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3/22/11 8:48 P

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Currently my 14 year old goes to bed at 9pm, and he is ok with this as he is up by 6am.

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3/21/11 2:58 P

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My almost 13 year old has a bedtime of 10:30pm but in fact she usually goes to sleep before then. I think it depends on the situation and the child. Some kids do not sleep long despite their age (my youngest is prime example, he is almost 10). He could be up late on weekends til 1am, then up by 7am.

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3/20/11 12:26 P

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10pm at the latest...as long as they can get 8 hours in. Since their school start times are later as they get older, I have adjusted. Then when we have vacation and they start staying up later and waking up later...I will start getting them up early just to keep them consistent.

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3/19/11 3:07 A

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Generally we have our 12yr old go to bed at 10pm and our 15 and 16 yr olds be in bed by 11pm. Earlier if they start having trouble getting up in the mornings for school which is about 6.45ish. No bedtime on Friday and Sat.

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3/17/11 2:35 P

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I have a 9 yr old, a 12 yr old, and a 14 yr old...Bedtime is a standard 9pm regardless of age. That's been bedtime since they were babies. I figure they all have to get up at 6 tomorrow morning, and teenagers need more sleep than the younger kids anyway. Keeps the "hey!!! no fair!!!" down to a minimum as well. emoticon

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3/16/11 10:55 A

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LOL! You believed the "I use it as an alarm clock" too!! We bought her an alarm clock!!

two younger children bed at 9, two older (13 and 15) 10-11 depending on if they are watching a show.

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3/15/11 8:35 P

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Usually 10pm, although some nights he heads to bed earlier on his own.

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3/14/11 12:30 P

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My 14 teen year old can stay up until 10pm but he usually only stays up until 9pm. I let the 17 year old self manage his bed time. My 5 & 8 year old still go to bed at 7pm for my sanity.

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3/14/11 9:56 A

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We head for bed at 9 and everyone's usually asleep by 9:15. Weekends they are on their own....

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3/13/11 10:20 P

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my 13 year old should be in bed by 930 lights off ect. but it is more like 10 every night.

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3/10/11 6:11 A

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9:30.. for one & all...

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10/29/10 3:17 P

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14 yr old DS, We modified bedtime to be 10pm S-Th, 11:00pm F/S. He plays hockey, has practice at 6:00a. He was staying awake until 10pm, but dozing with his book in hand until my husband told him just because you can stay up until doesn't mean you have to. Now at 8:00pm some nights we get a goodnight folks I am going to read. Then I find him 30 mins later curled up book open in hand.

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10/29/10 9:05 A

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We have a 12yo and a 13yo (will be 14 in December). On school nights they go to bed at 9pm, no questions, unless they have homework. During vacations, they can stay up a bit later, between 10 and 11, but half the time they fall asleep close to their normal bedtime anyway.

It's Fridays and Saturdays that cause trouble. Their father used to let them stay up until the wee hours of the morning because he works 4pm to 1-2am (they wanted him to put them to bed.) Since I've started living with them, they have a strict bedtime at 1 am max (though the 12yo often falls asleep much earlier), but I wish I could get them to bed before then! It's hard to change habits. :/

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10/29/10 8:23 A

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I am the mom of 4 kids. Three boys and one girl. My boys are ages 13 (will be 14 in Feb.) 10 and 6. My daughter is 12.

We have always had strict bedtimes for the kids. Sleep helps them tremendously. Bedtimes for my 13 year old son and 12 year old daughter is 9:30. No exception. They know that they need to start getting ready for bed by 9:15.

My 10 year old goes to bed at 8. And my 6 year old goes to bed at 7:30. My two oldest are up at 5 am. My 6 year old gets up at 7 am and my 10 year old gets up between 7 and 7:30...everyday.

We also allow no electronics to be used after 6. That includes computers. There is an exception to that in that if they have homework where the computer needs to be used.

This has worked well for us. My 13 year old son has all A's and B's. And My 12 year old daughter is in all advanced classes and will be taking some high school classes next year in the 8th grade. She has straight A's.



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10/27/10 11:23 P

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I'm on the same page as Econlady, I usually let my daughter decide when to go to bed. I learned with my older boys to pick my battles. For her it works to just let her decide when to go to bed, that whay we avoid the fight and she feels more responsible for herself.
Of course that doesn't work with every kid, but thank goodness bedtime isn't one of our issues!

