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12/26/09 2:35 P

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Rachel, I really like the idea of starting today. I know it's a common statement, but it's especially apropos now because it is such a temptation to say we'll start after the first of the year. How many times has that one worked? I already went against my plan of the day. I think I'm going to have to give up on waiting this out at home, thinking I would get some work done. Instead, it's just easier to cook and nibble. Got to respect the moment. emoticon

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12/26/09 2:06 P

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I was a bit crazy yesterday. Over the past 4 months I've let emotions make my food choices rather than my brain. So I am starting my focus today, not waiting for new years, or after valentine's or whatever procrastination...

On a positive note, the anxiety I had around holiday arguments did not come to pass. I was more conscious of DH's needs during food prep times and it worked out for everyone.

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12/26/09 12:24 P

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How's everyone doing? I've found I don't need to have holiday goodies around to eat when I don't need to. I even feel a bit nauseous and still feel like nibbling. Dropping in here and letting you know how glad I am that you're all here is part of the way I'm filling my life without eating. Thanks! emoticon

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12/15/09 11:33 P

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I'm taking it one day at a time. I am better than I could be but certainly not meeting all the challenges. Today was incredibly exhausting and I came home to a houseful of stuff to do. That made me want to eat. Most days I am having good focus however.

Edited by: RACHELRB at: 12/15/2009 (23:33)
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12/15/09 2:21 P

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How is everyone making out with their holiday challenges? I have been feeling very stressed with my coaching commitments and getting ready for the holidays. I've also had a couple of unhappy incidences with DF, which I'm not happy about. But I'm proud and happy to say that I've been keeping a watchful eye on what I'm eating and making sure I work out daily, even those days when I feel like I didn't have much time for it. Harriet has been fairly quiet, or at least she's not winning many attempts to get me to eat to compensate for stress. I'm even down a few pounds, go figure! Though I'm not expecting them to stay off with a number of parties this week.

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11/22/09 12:07 P

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Rachel, *everyone* has issues around the holiday. Between the images of idealistic family relationships and the pressure to show our love through the "perfect" (and often expensive) gifts, it's a setup for trouble. I think it would be weird to NOT have any issues around the holiday!

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11/22/09 9:50 A

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I thought I was werid that I had this challenge. My DH came from humble means so now he hands me a big list of items. All I want is the kids not to fight and no one to argue on Xmas day. It challenges everyone because you can't wrap it with a bow!

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11/21/09 5:39 P

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Carrilu, I think no matter what we do or don't do over the holidays, we end up feeling like we're not doing enough. I also try to keep the holiday low-key and especially the past few years inexpensive. Frankly it's a little depressing to me that I feel year after year I can *never* give or ask for some of the really expensive items. I read an article about this recently, it's called "frugal fatigue".
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11/20/09 11:56 P

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I have realized that I get anxious around the holidays and ironically, it is because we really keep the holidays low key. What I mean is for religious and financial reasons we try like most folks to focus on family, play games, read, bake, visit and try to stay out of the Christmas hype but I still itch to spend when I am in a store and see all the glitzy paper and stocking stuffers, when I read the paper and see the sales ads or when I flip through magazines and see all the extravagent dinner ideas and dessert and cocktail party ideas.
I somehow feel like I'm not doing enough. It's just the marketing machine I know, but it's exciting and fun and I feel like I want to be right in the middle of the chaos I'm avoiding so I overeat in anticipation of "something". We are plenty busy but I imagine I should have a break from the daily grind for eight weeks and just party with all the people in all the commercials and all the holiday movies and just let it all go.
Not sure how much sense I'm making but that's my holiday challenge. I need to stay focused and let the spend, party, cocktail, fantasy not derail me so that I don't feel empty and bored in my daily responsibilities and overeat.

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11/17/09 12:32 P

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I think the biggest emotional trigger for me at the holidays is missing my extended family. It's better now that I am engaged and have been spending the holidays with my fiance. Still, I miss my family in California. We used to go every year, but haven't for 5 years between blended family conflicts and the tickets getting too darn expensive. It doesn't help that there is so much chocolate around for Christmas, as that is my food drug of choice.

