My 17 year old son has had the worst year ever. I don't know what else to do.
I caught him smoking weed at the start of the year.
I think he's stopped, he says he's stopped, but he lies sometimes.
The police have brought him back, a 2nd time for noise disturbance at a house.
Now he wants to join the NAVY.
We've gone from one extreme to the other
Encouraging good behaviour, Crying, Hugging, Shouting, Grounding him talking to others.
He's been stopped from seeing some friends that have been involved in bad decision making. He says he's not led and does things on his own. but thats worse if he knows what he's doing and still gets into trouble.
I've sat with him, supported him and shown him that we are here for him. I've shown him how much he's hurting others and even though we love him he's breaking my heart.
I don't know what else to do! He's dropped out of 6th form schooling, He's a bright kid and was on route to getting good grades. We said you don't have to go down an academic route and that there are many choices. We offered to take him to show him whats on offer ( apprenticeships, jobs, college etc. We've also given him months without our input to make his own decisions, and HE did go and get a leaflet delivery job ( he hates it and get minimal pay for walking 12miles a day). But now after Christmas he only gets 1-2 days work a week and mopes around the house or gets into more trouble.
He used to play County basketball, swim for a club and still plays guitar (having lessons) but he dropped everything. So for someone who was popular, active and healthy he's completely changed. He lies, is deceitful, hangs around the streets when not grounded and still smokes but thinks we can't smell it. WHAT MORE CAN I DO? I'm at my wits end.
Thank you guys for listening.
I have two younger teenage girls, good girls and fear that they are being influenced
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