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The swimsuit topic--from awhile ago-- but anyway I have been getting H2O suits. They last forever. The chlorine does not make them weak like other suits I have uses. The styles are getting a bit better. I guess people who do water aerobics and lap swimming want durable suits that cover enough of us. But the company could do a bit more to make the suits attractive. I got several on clearance and I love them. Chris

GOAL: Reduce A1C,BP,tryglicerides,and weight. HOW? By not eating added sugar, using Omega3s, base meals on veggies, water aerobics at least 3X week and using NuStep when I can't get to the pool.

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OOLALA53 Shucks. I am not sure if you will get this message if you quit the team but thanks for being a member. I hope this team grows. I need the ideas from you all! Chris

GOAL: Reduce A1C,BP,tryglicerides,and weight. HOW? By not eating added sugar, using Omega3s, base meals on veggies, water aerobics at least 3X week and using NuStep when I can't get to the pool.

CAREGIVER SUPPORT PLEASE SEE THESE LINKS:
www.caring.com/
www.agingcare.com/

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Dear Friends,
I was looking at my list of teams I belong to and I decided I had to cut down the number. This team has had a special place in my heart, but I am spread too thin and have not been posting much here. So, I'm leaving the team. I still love Dr. Gould. I've been putting more of my energy into the 21-day streak on the Living Binge Free team and the No S Diet site that is not on Sparkpeople. I've had 53 straight days on the program. It doesn't mean I never eat emotionally, but it is the exception now and I don't feel I'm in food's prison. I've learned a lot from many different sources that have made this possible right now.

Blessing and peace with food to all. emoticon

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Rachel, a carpool would help but it's the loss of time that would make me very unhappy. Unless the carpool included a built-in lap pool or stationary bike...
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Oohlala, I'm not at all serious about becoming a trainer. Once I complete this semester of school I will have my Master's in Software Engineering. I'm then thinking about trying to move towards a specialty similar to Human Factors or User Experience.

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Yeah, LKG. Forget the software stuff. Did anyone see the old Seinfeld when George quit his job and was brainstorming careers and he said he liked talking about sports-maybe he could be a sports commentator?

But wait, were you serious about being a trainer? Hey, people do it. But I gotta tell you, I had a small massage business myself for many years. Finally decided to get my teaching credential and join the middle class. Ah, but it was nice. No early hours, soft music, appreciative people. Just not steady work. But I don't blame anybody but myself. I was pretty good at it, but it wasn't my calling. I do know of people who stayed in. Some are doing very well, some say they'll have to work 'til they drop, some say they want to work 'til they drop! emoticon

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That's one of the things I am absolutely dreading about work: commuting. I feel so pressed for time in my life already that the thought of having to spend 2 hours a day dragging my body back and forth to an office makes me ill. However I have made a promise to myself to focus on what IS rather than what MIGHT BE.

I've blogged about some disturbances in my life that I'm dealing with, but the eating has stayed under control. I was however very anxious to get to the pool this morning so that I could work through my unsettled mental state. Maybe I should forget the whole software engineering gig and aim for something in a gym: fitness trainer, aquatics instructor...

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Holy mackerel , you drive 60 minutes to your job? It's good for me to be reminded how easy some aspects of working are for me. However, there is some pretty country to drive in in Utah. That must make it better.

I'm in turmoil over my job changes. I'm six months in and it is still way too much work. I've got to get this assignment reduced next year or I won't make it.

On the eating side, though, things are fine. Sounds like we are all on an even keel with that right now. Good for us. emoticon

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Rachel, I hear you. New jobs *are* hard and scary. There's a lot of new material to learn, you're feeling like you have to prove yourself, you don't really know the office politics yet. And if you had friends in your old job, that makes it even harder.

Hang in there and try to find some things to do now that make you feel good, things you know you are good at. *I* know you will be spectacular in your new job; in 6 months I'll bet you're not just sailing, but super-cruising!



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Lisa- I think it is the new job. While I now in my heart I made the right and in 6 months I'll be sailing through right now it is scary and hard. I also miss my friends from the old job. Today I got the opportunity to have lunch with 2 of my best friends there which was nice. The problem is the old job was 45 minutes north and the new one is 60 minutes south so there isn't a good chance to see each other without some careful planning. I insisted we do something again in February. It was sort of good to hear about the old job though. I feel for them but the stuff they are going through there sucks and I'm glad to be free!

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Rachel, when I'm done with the jumpstart I go back to following the "regular" Flat Belly Diet. Actually I'm so pleased with the normal plan that I'm planning on using it as the blueprint for maintenance.

