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2/23/13 8:35 P

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It sounds like it might be fixed, but I like the positive reinforcement ideas of ignoring the biter at 1st, showering the bitten one with attention, and rewarding positive things the biter does.

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2/6/13 3:19 P

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When i went and picked my daycare child (the biters sister) up from preschool we saw my daughter. She ran up to her and gave her a hug. I made a big deal out of it, and did a little dance and high 5's for no biting.

We shall see. She really is a lovely girl.

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2/6/13 2:36 P

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Yeah, I kept asking my daycare provider if they were going to kick him out, and they assured me they wouldn't. My older daughter never bit anyone, so it was a total shock to me when he did it. I think, with my son, he really did like the excitement. He liked seeing what the other kid would do, what the teacher would do, etc. When he got nothing, he stopped.

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2/6/13 2:21 P

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Thank you. Someone suggested it is out of love. So I am going to try the next time she bites asking if she is trying to tell her she loves her and suggesting she hug her instead.

Like you the mom is freaking out. I told her daycare would not be terminated!

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2/6/13 2:10 P

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My son went through a biting phase at about 15 months, biting everything in sight at daycare. On one day he bit five different kids (I will never forget because I had to sign a separate incident report for each one). After about a month, he quit as quickly as he started. What they did was absolutely ignore him, and showered attention on the child he bit. Even the punishment was exciting for him, and he really likes excitement. So they gave him no excitement or attention beyond the "We don't bite," and instead gave massive amounts of attention and excitement to the other child. I was pretty freaked out about the biting, but they assured me it was a common thing, especially at an age where it is still hard to communicate.

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2/6/13 1:48 P

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Thank you. I separated them this morning and as soon as I went to start the van to warm it up she went ot the other area and bit her. I immediately told the mom and we are going to try very hard to break it.

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2/6/13 12:18 P

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could be an attention thing then. maybe a jealousy thing. who knows why 2 year olds act the way they do sometimes. i hope everything works out, but I would definitely notify the parents that if it keeps up, they will have to look somewhere else. your daughter doesn't deserve that.

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2/6/13 10:13 A

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Thanks for that advice. I am about to give them notice.

If it was more then my daughter i would think it is she cannot express herself, but the fact is she doesn't do it at home. She will be playing by herself and just walk up to my daughter and bite her. It's always after school, and it is always around the same time.

For now I am going to keep her separate as I do not intend on punishing my daughter for hte biting. I am right there in the room. I see everything 99% of the time.

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I know at daycare centers, they will kick a child out if they continue to bite. It is more of a communication thing I think with someone that young. An almost 2 year old doesn't understand the concept of consequences of her biting and getting in trouble. maybe she has trouble communicating her feelings and that is why she bites. if it were me, I would try showing different pictures of different feelings and see if she can identify with one and maybe that is why she is only biting your daughter. Or it could just be a phase. I hope it works out for you.

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2/5/13 8:00 P

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I've asked her and she just says cuz with a smile on her face. She is almost 2 and nothing seems to faze her.

I am at a total loss :( It is puzzling because it is just my daughter, no one else in my daycare

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did you try talking to her? Sometimes might be a reason that she does and asking might help. Another thing is kids do anything to get attention, even if it means bad attention. Instead of the time out, maybe take some privilege she has, sometimes kids do react better with the cause consequence. Good luck !!

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Need advice. I run a daycare and for some reason the 2 year old in my care thinks it is ok and a game to bite my 7 year old. I have given her time outs, talked lots to her that it is not ok to bite, her parents say they have talked to her about it. She knows it is wrong to bite, yet as soon as she is off time out she goes by my daughter and bites her. I am at suck a loss.

I actually screamed at her (not a very proud moment) but thought shock value might work.

anyone have any advice?

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