I would also talk to your husband. I do not spank, but I've read that spanking (or any punishment) should only be done when the parent is calm and the child should understand why they are being disciplined. It sounds like he was tired and angry and he spanked out of frustration.
I can't tell you what to do but I would suggest talking to your husband. You both have to be on the same page with discipline or things can get difficult. I won't go into my opinions but I do think you were in the right, good luck with sorting this out.
I know this is a very sensitive topic for a lot of people and maybe inappropriate in this venue, but I needed someone's oppinion about this.
My son is almost 14months. He does pretty well sleeping through the night, but this last week he's been waking up several times wanting a bottle. I'm sure he's going through a growth spurt. Anyway, we gave him a bottle the other night and usually he goes right back to sleep but this time he didn't. He kept crying after the bottle was done. My husband flew out of bed, went into my son's room, and smacked him. I was horrified and threw my husband out of the room. I rocked my son and gave him another bottle and, what do you know, he fell right back to sleep (my husband thought he was crying for no reason which is what his justification for the hit was).
First you should know that my husband is Peruvian. He is always telling me how he and other latinos are raised: the parents are always hitting their kids to teach them a lesson. He's a momma's boy and tells me how he didn't appreciate the beatings then but he certainly does now, so he thinks that's how he should raise our son. I've told him time and time again that we don't do that in America. I'm not against spanking your kids, but I do believe that the child should be at an age when you can explain to them WHY they're being spanked. I just can't seem to get my husband to see the value in that strategy,
I'm worried that this behavor will escalate when I'm not home and I won't be there to protect my son.
Does anyone have experience handling cultural differences in your relationship? If so, how did you work them out?
Edited by: JMARISK at: 6/10/2013 (13:21)
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