What do you think might be behind the change in attitude? For me I usually find there are either physical or situational issues that can set me off.

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I like that idea- short interval. I'm just not sure what I would do with myself when I am done! I'm in quite a funk right now. What I've noticed is though I am down on myself and stuff going on in my life it really isn't any different from when I'm feeling good- it's just my attitude and what I am making of it.

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I think there can be a thin line between exercising some control and obsessing about food, so one does need to be careful. For me, the jumpstart works in part because it is a defined period of time, 4 days. So yes, I'm much more restricted in what I'm eating, but I'm not feeling (overly) deprived because I know it's not forever. It's also empowering; I find it to be similar to an exercise sprint or interval, where you are pushing yourself really hard for a short period of time and feel really good when you get through it.

I find for myself that tracking my food is the only way I can really figure out that calorie range which is appropriate for me. Although at this point I'm so much more aware of the nutritional value of food that I almost have a mental calculator going all day, continually estimating how much I've eaten! It would be great if I could just eat and know I'm staying within an appropriate range, but I'm not there yet. It's possible that after so many years of sneaking food I will need to keep tracking just to keep myself honest and accountable with myself.

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I think I know what you meant by exerting more, not less, control helped. Did you mean portions? I remember reading years ago that overeating at a meal was a trigger for bulimics. I think it's true for a lot of compulsive eaters, too. I don't think undereating is recommended, either, but we all have to figure that out on a trial-by-trial basis. What's enough right now? It doesn't stay exactly the same, but it is definitely MOSTLY in a certain range for each of us. I know for myself that I've known that range for myself but not respected it for years. There is no guarantee for the future, but I'm glad I'm able to do it now, and I keep trying to affirm that I am a person who LIVES that way, with maybe occasional exceptions, rather than the other way around. emoticon

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Yes, it's great when the healthy habits just happen rather than having to try and make them happen. I felt that way over the holidays when I was craving healthy food after eating too many rich foods.

I feel like I have been doing a pretty good job of following the 10 healthy habits. OK, controlling binges/junk food was a little rocky over the holidays, but actually exerting MORE control, not less, seems to work best for me for getting back to manageable proportions. Also, I have been maintaining my weight but not losing any more. It's really important to me for numerous reasons to keep on going and reach my goal. A big part of the success that I've had so far has been repeating the jumpstart once a month and sticking to a normal, healthy eating plan the rest of the month.

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Actually, the part that was great to me was that I didn't have to try to think the thought. It just popped into my head, LIKE A HABIT! Oh, glory! But it doesn't mean I won't consciously use it some time.

LKG, if 4-day start is what you think you need, go for it. Hope you can ease back into SY's 10 healthy habits soon. I have purposely not been snacking, even though it's recommended, because I find it keeps me too focused on having the perfect snack so that I don't get too full and then not be hungry for dinner, which I really want! I've read that "fasting" between meals can stimulate your limbic hunger, which is the stomach hunger, not emotional. I don't know whether it's the placebo effect or what, but the desire to eat when I am not hungry has decreased a lot. "Course, I have a long way to go before it's second nature, but I'll take this progress.

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I agree, it's great that you used the imagery of previous success to calm the desire to eat. I am on day 2 of my "special diet", which is the 4-day jumpstart portion of the Flat Belly Diet. It's helping me to re-focus on my eating and weight loss goals.



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Good for you! I think it is great you could use your success to date as an image for calming yourself and moving forward.

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Don't mean to hog this thread! This afternoon I ended up eating my lunch rather late. About 90 minutes later, I got that habitual urge in response to time, stress, etc. At first my thoughts started to go to excuses why it would be okay to eat. Almost immediately, another thought broke in with the memory of how many meals have tasted so good on my 18-day binge-free streak, and I immediately and calmly felt it would be worth it. Now it's a few hours later after taking care of several tasks. From experience, I know it's likely I will be nice and hungry for dinner in another hour, and I am so glad I waited. I wish peace with food for all of us today or soon. emoticon

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I have been grazing this weekend, but I told myself I could. No shoveling food in, no frantic eating. I have felt relaxed and pleased about it. I also think it will be fine to go to a more defined plan tomorrow. 2010 is a pretty good year so far.
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Lisa- who said cellulite is an imperfection?!