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10/27/10 11:12 A

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Usually 9'ish

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10/26/10 9:32 P

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My daughter doesn't want her phone in the bedroom at night. She said someone will call at midnight and wake her up. After reading this I would not let my child have her cell in her room at bed time. The charging idea is a good one.

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10/26/10 6:50 P

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My nearly 14year old son fights me very step of the way, but it's lights out at 9:15pm unless he is doing homework. His school loves to load it on, but he aha trouble getting up in the AM. The deal is if he misses carpool, he goes to bed 15 minutes early the rest of the week. On the weekends I let him stay up until around 10:00. He's really a good,boy, even on the math team, and yearbook photographer, so I am trying to make sure he gets his much need rest.

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10/26/10 5:36 P

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My daughter is 13 and I like her to be in bed by 10:00 p.m. at the latest. There are nights she's still straggling along after that trying to get things ready for the next day, (a.k.a. dawdling to avoid going to bed.) She doesn't have a cell phone yet so I don't have to worry about any of that stuff. She does fairly well getting herself up by 6:30 a.m. to get ready for the bus, so as long as she's able to do that, her grades are good and she's not draggin' tail, I'm not going to pick a fight about a strict 10 p.m. bedtime.

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10/26/10 4:25 P

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Personally, I would buy a separate alarm clock and take the phone at bedtime. Fortunately it hasn't been a problem here too much. I have taken the phone a few times though so they know I mean business! Good luck!

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10/26/10 4:19 P

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9:30 - 10 on school nights. Need suggestion for her to quit texting after that though. She uses her phone for an alarm. Not that it does any good most of the time...LOL.


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10/26/10 11:23 A

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For years I was strct 8pm bedtime, they might not have to be asleep but they had to be in their rooms. This was as much for me to be "off duty" as anything. This year there are nights when we aren't even home until 9:30pm or so. I usually let her decide when to go to bed so she seems to be heading in around 10 or 11pm.

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10/25/10 10:18 P

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Jek, we did that too with my daughter.

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10/25/10 10:16 P

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Holly, Mine is the SAME way. Full of attitude.

Edited by: AMANDA_AGAIN at: 10/25/2010 (22:17)
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10/24/10 2:44 P

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Something we discovered that has helped with bedtime issues for our 16 and 14 y.o. sons is enforcing them having to plug in their cellphones to our central charging station by 10:00 each night except on weekends. We found out they were texting late into the night. Once, I went to wake up my 14 y.o. and he was asleep with his phone in his hand!!

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10/24/10 11:22 A

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My daughter turns 15 in a month. She is a sophmore with a heavy load at an all girls college prep school. She is a good kid, so I give her the room to decide when it is time to go to bed. Most school days she goes to bed around 9, since she gets up at 5am. I only mention bed time if I think she is up too late watching TV. I like to let her decide, because she needs to learn how to take care of herself. As long as she is responsible I will give her the room.

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My daughter goes to bed at 11 by force. I know most nights she reads and doesn't turn off the lights. When I tell her it would by easier to get up and ready for school if she go to bed just 15 minutes earlier, I get told that is not going to happen.

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10/20/10 11:59 P

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My 17, 14, 13, and 12 year old girls wake up at 5am (they like to pretty themselves up), so they actually start getting ready for bed at 8:45, they shower, read for awhile, I'm usually the one to turn off the lights at around 9:30, they're dozing off in their books at this time. At 10, they are sound asleep. Whats weird is that on Friday nights they have this extra energy and usually go to sleep close to midnight, Saturday too, but once Sunday rolls around they always get back into their routine. emoticon

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10/20/10 10:47 P

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My son is 15 and a complete night owl. I have him in bed by 10:30pm, but he usually is staying awake until 11:00 sometimes until midnight. He doesn't have to be at school until 8:45 though.

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10/20/10 1:20 P

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Mine is 15 - lights out at 10pm... unless of course there is overload of homework (not a lot of times) If he seems overly tired one day and crappy or did not do good at school he has to go to bed at 9pm with lights out.

