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7/30/13 12:33 A

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Hey, I know it's been awhile since I posted though I didn't forget to ask my SIL and other parent friends about potty training. One said to have the child wear panties under the pull up because the pull up pulls away all the wetness so the child isn't uncomfortable after the child goes potty. Yes it's more laundry but it's worth a try. Another said just go with the flow and eventually the child will catch on.

After observing Rebecca and her potty habits I've learned to just go with the flow. Some days Rebecca is in the same pull up all day, including waking up dry after bedtime and nap time, and other days we go through a whole bunch of pull ups. I've been trying to remember to take Rebecca to the bathroom with me every time I have to go, just like you do when you potty train a kitten, and it's helping some. Though ultimately it's up to Rebecca to decide when and where she will and will not go potty. I've found her to be much more vocal about having to go potty when we are out and about in public ie: park, grocery store, library, etc. My husband always grumbles and complains about how much more time is "wasted" when Rebecca goes to the bathroom in public but I take her anyway and tell him how proud she is to have gone potty in the potty. He then smiles and we finish whatever we were doing. (My husband was the same way when it came to BFing in public or right before leaving home. Yes he was supportive of BFing he just didn't like having to wait the 10-20 min it took for the nursing session to end)

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5/23/13 4:20 P

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Thanks. It's a start. Now she asks to go potty even if she doesn't actually go. Sometime she asks to go and will sit and toot and say she's done. I think it's funny how potty means the same for going #1 and #2 and passing gas. That will probably help. I work in a daycare and her seeing other kids and friends go has probably helped. Good luck :)

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5/23/13 10:32 A

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So glad to hear she peed and pooped in the potty. Rebecca still refuses to go poop in the potty. Good luck. I will be in and out for the next few months because my family and I will be visiting family back in MN for a while. I'll still have internet but it won't be convenient since I'll have to go to the library to use it. I'm hoping Rebecca will see her cousins using the potty and decide she wants to be a big girl, like her cousins.

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5/19/13 12:50 P

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I have tried that but without the timer, so that's a good idea. I took off work Friday and Saturday hoping to try this again and it didn't seem to work Friday so I told her when she's ready to be a big girl to let me know and the next day she peed as pooped on the potty for the first time... But hasn't done it since. So a little progress.

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5/19/13 12:29 P

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Megster31 Have you tried making mandatory potty breaks? Set the kitchen timer for 30-60 minutes. When it goes dings/buzzes/etc turning off the tv, games, etc and sing "it's potty time, potty time, potty time, it's potty time for everyone" (you may have to do this several times) Then everyone who is home takes a turn going potty. If she refuses then say the timer says it's time for everyone to take a potty break. (even you and daddy try to go potty) Emphasize the timer says it's time and not you. This way she can be mad at the timer and not at you. Then praise her for sitting on the potty and again for going potty. Tell her "sitting on the potty makes me happy. Going potty in the potty makes me happy you are such a big girl!"

I hope this helps. I will also ask my sister in law who has 5 kids for some of her "tricks" to help the kids to go potty.

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5/17/13 5:43 P

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She is my only child. She's really strong willed so I know its just a power struggle. She refuses to do it so she thinks she's in charge. I work at a day care and all her friends are potty trained. I've talked to her about the things she can do once she's a big girl. I also talked to her doctor and asked what to do and she said that she will be ready on her own but I'm not buying that and want it done before she's four. She has a potty seat that goes on the toliet as well as a smaller floor one too. I've tried potty books, sticker chart, potty prizes, candy everything. I also told her she can't go to preschool until she's potty trained and she got upset and I said they won't let you go to kindergarten either... So she knows.

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5/17/13 4:23 P

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MEGSTER31 I feel your frustration. Rebecca is very strong willed as well. Sometimes we think potty training a mule would be easier. lol Rebecca knows the feeling when she has to go potty she's just been refusing to use the potty. She has gotten better at telling us (me) right after she has gone potty. I'm thinking as the weather gets warmer/hotter she will become much more uncomfortable and want a solution to her wet pull-up problem.

