to steal the truck or waiting to come back and get it- in society now who knows- something just seems off with it.

~~TAMMY

The only way to discover the limits of the possible is to go beyond them into the impossible.
Arthur C. Clarke

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3/31/11 9:41 P

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Hi there ladies. Thanks for the goodie.. emoticon

Welcome, welcome to the Team.

Hugs Wispy.

"Give thanks for everything until you are absolutely sure it is not a blessing in disguise." Eastern Proverb.
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3/31/11 5:37 P

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What do you mean all is 5 each. The goodies ar anywhere from 5 to like 10,000 points to spend. I use them in my team Let's get motivated.
Also I sent you a invitation to join the team Aspire & Inspire. I hope you get it- I might have spelled your user name wrong- since my real name is Tamara- I could not remember if you spelled your name like me or used Tamra - so if you do not get the invitation- check out the A & I team. We are about to start the April challenge. It is so much fun. Anyone in the team can choose to join the challenge(or not to). If they choose to join, they all the people who join are divided into teams- then the teams compete against each other all month in mini challenges- it's fun stuff- like posting on each others page, reading blogs, creating a fun SP page, etc- nothing to hard! I thought since you were new I 'd tell you about it.

~~TAMMY

The only way to discover the limits of the possible is to go beyond them into the impossible.
Arthur C. Clarke

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3/31/11 4:48 P

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You must have read my mind, I saw that but we have only 500 points and all is 5 each but I will be brave and try it out! You so rock....

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3/31/11 4:09 P

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sorry I just got this post- and I got the email from you first. So sorry. I am behind in my spark mails. I liked the team email. Also- just so you know(as you might already know this) Each month the team gets goodie points that the leaders can give out to ANYONE in the team. All the points need to be used during the month or they are lost. So Since it is the last of the month- any points left at the end of today will be lost and tomorrow the team will get more. Just an FYI!

~~TAMMY

The only way to discover the limits of the possible is to go beyond them into the impossible.
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3/29/11 12:13 P

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I was thinking the same. My husband always reminds me "Word quota". Good idea on the email that I will have to figure out unless you know the quick way of doing that????

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3/28/11 10:06 P

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great list- a little long- but I like it.

P.S. Why don't you send out a team email announcing that you are going to be leading the team! Just a thought!

~~TAMMY

The only way to discover the limits of the possible is to go beyond them into the impossible.
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3/28/11 7:09 P

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This helped me when I found myself triggered by the past some call it (Post traumatic stress disorder) I call it both kids got married with in a year of each other and I had to see family that brought bitterness up that I didn't resolve. So a good friend helped me through and gave me the following which is why I'm here:

1. Get a complete physical checkup. Luke was a physician. Only take medicine when advised by a physician. Avoid the use of alcohol, drugs, etc. (1 Timothy 5:23).
2. Start an exercise program at least three times a week for twenty minutes. Jesus walked daily (I Corinthians 9:27).
3. Accept the fact that everyone has stress. Change your attitude about stressful or anxiety producing situations (Philippians 4:11; Hebrews 13:5; Hebrews 12:6-7).
4. Find a friend or counselor to talk with about your problems (James 5:16; Proverbs 11:14; 15:22; 24:6). Husbands don't count! Jesus had 12 friends......
5. Develop a constructive outlet for your stress (Ephesians 4:15; 1 Corinthians 9:27). Tension or stress repressed inwardly can result in sickness.
6. Have a specific procedure for dealing with problems that arise. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best (Proverbs 2:9-12).
7. Work at maintaining a balanced lifestyle and eat properly (2 Timothy 1:7).
8. Renew your mind with Scripture (Romans 12:1-2; Psalms 1:2; 2 Corinthians 10:5).
9. Have several hobbies or activities to participate in when anxiety or depression starts to set in. Paul made tents. Make a list of ten things that you will do whenever you start to get depressed.
10. Get adequate rest and sleep (Matthew 11:28-29).
11. Plan daily activities ahead of time and try to stick to your schedule even though you may not feel like it (Galatians 5:24; James 1:22; Proverbs 6:6-8).
12. Join a social group or plan activities involving other people. Participate in planned recreation activities (Galatians 6:2).
13. Set aside time daily for prayer, Bible study, and Scripture memory (2 Timothy 2:15; Psalm 119:11).
14. Attend church every week unless physically ill (Hebrews 10:25; 1 Corinthians. 16:1-2).
15. Participate in some ministry where you can help others (Ephesians 4:26; Matthew 5:23-24).
16. Resolve anger in relationships before the sun goes down (Ephesians 4:26; Matthew 5:23-24).
17. Confront your fears in an appropriate manner with courage and strength (Proverbs 3:25; Psalm 27:1).
18. Set high enough standards for your habits and behavior. Set limits for your life and learn to be assertive (Psalm 119:105; 1 Timothy 4:8; 2 Peter 1:6-7; Ecclesiastes 12:12; Proverbs 4:14-15).
19. Set realistic expectations for yourself and those around you and look at the positive aspect of circumstances (Philippians 4:8; Proverbs 3:8-9).
20. Avoid any substances that you may be allergic to such as corn, wheat, eggs, tomatoes, citrus, or chocolate.
21. Establish specific priorities of things to do for the day by writing them down and placing a number of importance next to them with (1) being the most important and (10) being the least important. Delegate to others what others can do.
22. Try to limit major changes in your life to reduce stress.
23. Develop a sense of humor (Proverbs 15:13; Proverbs 17:22).
24. Learn to forgive (Matthew 6:12, 14, 15).
25. Do not dwell on the past but set goals for the future and work towards them (Philippians 3:13-14; Romans 12:1-2).
26. Trust in the Lord to help you with problems that you cannot solve by yourself. Stop trying to control everyone and everything! (Proverbs 3:5-6).
27. Get up and do something constructive (James 1:22).
28. Stop assuming what others think and do, and simply ask (James 4:3). People often assume how the other person perceives of an event, what mood they are in, how they feel, the meaning of the words they use, their values (how important something is on a scale of 1 to 10), their motives, the meaning of their body language or tone of voice, how they think others will respond before given them a chance and giving them their personal preferences.


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