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2/19/13 8:40 P

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All four of my kids had excellent manners when they were little, but now they often forget at home. I've always been told that they have great manners when out with others. (Thank goodness.) I don't know if it's a phase, they don't think it's "cool" or that their friends don't have them, but they get an ear full when they forget! It seems like once they get in their upper teens, here the manners come back. So maybe there is hope for all kids that were raised right, but "forget their manners" during part of their lives!!!!

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2/19/13 5:03 P

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I just saw your post and happy to say, I haven't been in your shoes......yet.....

My boys are 14, 9 and 5 and pretty appreciative. My oldest has friends tag along with us fairly regularly (one at a time) so I often find myself paying for an extra kid. They also hang out at our house often.

So far, there is only one child whom I took home VERY early. I was flabbergasted at his lack of manners ---- and telling me no when I asked him to do something ----- no one gets away with that in my house. And to make it worse, his parents are the vice principal and head coach at the highschool. They are educaters and they haven't educated their own child in respect and manners?! I was ready to tell them about his behavior at my house until I found out they work at my son's school. I don't want to anger them and then make him attend school for 4 more years with them. They could make his highschool years miserable.

After I dropped the kid off (EARLY), I talked to my son. Told him I raised him way better than that and would be horrified if he ever behaved at a friends house the way that kid behaved at mine. I also told him his friend was not welcome back until he was ready to display manners. That was months ago......we haven't seen him since.

Has anything improved in the last month since you posted this?



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1/6/13 12:58 P

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Great mines think alike SStark I told all three that they were ungrateful and that I wouldn't be taking them anywhere anymore...I was never going to take the girlfriend out again

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1/6/13 11:57 A

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I would have thought at least the girlfriend would have said thank you. I always said that to my in laws when I was dating their son. Mine are good at saying thank you for just about anything so I am pretty lucky. If I were you I wouldnt be taking them anywhere any time soon.



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I've been teaching my kids manners from day one...where does it all go to when they turn into teenagers? I'm absolutely livid right now....I just took my sons out to dinner and a movie and one my oldest wanted to take his girlfriend and of course he spends all his money like there will never be anymore so I'm paying.....where we go to a nice restaurant and then to a movie it was four or us and I spent 96 bucks on dinner plus 10 bucks on a tip so that was 106.0 then we get to the movies and that was another 42 bucks and after dinner I waited and waited to hear the words thank you from all three...not one of them said anything so I thought they will say it after the movie nope wrong again....what happen to this generation of kids that think they are entitled to have and or get anything they want without thinking twice to say thanks, thank you or I appreciate it...not my crew....now any other time I've taken them out they always say thank you...but today was the exception to the rule....and it leaves me wondering if it has anything to do with my son's girlfriend being there.....

I do know this it will be a long time before I take them out again and I'm never taking the girlfriend out again this is her second time doing this....I thought the first was just a fluke maybe she's nervous this is our first meeting or whatever I was giving her the benefit of the doubt but this is just her way...She ordered food she didn't eat and told me she thought it would be a different meal and that she was picky...So I in turn told her she can't be "picky" with someone else's money....she replied I know that....with a major attitude so you only need to be rude to me once and that's it....I don't have to date you....you're my son's problem....I'll let her open his eyes....

Anyway enough venting I'm done....WHERE ARE THE MANNERS

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