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Ironically, today's blog is partially on mindful eating: www.dailyspark.com/blog.asp?post=tak
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I think my issues with Harriet have more to do with what my weight means about *me*. It's ironic to me that the weight that is my goal I considered "too heavy" when I was younger. Yet I picked that goal now precisely because it seems to be a weight I gravitate towards naturally and can maintain fairly easily with normal eating. What I am finding more liberating now is focusing on my weight as a way to stay healthy as I get older rather than having unrealistic expectations about what I will look like. I realize that losing the rest of the weight won't change my body type from curvy to sylph. I might weight less, but I'll still have cellulite and other imperfections. What I am aiming for is something more intangible and less obvious: flexibility, strength and good health.

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Now that you mention it, it wasn't the being hungry that I remember but just having a plate of food. I so often was eating meals, but from this bowl and that salad plate, and my dining table was covered with papers so i never sat at it. I did the same thing as a kid. I had a friend whose dad gave her money every day for candy and she shared it with me. I hid my snacking by cleaning my plate and having dessert, too!

We can't let Harriet sidetrack us over weight goals. Establishing habits of eating reasonable amounts of food at appropriate times is way more important and liberating. She can't really argue with that. If we do this consistently and then haven't reached a weight goal, then we need to re-think and see if we are willing to get more strict on food types/amounts or exercise. But it needs to enhance our freedom from the hold of food. I fear the obsession more than I do being 10 lbs. from my goal. Then again, I ain't 10 lbs. away! emoticon

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emoticon Oohlala! It's ironic what you said about being hungry at dinner reminds you of your childhood. Mine was just the opposite; I remember sitting down to dinner with almost no appetite because I had been eating junk all afternoon. Needless to say, I ate dinner anyways, as well as dessert.
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I have been struggling a bit with Harriet. I'm now 3/4 of the way to my goal and Harriet is whispering nasty things: "You'll never make it, and even if you do you'll never keep it all off!" I tell her that I realize this *is* scary, it's the point I made it to 3 years ago and then regained, and it's true that I have regained in the past. However I have a plan that is REASONABLE for achieving this goal, that I have changed my lifestyle as well as working on my emotional/mental health to support reaching and maintaining my goal. And if and when my life changes, which it will likely do when I return to work, I will find ways to adjust my new schedule to this lifestyle. I *like* the way I feel now, and I'm not giving it up without a fight!

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I've made it through Day 12 of no bingeing. It feels good to get hungry and eat meals! It reminds me of childhood to sit down to a plate of food at dinner. I'm enjoying my food a lot. emoticon

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Oohlala, it sounds like your job like many, many others is feeling the trickle-down effect not enough money to hire adequate staff. So the ones that are still part of an organization are overburdened with extra work, and to some degree the quality of work suffers because everyone is spread too thin. Another 25-30 essays to grade at 10 minutes per essay comes out to an additional 5-6 hours of work!

I agree with Rachel, it is good that you are willing to *feel* rather than stuff down the feelings with food. That said, I'm wondering if there are some ways you can help yourself out. Are there other teachers in your district or nearby districts who are doing the same work you are that you could network with? What about having some of the National Honor Society kids work with your students; I know in my school the NHS kids need to do some community service work.

I think the important thing is to try and not take on too much of current situation as your own personal failing. If the "normal" class load is 60 students and you've been given 90, that's a 50% increase. From what you've written you obviously care a great deal about the quality of your work and will do the best you can given the circumstances.

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Oolala- it doesn't sound so much like the anxiety itself but the fact that you are willing to feel rather than drown out the feelings with the chocolate pastries- Good for you! emoticon

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This is my 14th year of teaching high school. However, for several years I chose to teach Special Education for students with mild "thinking/ processing" delays just as a way to decrease the number of students I had to deal with the grading for. (The average English teacher sees 160+ students a day in high school.) However, I am much more intellectually-oriented and wanted to work with more advanced students. I got my wish, except that I was given three classes of these advanced students. Most of the experienced teachers were very suprised, as even two classes at this level is challenging, for both class prep and for evaluating student work, esp. the first year. I am very slow at both, though I love the topics and enjoy class time. But, I didn't get as much prep done over my holiday, eitehr with evaluation papers or with planning. My students already think I'm kind of squirrelly, so I had wanted to assuage some of their fears. They are in a high-stakes program and I don't want to let them down. I think I could have done a much better job if I had only two classes. Then I would have had about 60-65 students rather than 90. Beleive me, reading 25-30 more essays for each assignment (and it is really hard to limit myself to less than 10 minutes per essay) makes for a much greater burden. Now people know why teachers don't assign as much writing as students should do. I also try to get them to do peer review and such to ease the load, but I still get an awful lot of confusing, poorly thought-out work, which is much harder to understand and grade!

