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9/18/12 8:21 P

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I also was dealing with this issue. My daughter is 10 and not super active but gives 110% with whatever she does be it softball volleyball or an exercise video. She is built like me...not ever gonna be small tallest in her class and built solid. She has a great self esteem and is trying to be healthier. She says we need to find the middle mom. We don't want to be too skinny but we cant be unhealthy fat either. I wish I had her outlook at that age it may have changed my entire perspective on eating an exercising along the way. emoticon She definately helps motivate me these days!!

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9/18/12 3:27 P

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I was completely blind to how much my bad habits (eating out and sedentary lifestyle) were affecting my daughter. Once I saw reality for what it was for both of us, I found ways to motivate her (and me!).. she is one of those kids that says "I'd like to try gymnastics" this week, and then martial arts the next. So, between "trial periods" at the actual businesses and kids' classes offered by the local community college, we've really increased her levels of physical activity. We're also working together by doing more hiking, bike riding, walking, etc together, but admittedly she doesn't enjoy walking around the neighborhood as much as I do :) Key for her enjoyment of it was finding noncompetitive activities that she could be successful doing. (She hated tball because she couldn't run as fast causing negative comments from the other players and parents). I also just explained to my daughter that it's not about weight or size.. it's about health and us working together so we're all healthy.

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9/18/12 9:42 A

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@ AmyFrogg44- Check into up comming sports and see if he is interested in any of them, my kids(7,9,11,13,16) wrestle durring the winter, but inbetween there are usually other shorter programs. My 11 year old like to play volley ball( his school has a 4 week program) right after Little Gridders Football ends. You could also see if he would like to just take a short walk each day and eventually it will get easier for him and next thing you know he could be jogging each day. Hope thins give you some ideas, good, luck!

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9/17/12 6:11 A

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My son is playing soccer. He gained weight over the summer. He loves the outdoors. We have been practicing soccer in the evenings in our front yard. He rode his bike up and down the street yesterday while we were trimming hedges.

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9/13/12 2:01 P

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my oldest daughter gets nervous also. She is shy and I think she is afraid to try new things sometimes. Then my 4 year old daughter and 2 year old son have no problems being social. They are not shy, they love to talk to people. I think that might be why they want to do sports and why my 10 year old doesn't. I played softball for 9 years and loved it. I have asked my daughter to try it and she refuses. i think she might like it.

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I think both of mine would be great at gymnastics, but they both say no, too. My son climbs poles anywhere he sees them and does chin ups so he can do get strong to do a trick he saw on the Olympics! My daughter used to do back bends and splits. She took a night class once and got kind of scared away from the "no serious" kids. She gets nervous a lot.

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9/13/12 1:52 P

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My kids don't seem to want to do it either. My daughter is a sideline girl. She enjoys Brownies (the group and the treat :) ) We finally got her into walking to train for our big trip to Disney. She doesn't mind doing that. My son has always been a runner. He would run in circles in the living room. However, he doesn't want to do soccer, he tried baseball for 2 years and now says "no thanks". I only did some Girl Scouts and did Poms from about 6th grade to college. I love dancing, but my daughter isn't as good and so so won't try. I know she has rhythm, but she sees mom and it makes her nervous so she won't try or practice to do better. She is 8 1/2 and he is 7.

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9/13/12 1:46 P

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my daughter has no interest in team sports, in fact I've asked her and infactically says no.
My 4 year would like to do gymnastics, but money wise it is not an option right now.
I think being more active in general is healthy especially if you can share that with your children. we go on walks all the time. if we need something from the store that is 1 mile away, we walk. it keeps us close, but we are exercising too.

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9/13/12 1:42 P

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I get alot of flack from other Mom's about my daughters not wanting to do all the organized sports and compettive things. We are getting more and more active as a whole family as I have finally and seriously embarked on my wieght loss journey. We have always been a close knit family and I suspect they just are not team sports kinda kids.At first it bothered me bacuse I spent so much of my youth and early adulthood playing team sports, and really thought it was the way to go. I see that for them it isn't and I am ok with it now.

