I got a little mixed up because you had said you were in Ch. 11, but the page number was 157. In any case, it is true that having the goal of looking a certain way can get in the way of achieving peace with food. In our culture, and, at times, even here at Sparkpeople, God bless 'um, there is so much attention and admiration given to really slim, even muscular bodies. We have to be careful whom we admire because the life that person leads to get to that look may not be something we want at all. I think Gould is just saying that the right look cannot be the main reward. The paragraph you mentioned comes in the chapter with the 10 Healthy Habits. Aiming at practicing those habits and then dealing with the emotional issues that prevent us from implementing them is the real work of this program. What constitutes eating healthfully and exercising enough for health is going to be somewhat individual and will most likely evolve, rather than be imposed. This just means that the first order of business is to deal with NOT BINGEING OR OVEREATING, in this case, overeating means eating when not hungry as well stuffing yourself. The likelihood is you will lose weight, you will look "better," and you will be more pleased with your body. But you have to wait until then to decide if you want a specific look, such as the look a bodybuilder has. With all due respect to them, some of them seem just as hung up on food as heavy people. It seems they depend on having a sleek body to feel good about themselves. I personally want something different than that. However, I will also admit that I do stress less about my body than I did 30 extra pounds ago, and that feels nice. But, I'd still rather have food become a non-issue than have to walk a tightrope to live at 19% body fat--or less!
Hope this didn't sound too preachy or critical of others' goals. Each of has to go where the journey takes us. You are on your path, and I think you'll be glad you found SY.
*"The goal of weight loss is incompatible with recovering from disordered eating." Center for Clinical Interventions
*The No S Diet saved my emotional life! Four years and counting. nosdiet.com/
*Be happy with this moment. This moment is your life.
*Get to the next meal hungry! www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i
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