Interesting observation tiffany--why do you think that is? is it every conversation--or just specific ones. Do you feel inadequate in some way? do you use food to transition from one activity to another??
Oh, no. I was taught it was rude to "talk with food in your mouth" or be on the phone and "gulp" with drinking something, so I don't ever do that. My brother talks to me and always has to go to the bathroom and "relieve" himself, which I guess he doesn't think I can hear. That I find rude, but I never say anything to him. He does it without ever saying a word to me that he is going there to do it, so I guess he doesn't think I can hear him.
Can't say that I ever did. I am single and don't get to eat with others very often, so I sometimes actually plan to eat my dinner while catching up with a friend on the phone who knows what I'm doing.
I've found that the cure for a lot of my emotional eating was sticking to a relatively ordered plan of eating, as Gould seems to suggest on pages 153-4, no matter what. I've learned to space my meals and eat a mixture of foods at them that allows me to say no to urges to eat outside of my plan most of the time no matter what the emotional trigger, AND that allows me to get hungry for my meals. Getting hungry and then eating a moderate amount that satisfies can actually help heal some of the emotional triggers without having to find the one perfect alternative to eating at the moment of temptation. Food tastes so much better when I am actually hungry and when I follow rules 4, 7, and 9. But first and foremost, I had finally acknowledged that my emotional eating was actually more painful than the irritation, frustration, and anxiety of not giving in to those urges. Without feeling pretty sure that saying no to the urge was going to end up feeling better in the long run, I mean really believing it, I was constantly giving in to the urges of the moment. It really is worth it to wait until an appropriate time to eat even in the face of strong habits like scarfing while on the phone. But it takes several months for the rewards to really kick in.
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