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I voted against telling my daughter that she needed to lose weight. she is fairly active and she seems to pay more attention to her diet. My sister in law when we were at a family gathering, told her daughter who is 8 that she was not allowed some brownie due to the fact she was on diet. I was in shock. my daughter heard this and asked me about it. she asked me what a diet was. I just told her that a diet is when you deny yourself certain foods in order to lose weight. this also gave me the opportunity to offer advice. I explained that diets don't work. we must change our eating habits. Less junk food, more vegetables and fruit. I talked about lean proteins, fiber, good carbs, bad carbs. she also asked me about snacks and junk food. I told her that in moderation, I dont' see a problem with it. Letting yourself eat some treats to me is not a bad idea. This makes gets foods away from good or bad foods.
I also said that being more active will make everyone feel better. when i walk, she rides her bike now. I find that after school, she does her homework and now is out runing in the woods, walks to the creek with her friends. she is outside and playing around instead of sitting around. I was glad that she did hear my sister in law saying this. it was perfect opportunity for my daughter to learn the right way. she hasn't gained anymore weight, I don't think she has lost any either. She is maintaining and nobody thinks she is fat. She only has a belly, and that might be due to her coming years hitting puberty.
I dont' buy a lot of junk food to bring to the house, but I do buy 2-3 things that my kids share for the week. Once they are gone, they are gone and I do not buy them more.

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9/13/12 1:28 P

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Welcome to Sparkpeople!! It is an amazing place.

Yep, I had to send the Nutella with my husband to work because I was binging on it. I won't allow anyone to buy it again. I ate it with everything after dinner when the kids were in bed. I don't like it when my husband has cookies and candy because if it's there they want it and how do you explain that they can't have it when daddy eats some after every meal. Yes, he is bigger and works out, but he also ate twice as much food as they did (at least and snacks), he doesn't measure either.

Yep, I would rather just not have it there and if I want something as a treat, have to make it or go get it once in a while.

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Thanks so much for the reminder about If you Don't Buy it they won't eat it. I am reasonably new on this journey, (lost about 20 lb.s in last 2 months), but it has been hard. My husband really needs to join me, but he just hasn;t yet, our 10 year old is not overweight yet, but is far to cavalier about her health, and the 8 year old is very overwieght. In the last two months I have found her sneaking food and hiding food. I am devastated. I am worried. I feel guily. The list of unpleasant feelings could on much longer. I do not want to raise a little girl who is afraid of food or me. On a positive note, I just got a good deal on a gym membership, and it is within walking distance, (just over a mile) and she loves to go with me. She is allowed to swim without me there now that she is 8 and she told me last night she likes it when she and I get up early and walk there with out big sissy and "work out" together.
I think I will like this SparkPeople thing...
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9/11/12 2:36 P

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My opinion on this topic is rather simple, don't tell your nine year old she needs to lose weight. Instead, do things with your kids that will encourage a healthy weight. Play an active game with her/him.Keep nutritious food in the house.

Do this for more reasons than just their weight. Do it because you love them and you want to spend time with them. Do it because you want what is best for them. Do it because all kids love to play. Do it because it shows an interest in them. Not sure what to play? Think of what you liked to play when you were a kid... Grounders, Tag, Mother may I, Follow the leader, Red Rover, What time is it Mr. Wolf, Octopus, flag foot ball, basketball, soccer, dancing, bike ride to the store instead of drive, go skating, skiing or just go to the park. If T.V. and video games aren't an option, kids will find better things to do.

PLAY. It is a concept we forget when we become adults, our bodies were made to move, so moving them SHOULDN'T feel like work. I don't know about you guys, but when I play with my kids, I feel younger, healthier and happier. We laugh, we have something in common, and my kids are more likely to talk to me about what is going on in their life.

As far as diet goes, you are the parent, you control your kids food, if you don't buy it, they don't eat it. Simple as that.
So to recap. PLAY with your kids, and BUY healthy food. Weight is just a number on a scale, and it is not something for youngsters to feel concerned about. Fun however, is something everyone needs. The Family that plays together, stays together.

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9/11/12 2:32 P

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I have a soon-to-be stepson that is larger. As in he is already 5'4" and wears a men's shoe size 10.5! However he aslo has a lot of baby chub. He is heavier than all the other children at his school. We have checked with his doctor and he is not unhealthy and is as strong as an ox. However, I have noticed that weight is creeping up on him and he is very sensitive and self-conscious. I have seen baby pictures and he has always been this way. But I see it affecting him now. Emotional outbursts, and the hurt when other kids don't want to hang out with him or race him and call him names. I have only been in the picture for a little over a year. I want to talk to him about portion control, emotional eating, and cardio. (he is strong but has trouble running any type of distance). He did go out for little league football and is excelling at it! But it ends in a month and a half...I need to find something else to replace that activity. HELP? Please?