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10/20/10 12:22 A

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My 13yo DD has to be in bed by 10pm, but we make sure that she is not online after 9pm. I think kids need that break between all the electronic stimulation and a restful period of sleep. She can do whatever she wants (other than computer) from 9pm to 10pm. After 10pm she has to be in bed, but we are not strict with "lights out." She has always been pretty decent about getting up in the morning though, so it's easy to let her figure out her own bed time.

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10/19/10 4:44 P

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My 14 year old has to go to her room at 9:30 but turn lights out at 10. I think she's stays up later though because she is always tired in the morning!

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I have a 17, 15, and 10 year old. They are all schooled at home with an on-line charter school. The older two are in high school so they actually have scheduled classes when they are on the same time as the teacher and x number of kids. The 15 yo has 8:30am classes most days, the 17 yo only one day a week. The 10 yo works more independently and with me. So, none of my kids have to get up early for the school bus. We have always sent them upstairs at 9:00, lights supposed to be out by 10. They have that hour to read. The 17 yo is a night owl and usually doesn't get to sleep until after midnight but that's his problem! He's old enough to deal with it. The 15 and 10 yo share a room. They are both willing to have lights out by 10. The 15 yo not so much of a night owl and the 10 year old is too young, but I'm afraid he may end up being the same as the oldest. They come by it honestly - I'd rather stay up until 2am and not get out of bed until about 10am!

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10/19/10 4:33 P

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I was just curious. DS is supposed to be in bed by 10 but he's been trying to push it by only heading upstairs at 10, which means he still has to get ready for bed (asthma med, tooth brushing, changing to pjs). I'm sure you get the idea... And then sometimes he "remembers" he should take a shower at 9:55! He wakes up at 6:20 AM so I certainly don't want him going to bed any LATER than that, but I"m considering pushing him back to 9:30...

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10/19/10 3:55 P

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My oldest will not be 14 until January. He usually gives me no problem whenever I tell him lights out because he gets up so early. Sometimes he even goes to bed without being told. If he is still up at 9:30 I tell him it is time to turn in. emoticon

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Our 14 year old is a night owl and would stay up late if we would let her. The youngest (11, going on 12 in Dec) goes to bed at 8:30 (sometimes earlier if she feels that she's tired or has a big day the next day) and that is fine because she is still in elementary school. But once our oldest hit middle school last year we said she could stay up until 9. So she still gets to stay up until 9, unless her grades are poor, and then we make her go to bed earlier.

Thing is, she doesn't go to school until 9 and doesn't get out until 4:20. So that can make it a bit tough.

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my daughter(13) is always in bed by 10 on school nights. i don't even usually have to say anything..cause she's tired!lol but sometimes, like if she's on the phone, i'll tell her ''you need to get off the phone. it's getting late.''

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We actually have a real, live, fourteen year old. Her bedtime is dictated by her activities. She's homeschooled, but there are days she has to be up by 5:30 for Tae Kwon Do workouts. On those occasions, she usually goes to bed around 8:30 or 9:00. Three nights a week, she has evening classes, and doesn't eat dinner till nine, so her bedtime is later. She decides for herself. OTOH, she sleeps like a rock, which I envy. emoticon

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Bedtime for both my kids use to be 9 pm. But now we let my daughter dictate her own bed time. She is 13 going to be 14 in March. She is a good student, has good management time skills, has no trouble getting up in the morning and always ready for whatever before time, etc. She gets this privilege. She is not one to take advantage and stay up till two in the morning either. So we trust her and let he make her own decision. If she wasn't like this then we would do the other. My son even though this year he is doing really well in a lot of areas and soon could do what he wants he has trouble getting up in the morning still. So even though he is older there is restrictions on him. Also he would possibly take advantage and stay up later then what would be reasonable for his body the next day. To me it all depends on the child. Its called growing up and being responsible when you do that then we let allowance and let you make your own decisions.

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My daughter was usually in bed by 10 pm when she was 14. Doesn't mean she was asleep but she was in bed with lights off.

No one need live a minute longer as he is, because the Creator endowed us with the ability to change ourselves.” - J.C. Penney

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My 12 year old is supposed to be in the bed by 9pm on a school night but because of the large amount of homework she has it is 10, 10:30, and 11pm before she gets to sleep. And we have to be up by 5am to make it to the bus where I work.

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Curious: What time is/was your 14-year-old's bedtime/lights out?

When the blues whomp you up on the side of the head, throw them to the floor and kick them out the door... -- the B'52s


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