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HOOKCHICK Posts: 143
3/11/11 9:20 A

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Thanks for commisserating, everyone! It is so frustrating, and saddening to hear your kid say, "I used to be smart, but I'm not anymore."

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3/10/11 10:15 A

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We are having this issue with both of my sons. 6th and 7th grade. So, I started harping on them about it. I continuely ask whether their homework is done and they are ready for their tests. It has helped a lot. They are starting to realize this is not just a phase for me. I expect their best. My philosophy is that you should always do your best. If that means a C then so be it, but you have to prove to me that you've tried your absolute best and that is it. Not doing homework doesn't count. Because Not doing homework is definitely not anyone's best.

We are still having trouble with one particular class for my oldest. It is a teacher he has had for two years and she tends to lose his assignments when he turns them in. We are trying to figure out what to do because he swears he did them, she swears he didn't turn them in. However, last year, he found a bunch of his papers in a stack on her desk that she was saying he had never turned in. I'm not sure what to do here, but I've told him from now on we are going to photocopy everything he does for her so that if the papers cannot be found, we have copies of what he did. That is all I can come up with.

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3/6/11 1:06 P

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My 7th grader is in the same situation. We have started to practice with him and to review his homework with him every single night. Thank you everyone for your helpful advice.

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3/6/11 12:32 P

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I sympathize with you HookChick. I'm in the same boat. My son has been in gifted n talented since 1st grade and always made A's until this year, 6th grade. He is making C's on his report card and some D's and even one F on a tests. He is okay with just passing. I can't figure out how to get him to realize he is settling for less than his best and is establishing a habit that will hurt him in the future. How do you instill self-motivation into a child who is too smart for his own good? Good luck and if I find anything that works with him I'll pass on so you can see if it helps you.

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3/5/11 1:14 A

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Olvaje I think the world of you, but if I took that tactic my daughter would flunk everything. She needs to find self motivation. For her not getting good enough grades to take honor or AP classes and watching friend do it is her motivation.

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3/4/11 12:39 P

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I have a sophomore and a senior and a senior (the second senior is a new addition to our household). With no effort there is no success. I tend to be a tough cookie and unless a teacher tells me the work really is a challenge then there is no excuse for bad grades. I have a required grade level in my home and privileges are directly tied to that grade level. I don't recommend this tactic for the faint of heart. :)

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3/4/11 10:39 A

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I go through the same stuff with my son. He has been a pretty much steady honor roll person and this year his grades are really dipping. A lot of it is the fact that he either doesn't study or doesn't know how. I had the same problem with me when I was in high school due to the fact that everything was easy and I sailed through until I hit that wall. You just have to find the happy medium for her to study. Find something that really makes it stick her mind and helps her out. As someone who taught school for the Navy, I have seen that everyone learns differently. What works for one might not work for another. She just has to find her groove and then she will do fine.

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3/3/11 6:37 P

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My daughter is also a sophomore and I understand about not living up to her potential. I took a different approach. I decided that if she was going to learn the lesson failure high school was the time. When she started high school I told her they were her grades and her decision. I still watch them and note when work seems to be missing. Her grades were okay last year and she was just missing an A-. Her friends were all qualifying for honors classes and she wasn't (they can't take AP until Junior year). This has actually pushed her to improve her grades. She knows she should be in the tougher classes and is now working harder. FYI-my daughter goes to private all girls school.

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3/3/11 5:56 P

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Isn't it hard when you know your child can do so much better, isn't it? It's hard to give advise since each child is so different. But, I can tell you about my son.

I my son's case, he is having a hard time with math because of lack of practice. In fact, my husband had a really long and loud talk with my son about math last night. My son seems to think the information will just jump into his head and he will make As on his math tests. My son is in 8th grade, but taking 9th grade algebra and, yes, it's hard. We figured practice is the only thing he is missing. He is making all As on homework, but just can't seem to get it together on his tests. But, when he spends some time working through problems over and over again, he does much better.

So, that's my story. Maybe your daughter just needs more practice. Maybe extra practice problems from teacher? It could also be just a phase she is going through. In fact my son's English teacher told me he is acting more like a teenager this semester, which might be the reason for his lack of good study habits. Not a good thing to tell a mother. LOL.


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HOOKCHICK Posts: 143
3/3/11 5:00 P

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My daughter's a sophomore, and for the first time EVER, is in danger of failing a class! She was identified gifted in kindergarten, and sailed through elementary school with straight A's. Since 6th grade she's gotten the occasional B on the report card, usually in math or science. This year, chemistry and algebra 2 are killing her! We've talked to her teachers, and had some older kids tutor her, but the grades aren't coming up like we'd like. I think her problem is she doesn't have good study skills because things have always come pretty easily to her. We've already put some restrictions on her, and are talking about serious grounding. At this point, we just don't know what else to do. Help!

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