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9/11/12 3:00 A

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@GJIDEOFOR - the bursts during commercial breaks is a great idea! Thanks for your insight. I think you've taken a great approach to the type of mind-changing that's required in the kids.

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While swimsuit shopping in the Spring, my girlfriend explained to my daughter that "big girls like can't wear bikini's like their skinny girlfriends (her daughter)." This came from a bigger woman. I was so angered when we all left the store for not sticking up for my daughter. When we separated and were in the car my daughter started crying and realized that my "friend" had called her fat. I swore to her that that would never happen again. We did end up buying a tankini and I used the explanation that modesty is best because there are some creepy people out there that like looking at little girls.

During the summer, my daughter's father's menu for both himself and our daughter have consisted of pizza, fried chicken, and McDonald's. All fast food. Although my daughter has grown approximately two inches over the summer, she's also gained approximately ten pounds and is hedging towards the higher end (100 lbs) of the appropriate weight for her height (79-107).

Acrobats will be starting tomorrow and the studio requires girls to wear leotards (not the most flattering thing). While shopping for one this past Sunday, my daughter broke down into tears in the dressing room stating she had a big belly and the leotard made her look bigger. I sympathized with her and told her that soon all that would go to her chest and her hips. Then she said, "Oh great! My butt's gonna get bigger than it already is, thanks alot mom you just made me feel like I did when your friend called me fat." I was mortified and refused to accept this. I indicated to her that I would never call her fat but always be the first to defend her! My heart was breaking for her.

My boyfriend and I realized that we've put on some pounds over the summer and were meeting on Labor day to weigh in for a two month weight loss challenge. I asked my daughter if she felt so poorly about her weight if she would like to join us in our endeavor, maybe we could set a weekend after Thanksgiving at a local indoor waterpark as an incentive if we met our goals. My daughter agreed and said she'd like to weigh 90 pounds (-10). I have 15 to loose & my boyfriend has 20.

I have been explaining to my daughter about well balanced meals. I'm glad she made the choice to be concerned about her weight. I've made it a point not to dwell on her weight, but try to teach her how to eat healthier. Her other problem has been portion control.

This morning she measured out 1 serving of Goldfish crackers for her lunch, string cheese, a mini bagel, 2 pieces of lunchmeat, a bottle of water, and a Capri Sun. Tonight she will be with her father for dinner and hopefully she'll eat something nutritious.

Lori


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My childrens' step mother told my oldest when she was 9 that she was fat and needed to go on a diet. She had baby fat but was far from overwieght. Since then, she has been constantly worried about being fat. Another reason I try to encourage her to think about how and what she eats. I let them have "unhealthy" snacks but encourage fruits & veggies more.

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I have a 9 year old who has gained quite a bit of weight this summer. She is usually a very active child. However, it was so overwhelmingly hot this summer that she wanted to be inside and there isn't a whole lot of physical activity in the house. However, her older sister got chunky around that age as well and in the last few months the fat has melted off and she isn't very active. So I just encourage them to eat less fatty snacks and more healthy snacks. I want them to have a better lifestyle than I had. I am in my 30s and have fought my weight all my life. I don't want them to have to go through that so I try to lead by example which is how I found this site. I am determined to get myself in shape so I can help my children make better choices.

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8/24/12 4:15 P

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my daugher had the same problem. But when she was younger she was short and small. When she went through puberty she shot up and packed on the pounds. So did her brother. He really got fat and started working out himself. when HE told her she was fat she said " I am not" and cried. What I did was ask her to help me cut up vegies and measure stuff. I told her it was to help her with math and fractions...1/4 cup this..3/4cup of that. I printed serving portions chart and taped it to the inside of one of the cupboard doors. The meals we eat together we make sure we measure, discuss what a portion is. They can have seconds but only one PORTION!... guess what? her loud mouth brother shut up when he found out spaghetti was 1/2 cup-1 cup per portion!!! Now she has no mayo at SUBWAY and chooses better things. She chooses to not have bread a lot and has started exercising. We do bursts durring TV comercials. Her and her brother drop and do push ups and sit ups. It is very commical to see how many they can get in durring a comercial break. They usually break down laughing because they can only do 30- 50 reps.... really not a full minute! but hey, it is about effort and JOY first.
God bless your efforts and loving example. encourage every positive effort and make sure you aknoweldge when she does make a right food choice, you could point it out like " that was really smart of you to choose that orange for a snack rather than a peanut butter and jelly sandwich after school. I am proud of you for making good choices!"