I was feeling badly about Thanksgiving too, as we usually spend it with DF's family and that's also not happening this year. However it now looks like I'll get to see my oldest, dearest friend over the weekend and will be spending Thanksgiving with some good friends locally, so I'm not feeling so badly about it now. In fact, I'm looking forward to it! We're also trying to set up a special dinner on Wednesday night with all of our kids since they will be with respective ex-spouses on Thanksgiving.

Rachel, can you discuss Christmas with your husband ahead of time? I think you'll have a better chance of avoiding the annual argument if you set up a game plan that he participates in.

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11/16/09 7:44 P

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I guess I'm not clear on what the arguments are about. Also, do you want support not to eat, even if there are arguments, or more on suggestions for resolving disagreements?

I'm not married, but when I have lived with a man, whoever cooked didn't have to clean up! Do guests ever help with dishes? Maybe you could make a deal with one of the more familiar guests who might usually be involved in after-eating cleanup to check on the kitchen occasionally as your husband cooks and wash up the stuff he uses so that you don't have to face it. My father was the holiday cook: he and my mom did clean up as he went before the meal. I think she was just as happy he was in charge of the meal, though she did make some of the side dishes. Others of us did the dishes afterwards.

I know what you mean about the complicated menu of Thanksgiving. If we weren't bombarded with too much food all the time, it might be easier to justify. Research has shown that people do eat more when they have more variety. But good luck convincing many people not to have mashed potatoes, sweet potatoes, AND stuffing. emoticon

Edited by: OOLALA53 at: 11/16/2009 (19:48)
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11/16/09 3:56 P

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HI Rachel-

Well I have realized that I eat more immediately after the holidays. I think I'm bored and I certainly don't want to have to take down the tree, do all the laundry, put away the decorations and on and on. I actually eat less when I'm slightly stressed and doing things I enjoy like preparing for Christmas. Boredom is a big trigger for me as is all the clean up after the holidays. I enjoy all the leftovers, stale cakes and cookies---yuk.

Does your DH enlist your help and does he clean up???? Do you have company or is it just immediately family? Maybe you could ask if there is anything you could do for him ahead of time to ease "his" burden. If he doesn't want your help, perhaps you could take a nice long walk or nap on Christmas. You didn't mention in this post if you have kids, grandkids, etc. Are you 2 the host and hostess on Christmas? Cooking on Christmas seems to be something your husband enjoys. I think you should be grateful for that. If it were my husband and he made a big mess and didn't clean up, I would not be a happy camper. I tend to be a perfectionist and it drives me nuts when my house is not presentable. My husband doesn't cook much. He'll make breakfast and grill, but that's about it. What really bothers me though is that he'll drip water, food, etc on the floor. The kitchen floor is a mess when he's done. I've mentioned it a few times, but he gets really offended when I say something, so I just wait 'til he's out of the room and I quickly mop it up. But his making a mess has never been a food trigger for me. Funny how some things bother one person more than another. Are you having to clean after his cooking on Christmas? If so, that's a real downer. I could see how you would just want to dive into the Christmas cookies because of his mess.

I guess for all of us who have issues with the holidays, we need to remember that the holidays come and go rather quickly.

I think this year I'm trying to be more mindful of the many families who have lost so much in these economic times and I am truly grateful for my DH, family and friends and that we have a house to mess up. So many unfortunate people these days would probably love to have a DH that cooks and a house to cook in.

I don't want this to sound morbid, but my SIL lost her husband in August. I'm sure she would be glad to be in your shoes and have her DH with her this year.

Just try to get by the best you can. One day at a time.

I'm looking forward to what others have to say,

- Trish

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11/16/09 2:41 P

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As the holidays approach I was interested in folks' challenges that drive them to eat during these stressful times. Perhaps from our own personal experiences or lessons learned we could help each other have a calm and enjoyable holiday.

I'm not looking for recipes or really anything food related but more what 'eats at you' that makes you turn to food for comfort. We want to be able to resolve our challenges food free and essentially 'shrink ourselves'.

For me there is always an argument on Christmas day. My DH is an awesome cook but he takes it all on himself. I don't know if I should ask him to make a simpler meal or maybe set out a schedule for us but the last 4 years have had arguments attached and I want to go stress free this year- or at least less stress.

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