Have you asked your daughter why she wants to be a baby? Does she have a younger sibling that gets attention for doing "baby" things? ie crying, getting stuck in toys, needing to be fed, needing to be changed etc. Rebecca has a little sister who is doing all of these things so we think part of her refusal to use the potty is she feels there is a lack of attention given to her. Do you call your daughter "baby" when you're addressing her to get her attention? If you don't then is anyone else doing it? I have neighbors who call every small child "baby" and I know they mean well but they don't realize the harm they are causing. Have you asked/shown your daughter the preschool? If not it may be a good idea to show her a place where she needs to be a "big girl" to be able to go. Sometimes kids need an incentive, such as getting to go to school to play with other kids and to play at the "park" everyday before they are willing to potty train. My cousin wasn't potty trained until she was 4 or 5 years old. Once she learned/discovered all the things she could do when she was potty trained it took a week and she was completely potty trained. Her mom also didn't want her to grow up because it was her last child. My mom had to talk with her mom about potty training and how is Hannah, my cousin, going to feel when she goes to school and she is the only one not potty trained? My mom also brought up the cost of diapers and how that is a expense that wasn't necessary anymore. Once Hannah's mom made that realization she was on board to helping with the potty training as well. So I guess here the moral is: let the child know what big kid things are in store so the child knows why potty training is necessary.

Good luck!

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5/17/13 12:07 P

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My daughter turned three at the end of March. She has shown lots of signs that she is ready, and I even tried when she was two and it didn't work. I am getting extremely frustrated and don't know what to do!!! This is by far the most frustrating thing about raising a child. Everyone I ask usually has the same advice and none of it works for my child, since she is stubborn and strong willed. I want to put her in preschool and they won't take her until she is potty trained. I don't want her to be four and not potty trained, but it seems like this will never pass. She says she wants to wear diapers and be a baby.. ugh!! I have people telling me to just wait and she will want to on her own and it will just click and then I have others who are criticizing me for it not being done by now.

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1/28/13 11:19 A

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I just put underware on my daughter (but not at nap). It was VERY messy for about 2 days, but then she was potty trained. Also, I have hardwood floors which helped.

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1/22/13 8:32 P

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with my older kids first i made sure they went with me to the bathroom so it was monkey see monkey do. I would then sit a child down every so often and I too would . i would put on the cloth underware so they know what uncomfortable the pee was diapers pull it away and i dont think they realize they are actually wet sometimes. i stopped late night drinks and first thing in the morning is rush to the bathroom. I also found to not stress over it they will get it when they are ready . Its like a light bulb goes off and they just get it.

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1/16/13 7:11 A

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Create a schedule, I am doing this starting today. If you already have a schedule for getting up, getting dressed to get out for work and what have you then adding a potty time shouldn't be too bad. Once they wake, it's time to get dressed and ready..the first step in that process is sitting on the potty. Do this before they have a chance to do it the diaper.
Then every hour and a half have them sit on the pot, even if it just for a few mintues maybe with a book. This gets them used to the process. Every time they wake and before naps/bedtime it is time to potty party. At least this is how I plan on attacking it. Sticking to a schedule will make it is easier. worked gat with my older two!
Good luck keep us posted

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1/16/13 12:09 A

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I was also going to ask for help getting started. Rebecca is 25 months and has shown signs for about 8 months. We didn't start potty training because we knew we were moving across the country for my husband's new job and we knew Rebecca would have a baby sister shortly after moving. So with a new home, new community, new weather, new job, new baby, new neighbors, new routines and none of her old friends we decided that we didn't want to have to train her twice. I was also told to wait until the child shows all of the signs because it will go easier/smoother and quicker.

So does anyone have any tips on how to start the potty training process?

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My goodness! Potty training, can we hire this out?

I have a 16 month old boy, who for months has been showing signs of being ready for "potty parties". Well, I am reluctant to start this as it is so time consuming for me. We are an active family and I DO NOT want to potty train using port-a-potty's. GROSS!
Just wondered if anyone else was ready for this, beginning this or in it? I need refreshers, it's been 8 years! I need encouragement I guess to just do it!
Thank you in advance!

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