Lori, I am so sorry for all that you are going through. Life is so darn hard sometimes but you have been growing all along as a person to handle this and now you will blossom and emerge even stronger through this trial. Continue to give yourself the gift of support and friendship you find here it is so valuable. I will pray for you and your family:)
Lori- Welcome back, you were just on a different path for a while, not gone. I feel for you and your divorce- infidelity can mess us up inside. It sounds like you have done a great job in picking up the pieces and you have found a wonderful counselor. So good of him/her to recognize your emotional issues and help you to surface them rather than eat them. I think that is a great compliment to the SY book/concept. I am not surprised that you've lost a few lbs. emotional shock can do that to a body. Good luck with your future and your schooling. Please turn to us here at the SY team to encourage and support you- it helps us too!
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Fitness Minutes: (4,171) Posts: 307 4/13/09 11:08 P
After a couple months hiatus I am back on spark people and back to my healthy lifestyle! My life has been turned upside down. I have found out my husband has been unfaithful and we are in the process of getting a divorce. While in the process of moving out of the home we rented, I dropped one of my 5 pound dumbbells on my big toe and fractured it. The last couple of months have been the lowest of my life. I haven’t been exercising or eating particularly well, but I have managed to lose a few pounds, I don’t know exactly how much, but I have gone down a size in clothes. With a broken toe, I could hardly walk, so most exercise was out. My husband paid for my gym membership, so now I have to learn to exercise without the gym. My kids and I have moved in with my parents. I will be returning to school next month to finish my degree in teaching. I am moving on and not looking back. My life will be better, healthier. The most important thing I have learned, is that in order to be “healthy”, we have to be healthy all over, mind, body and spirit. I was in a very emotionally destructive relationship, and now I am working towards complete health. I have been seeing a counselor for a while. It was been a tremendous help. I have learned how to “feel” my feelings, rather than eat them. I truly believe this is the key to living at a healthy weight. I never knew how to identify and express what I was truly feeling, so I ate. I ate when I was mad, I ate when I was glad, I just ate. Now I am learning to stop and say “right now I feel ______”. And if I am sad or mad or just down, I can put words to it. Now I don’t run to the fridge or the drive thru to numb myself. Since I am now looking at returning to the dating world. I am more determined than ever to get in the best shape of my life. Not because my weight or size of my clothes define me. I am a great person no matter what I weigh. But when I do find someone new to love, I want to be active. I want to go skiing and hiking and kayaking, I am done sitting on the couch and going to the movies all the time. I am starting a brand new life, and this time I want it to be a active, healthy life!
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