Hope this isn't too preachy! My daughter is 11 now, her brother just turned 13. He is 5'9 and about 156 and muscular, she is 5'1 and about 120. Me that's another story. Im 5'8 and 260.
God bless your every effort, Im working on the same issues.

g from MN

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8/24/12 5:21 A

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hi all
it sounds like this issue has been addressed and I know the mom who brought up the issue realizes the importance of being careful about what she says around her daughter ... i just would like to share my experiences ...
My mother was seriously overweight and had major issues with food, which in turn led to me becoming anorexic (just another type of food issue, after all ...).
Anyway thankfully I've overcome those demons and have 2 beautiful children of my own (girl, 11 and boy, 9). In our family we never talk about "bad" or "good" foods, calories, foods that make you fat, do these jeans make my butt look big, etc.
I use words like "growing foods" (proteins) and "energy foods" (complex carbs); we talk about fruits and vegs and the vitamins they contain and what those vitamins do for our bodies. We talk about "treats" which we eat because we enjoy them, and when we have given our bodies the growing food they need first.
Anyway, thanks for letting me share ... I've been all over the food-issue roller coaster, and as the parent of a daughter especially I'm very sensitive to this. She's already learned about what an eating disorder is in health class at school and it's so hard for me to talk about with her but such a very real issue.


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8/24/12 12:27 A

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Since I have been working out, I try to make it mommy/daughter time and we both get to dance around house, walk up and down street/ throw the ball in the back yard time together. We also both get rewards like nails done, etc.

She does not even know that I am helping her. It is hard to see her body changing from skinny little girl, to growing pudgy in the middle. Like mother like daughter.

I also have to remind her, hey one cookie and then if you want another snack eat an apple.



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We try to work with both of our kids on health and nutrition all the time. We try to set a good example. I have lost about 50 lbs with Spark and have gained about 5 back. She sees me struggling with it and how frustrated I get. I'm only 5'2" and so 5 lbs of weight on me versus a 5'9" woman would be different. I make my exercise fun. The wii Michael Jackson, Zumba, fun walks. I even went on a 5K with her. We eat healthy food and talk about moderation with unhealthy foods, too.

Teach them and they will learn.

Good luck, I know what you are going through. My daughter is 8 now and my son is 7, but very active.

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That's awesome!! So glad to hear it's working for the entire family!

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i agree with you, that is why i decided not to say anything to her about her weight. i will never forget when my mother told me at the age of 7 i was fat and lazy. it created so many body image issues and un necessary low self esteem. I'm still working on that to this day and I will be 39. I do not want to do that to my daughter. Now we focus on health and being more active. We are outside at night so the kids run around and play for a few hours and we go to the pool for a couple of hours a day. She seems to have slimmed down a bit, i think part of her problem was boredom eating. I pointed out that her dad and i do it also, so we made a pact that we only eat when we are hungry. I have even seen her question her brother and sister if they are really hungry when they go to get something to eat. It seems to be working, making it a family lifestyle change.

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When I was about 7 or 8 years old, I was standing in the kitchen with my bathing suit on, and my father turned me to the side and said to my mom, "See Ann? I TOLD you she was getting fat!" I have never forgotten that.
Instead on focusing on my children's weight, I stress the importance of eating healthy and staying active. My oldest (she's 12) is a very studious person who does not enjoy sports, and would much rather sit under a tree with a book than join in with the kids at the playground. She has now started to realize that she has a bit of a tummy and asked me if her weight is higher than it should be. (She's 5' 3" and weighs about 145 pounds.) I simply told her that if she is concerned, eat more fruits and vegetables and fewer cookies and ice cream, and get outside and play more.
It's also important to lead by example. Kids are not going to learn to eat healthy if we are snacking on chips and cake. This summer, while the kids are home from school, I have decided to not buy chips, cookies and ice cream from the grocery store (even though they all seemed to go on sale as soon as I made that resolution!), but have made a point of having on hand lots of fruits--apples, oranges, bananas, strawberries, cantaloupe, raspberries (which fortunately grow in our back yard)--and veggies -- cucumbers, baby carrots--that are easy to grab when they get peckish.
My 12 year old and I have also started walking together in the evening which is not just healthier for both of us but gives us some one-on-one time without the other members of the family interrupting us. It's a great way to keep up with what's going on in her life as well as getting us both healthier.
As for your 9 year old daughter, tread lightly if you're going to tell her she needs to lose weight. Her self-esteem is going to be very fragile right now and anything you tell her is going to stick with her; I'm now 37 and remember my father's comment like it was last week. If anything, his attitude made me gain more weight, not lose it. Every kid responds differently; I could have very easily gone the other way and ended up with anorexia or other eating disorders.
Also, take comfort in the fact that it's NORMAL for a girl her age to start getting "thicker" in the middle as her body starts its changes. Try to focus more on the Nutritional value of what she's eating than the numbers on the scale.

