(((((Carilu))))) (((((Ooh La La)))) People are so cruel! This post hit home on so many levels. For one, I've experienced these things ten-fold. I can remember once in college leaving my dorm and walking across the street...a car (of college boys, no doubt) slowed down to say "You are one ugly b*tch!" I just posted in another thread about Harriet "preventing" me from exercising for fear of being laughed at/ridiculed.
I am figuring out that my extra weight makes me feel like less of a person. I walk around LIFE feeling like I'm a fat loser. Not sure quite what to do with that and how to squelch those feelings. But...you do have my sympathies, ladies, and I hope we can move forward and know that the comments are so much about the people who deliver them, and not us.
Okay, I'm posting this because I want you to have hope that our perceptions of things can change. When I was in high school, a friend of mine was much heavier than I was at 145 lbs. Forty years later, we are still friends. She has slimmed some and several years ago, I had gone up to 195 lbs. (I'm 5'6''.) We were walking in downtown San Diego and a bag lady was making comments to us. We had passed by and she called out, "I'm talking to you! The one in blue! The fat one!" Guess who was wearing blue? I actually laughed. I remember thinking, "Well, it's official. I'm the fat one." It just struck me as funny that I often work so hard to try to avoid an image of myself, but that that's all it is, an image. It was so obvious that it made no difference if I fit the image or not. I was so much more than the appearance I presented to someone else, especially a stranger. I so deserved my own love and acceptance, no matter what my mistakes are.
I know you believe this in other areas of your life. I hate to hear that you lost sleep over this and pray that your sense of worth grows so greatly in this process that you never take to heart such unkind comments from anyone again, whether you ever get skinny or not.
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omg!!! im so sorry for that some people are so weird! its people like that that deep down inside hate themselves.
last summer i was at my lowest weight and i was walking across the street and some guy yelled out FAT ASS! at me and it ruined my day. And its sad because i really wasnt fat! but it hurt me and made me feel as if i was worthless.
Don't forget the lyrics, 'I am beautiful No matter what they say Words can't bring me down I am beautiful In every single way Yes words can't bring me down' I think I'm going to add this whole song to my spark page.
If you win 51% of the battles you have won the war.
Thanks guys. At first I was embarassed to even tell my husband and friends. Then I was embarassed to post to you but I know I needed to and I'm so glad I did. The nice people in this word always outnumber the bad:)
What a creep! Nobody acts like that-he was crazy! It can really throw you for a loop though-especially after you've been sick and feel kind of out of it anyway. I think you are awesome and beautiful! Cindy
Hi guys! I have been sick and then my family was sick it has been a looooong couple of weeks and I have missed you all. So, I actually met a version of Harriet in the flesh! Are you ready for this? I had to teach a class last night and after a week of no workouts decided to walk to class. My son went ahead of me in his car so he could drive me home when it was dark. I was feeling too fat to walk in public and forced myself to shut Harriet up. I was almost to my class and I had to cross a park. My heart rate was up, I was feeling good, and then there was this guy sitting on the bench and I had to pass him. I make it a point to look strangers in the eye and smile and that's what I did. As I passed by he says, "Hey!did you do that to yourself?" I was confused because I was scratching my arm and I thought maybe I was bleeding or something. I said, "Excuse me?". He said, "Did you do that to yourself?! Did you eat all of your children? Or did somebody force feed them to you?" Can you believe it? He was evil looking and glared at me until I could get on a busy street again. I was creeped out all through my class, I didn't sleep well because that was such a sick thing to say to someone and now I'm insulted and hurt. I hate Harriet or Harry or whatever. Who says stuff like that? When I told my husband and two friends who were here last night they were all mad that I didn't have my phone on me. I just can't believe I mustered up the courage to walk to class and encountered that! Well, my husband will never let me walk alone again so.....I'm still creeped out what a weirdo.
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