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12/18/07 4:54 P

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Wow you know I actually feel sorry that she thinks that way. Doesn't matter who you date or marry there are some good and some bad in every race if you watch Dr. phil or Maury or even look at your own neighbors you could see that. That is kind of childish to think that way. My own opinion and I am trying not to sit in judgement dang what a way to think!! I feel you on the smack though my hand got a little hot reading your post!

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12/18/07 4:34 P

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That had to have hurt her husband tremendously. I can imagine what went on after they got home.

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12/18/07 2:33 P

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wow. i don't know what to say. sometimes people don't think before they speak. i really feel for her husband.

 
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12/18/07 1:16 P

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In my opinion (which does not mean a thing) I believe she did not think before she spoke. She is not the first to say something a bit on the ignorant side nor will she be the last. I'm sure all who heard her say what she said gave her a whole new perspective. Next time she will think before she speaks.
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12/18/07 12:17 P

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Your friend should know that it takes two to break or make a marriage

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12/18/07 10:24 A

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LC WORKIT, do you text message a lot, cause you're always shortening your words, and that's what my children do?

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12/18/07 9:11 A

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She gave incredible insight into what is happening in her marriage with that very disrespectful statement towards her husband. In my opinion that statement was to demean her husband. I don't think it was engineered to show a her personal bias toward either race but it was to demean and demoralize her man. That is sad regardless what is happening behind close doors, except for abuse, she should never disrespect anyone in that manner.

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12/18/07 9:07 A

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I have beem married for 20years my Husband is German (white) My selection was not based on color but on my heart we moved 10yrs ago to America (michigan) and it was at that time did I really see the racisim from all sides....All men regardless of color have the potential to be a**h*#@*. If you find a great man regardless of color keep him....


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FREIDA1973's Photo FREIDA1973 Posts: 596
12/18/07 8:56 A

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I have dated white, black, and spanish and have been treated badly by all 3, and have been treated good by all three types as well. In my opinion, it just depends on the type of person. That was pretty ignorant of her to make that statement and her poor hubby. I wouldn't trade my Black man in for nothing. A friend of my has a white baby daddy and her treats her like crap, and he hardly takes care of his kids.


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12/18/07 7:33 A

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All that glitters ain't gold. She probably only see's what the Vanilla person wants her to see and knows little else about them. Anything that seems too perfect is usually "Strained" and "Fake" and it does not take long before it all falls apart. If I were her husband, I'd want to byotch smack her on both cheeks, one to the left, and follow through with another to the right because she basically just told him that he was not good enough! I am so sick of sistas with this "There ain't no good black men" nonsense because it's not true! Sistas like that really need to look at themselves and see what it is they are contributing to the fact that they remain single or date really bad guys. While most women prefer the educated, good looking, mercedes driving brotha, they could be missing out on the good looking, blue collar brother with a bank account just as big and a heart that's even bigger and who will likely treat you better and give you a good life. Should they settle? No but "The Perfect Man In a Box" is what keeps a lot of women single as hell!

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12/18/07 4:35 A

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Iv dAtd wIt men & 2 of them put hand on me & Iv dAted blak men & 1 of put hands on me now I'm mArd 2 a Filipino & he the only Filipino Iv evr bEn w/& he don't do dat so I think color ain't got nutN 2 do w/a gud man a man mAk a gud man!

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12/17/07 9:11 P

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That was not only disrespectful to her husband but it almost gives you some possible insight to the direction her marriage may be getting ready to take. If I was her husband I would have to wonder what it was she saw in me to marry me if she truly felt that way. I hope that she gets a clue before she learns a very hard lesson and regrets it.

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12/17/07 8:53 P

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I don't care what color I date. My pastor is white but if she said this in front of her husband than that was very disrespectful to him.

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12/17/07 8:16 P

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I completely understand how you feel. That had to hurt her husband to hear her say something like that. Like you I have no problem with bi-racial dating if someone prefers that. However, in my eyes there is no man finer than a brother, and if this sister feels as if a white man would treat her better she should have married one.


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12/17/07 8:00 P

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So, my husband and I were hanging out with our friends (another couple) last night... so on our way back from getting a bite to eat, she says to us, "You know, I think white men treat their wives much better than black men do!" After that, my husband turn the radio OFF and I told her to explain herself. The best she could do at that point was say a group of her friends got married around the same time and all of them had issues except the one who married a Caucasian. I could only imagine how her huband felt. I really wanted to crawl my large butt in the back seat and beat her like my mother used to. So here was my response: no my marriage is not perfect, however I wouldn't trade my hubby in for NO ONE! Given my hubby grew up in a broken home-- no father, poor, living in the ghetto-- he is doing a d*mn good job being a husband and family guy considering he really didn't know what it meant. And while I consider myself a VERY diverse person who would date anyone (not now of course)... I d*mn sure ain't training in my strong black KING for no one. She really dug herself in a hole because it didn't take long before it was three against one. And the nerve of her not only disrespecting her culture, but also HER HUSBAND! And don't get me wrong... I'm all about bi-racial couples. I think it's beautiful. I have several friends that are. My issue was the level of inconsideration she has for "all black men" and her husband (whom is a GREAT guy, I might add). I had to get this off my chest... this girl had me going last night!

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