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i decided against telling my daughter that she had to lose weight. did not want to be the one that created body image issues. I simply sat her down one night and asked her if she would help the family be healthier. Not just losing weight, but being more active in general, and reading labels, quit the boredom eating, etc. so far, she is slimming down. i didn't want to hurt her feelings, so I explained to her that being healthy started young. She is in charge of helping the little ones be healthier by teaching them about labels, what is healthy what isn't. she always asks questions now and questions what is in her food. I couldn't be happier. we made it a family thing, changing our lifestyle being more healthy instead of focusing on just losing weight and creating issues that didn't need to be created.

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My 9 year old little boy is so very precious but yes he is starting to gain to much weight for his age, I feel bad for him because I want him to be healthy, and feel positive about himself ! So instead of telling him he needs to lose weight weve been on a healthy journey together to lose weight ,we've been walking swimming ,and I bought him a scooter to ride as I walk so he doesn't get bored, and he seems so much more energetic and happy now ! I'm trying to make it a positive experience for him and a fun one, so far I've lost 15 pounds I don't weigh him but he has definitely lost because his clothes are big for him now it's been 3 months now , I can't say it was easy getting motivated, but now it's just part of our life, in fact everything in our life is just a little bit better now because we feel so much better!!!

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Sometimes it is really hard to be a mom!!! When I think my kids are being to lazy I tell them not ask them if they want to go for a walk or ride bikes or play hoops. At first my daughter complained the same way as yours (she was about 10 when we had real attitude problems) but after a while she would stop the complaining. I figure even if I had to hear her complain it was still worth knowing she was getting activity in. She is 14 now and plays softball (which I thought she would never do) and loves it she plays other sports too in their season. I tell both my kids they have to be playing some kind of organized sport of club like 4H. Them being involved is so important in so many ways. Maybe you can find a group/club that she can join like 4H or girl scouts. The groups often go on many outings which gets kids moving also maybe she would met some friends that love playing sports which could rub off on her. Even if she hates you for a while because you made her be active she will get over. My daughter thought I was the worst mom in the world for several years but that has since changed and she loves me again. Someday your daughter will thank you for not giving her the choice.

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5/10/12 10:12 A

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I am trying to not tell her she needs to lose weight, hence that is why I've been encouraging exercise and being outside in general. She has no desire to do any sports, cheerleading or anything of that nature. never has been one to want to do any of those things. I guess I'll just keep encouraging being active. Hopefully when our pool opens up she'll be getting a lot more exercise in that way. My girls can be at the pool for hours,they love it so much.
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First of all you don't tell her she need to lose weight. You don't know when she is going to go through a major growth spurt and all that extra weight goes other places. If you get what I am saying. Second does like like to play sports or planning on being on the cheer team in middle school if so maybe you could start talking to her about thing to assure she makes the team. Does she like swimming? Remember 20 min in the pool in equal to 2 hour on land.

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I have been working on a healthy lifestyle for awhile now. I think I've been a good example for my children. Eating healthier, more veggies, working out all the time, etc. My 9 year old daughter has been consistently gainin weight. She is growing out of clothes like crazy and I don't know how to tell her she needs to lose weight, first without hurting her feelings and making it an issue for the rest of her life.

I have been trying to encourage exercise. I walk everyday, I have asked her to walk with me or ride her bike. She says it is too far. I encourage the good eating, put veggies in most meals, I ask her if she is hungry when reaches for food. When she sits in the house, I encourage her to go outside and play. She has a scooter she never uses, a bike she hardly rides, she complains even if we go on a two mile walk. How should I handle this? Nothing I do is working, but she will be going into middle school soon, and I don't want others to make fun of her. But I also don't want to make her think of herself as fat. She really just needs to start exercising more and I think the weight will come off.

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