First of all, God never intends for children to be abused. He instructs fathers in Ephesians 6:4,
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
He instructs mothers in Proverbs 31:26-28,
She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children rise up and bless her.
And also in Titus 2:3-5,
Older women...encourage the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.
Unfortunately, sin broke our world, and this includes the realm of parenting.
For Christians seeking to recover from the trauma of abuse, Jesus has answers. In my opinion, Isaiah 53 (a prophetic announcement about Jesus) offers comfort and perspective:
Verses 3-11:He was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain. Like one from whom people hide their faces he was despised, and we held him in low esteem. Surely he took up our pain and bore our suffering, yet we considered him punished by God, stricken by him, and afflicted. But he was pierced for our transgressions, he was crushed for our iniquities; the punishment that brought us peace was on him, and by his wounds we are healed. We all, like sheep, have gone astray, each of us has turned to our own way; and the Lord has laid on him the iniquity of us all. He was oppressed and afflicted, yet he did not open his mouth; he was led like a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before its shearers is silent, so he did not open his mouth. By oppressions and judgment he was taken away. Yet who of his generation protested? For he was cut off from the land of the living; for the transgression of my people he was punished. He was assigned a grave with the wicked, and with the rich in his death, though he had done no violence, nor was any deceit in his mouth. Yet it was the Lordís will to crush him and cause him to suffer, and though the Lord makes his life an offering for sin, he will see his offspring and prolong his days, and the will of the Lord will prosper in his hand. After he has suffered, he will see the light of lifed and be satisfied; by his knowledgef my righteous servant will justify many, and he will bear their iniquities..
Verse 12b: For he bore the sin of many, and made intercession for the transgressors.
First of all, it's clear from this passage that Jesus suffered unjustly. He understands the pain and anguish of abused people; He empathizes with them, so when He offers comfort, He truly understands the heart of the one in need of comfort.
Second, these verses indicate that because Jesus took our pain and suffering, He can offer us healing. He literally bore our wounds in order for our healing to be possible.
Third, we see His example, that in spite of what He suffered, He didn't open His mouth in protest. I realize that abuse needs to be exposed and if possible, victims must speak up in order for abuse to be addressed and hopefully stopped. But what we can learn from Jesus here is that in spite of being abused, He didn't lash out in anger, and even prayed for the transgressors.
To me, this passage offers hope for the abused. Jesus and the word of God have real answers for anyone who has been abused.
From a practical standpoint, I suggest 2 things: 1) Godly counseling from trained, Christian professionals, and 2) Praying for the abusers. Whenever I've been wronged in my life, I have found tremendous power in genuinely praying for those that have hurt me, as Isaiah 53 suggests.
Jill "survivor61" Team Leader: Keep Walking With Jesus Team Leader: You Are Not Alone Jesus said, "Don't let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God, and trust in me." John 14:1
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9:58 AM 2/4/2013 Good Morning all God is so good .. 2 Things hes talking to me about today .. you know the Song where he leads I will follow .. when we used to sing it don't hear it much today .. BUT I used to think do I mean this .. he talks about taking up his Cross and following him .. think,,, all the men who just dropped all they did to follow him why do you think that was .. I can only imagine God radiated out of him .. He was anointed from Birth but Gods Spirit was on him .. He came to set us free to teach us to abide in him .. to allow him to show us the way .. So many just don't understand hes in you .. WE are a 3 Fold body .. Spirit .. Soul.. Body we have a fleshly Body the Spirit and soul live in . we have to take care of it its the home here on earth .. Then we have a Soul and Spirit .. when you except Jesus into your heart hes there .. now the war begins .. when you except him you said devil im Gods I will walk with God ..but the war is not for our Spirit but our Soul which if you will is your mind .. now the mind has to be renewed daily ... it wants to go back to what it did .. so there is a war on For our soul the devil wants us to sin .. daily .. you hear .. come on a drink or a extra bite it wont kill you .. think of eve in the garden .. as the devil whispered im sure he did it constant .. she knew better .. but im sure he caught her at a week moment .. God forgive us we have them .. the devil knows your weakness .. and that is where he tries to get you .. for me for 30 plus years it was food .. when I stopped smoking in my 20ies .. early on like I had just turned 20 I had a grandma who taught me GODS ways my parents were to busy .. and that is about all I heard about Jesus .. I soooo loved my Grandma .. I would go stay at her house and we would read Gods word... then later in my 30s God became real to me .. he asked me to get off the fence .. To live for him .. and I jumped .. then is when I learned God will teach you .. so the Bible became different .. it came alive .. I saw things in it I had never seen before God woke me up to show me things .. 2 or 3 am we had a party .. I have since learned not many people seek his face .. sad .. he so longs for each one of us to .. many just visit him on Sunday and the rest of the week live like they want .. but he showed me so many things .. One of the most important things God has taught me is James .. he talks about how important what we say is .. if people only really knew . you can speak life or death on someone .. or even yourself .. ya many say you are far out there but I can show you .. if you believe Gods word I can show you .. read James .. see for yourselves by all means don't take my word .. never takes mans check them out many are far off .. you know how many people say they are gonna get the flu lol and they get it oh ya why they said it .. no wonder huh .. yes I believe Gods word and further more .. I know its true.. God is Faithful but so much we are not We have to renew the mind .. when satan whispers in your ear .. do what God says to do .. James4: 1 ∂ From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members? 2 Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not. 3 Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts. 4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God. 5 Do ye think that the scripture saith in vain, The spirit that dwelleth in us lusteth to envy? 6 But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble. 7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded. 9 Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness. 10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.
look at verse 7 Submit yourselves to God .. Resist the devil and he has to flee .. you have the power to resist him .. but you have to summit to God first ..
Do yourself a favor take a mental note .. watch for one day what you say you will be amazed ..Watch your words .. The world God framed with words .. under God Jesus gave you power to speak life or death .. be careful .. Proverbs18: 21 ∂ Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. I for one Choose life .. and I choose life for you .. lets be a Blessing to someone today .. God loves you Bless them .. love Betty
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