Enough of poor me. I haven't been that hungry this a.m., and have chosen to have coffee. I can tell I'll start getting some rumblings here in a bit and will be able to eat the lovely lunch I brought at a reasonable time. Was not even attracted to the welcome back pastries and chocolate muffins. TG for anxiety! emoticon

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After 20+ years of working as a Software engineer I am finally getting a Master's in the field. Theoretically I should be able to telecommute and/or have flexible hours, but many places are still horribly old-fashioned about such things. The current recession isn't helping progress on this front either, even though I just read a blog on why having people work 8 hours straight isn't always in a company's best interests: www.pickthebrain.com/blog/why-the-9-
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Just to remind us, LKG, what kind of work are you preparing to do?

I am so stressed already this morning going back after 3 weeks that I am slightly sick to my stomach. On the upside, eating sounds terrible. emoticon

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Oohlala, I'm in a similar place. I feel like I am doing so well right now because frankly I'm not working and under less stress overall. My graduate classes are all online, which gives me a tremendous amount of flexibility with my day-to-day schedule. I'm getting plenty of rest, eat almost 95% of my food at home, and am not exposed to either the stress of going into an office every day or the added temptations of office goodies. So I am very concerned about how I am going to do with maintaining all the healthy habits I have developed this past year once I return to a working full-time.
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Oolala- we'll be looking for you...

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How is it going, all?

Harriet has been blessedly quiet lately. Maybe even she got tired of eating over the holidays. I've been rereading The No S Diet for motivation to eat three meals a day, which allows me to get hungry for my meals (I tried eating 5-6 meals/snacks a day for years, but it did not stop my bingeing--it just made me almost maniacal about what I could have for meals and snacks), plus reviewing some of my work on emotional drives and finding alternate activities to keep me on track with that. It's been working, but I know it is a day-by-day thing, especially when I'm still on break from work. I admit I'm afraid of the urges returning when I'm stressed out, but I can't really face them until they're here. I just hope I can remember how hard it was to stop adhering to the eating style I had adopted before I started my new teaching assignment last fall. I have to remember that it was actually more painful to give in to the urges than not. Call me out, Shrinkers, if you stop hearing from me after Jan. 12! emoticon

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I tell ya, Rachel, you look so good in your photos, it's hard to see that there might be a problem on the inside, but I also know that how much we eat makes such a difference in how we feel and not just because of our emotions. I saw this again today when I had reason to be up and about without breakfast. I wasn't a bit hungry but if I had stayed home, it would have been a struggle to get up in the cold and try to stay busy without thinking about eating. Later, since I was out, I just shopped for something to do, and it felt so good walking around, not feeling full. I felt light and bouncy, though I am 15 lbs. up from last summer and just one half a point from being back in the obese range for my BMI! So, I'm happy for you that you think that it's going to be easier now to get back to those feelings.

At this moment, wavering a bit because it's 6 p.m., and I would really like to have dinner, but I'm not hungry. Nothing sounds as fun to do as eat. Maybe I should quit sitting around on my butt in the dark with only the light of the laptop screen illuminating my face... emoticon

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Oolala- after an Xmas of overindulgence for the sake of Harriet's shouts of, 'what does it matter you will be over calories anyway' I stepped back on my path to healthfulness and consciousness on Dec. 26th. I may have 'overindulge' days due to goodies as the option or dining out but there is really no reason to binge anymore. Also making time to exercise for as little as 10 minutes a day is a goal I can stick to. For me it's all about making realistic and manageable goals.

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Hey, Shrinkers, what's the good news? Okay, then, the news? I'm still wavering in my resolve, but hoping for the best. (I saw a dressed up Santa at a neighborhood event recently and told him I'd been asking for resolve every year for awhile. He vaguely promised this year for sure to look for it under the tree. Who knew Santa was a puzzler) emoticon

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You are so right, Rachel. What comes out of my mouth is part of me, too! Yada yada yada... I've made it another hour or so. Still no hunger. Off to send belated Christmas card/gifts to relatives. (Now I'm going to Aunt-Hell.) It would have been better for these to get there on time, but the kids will be happy to get more stuff the day after Christmas, too. Thank goodness, there will still be a nice spread for them, as our family is fortunate. Hope everyone else is having some seasonal cheer, too. emoticon

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Ooh la la- you definitely need to have a nutritional program that works for you or sooner or later you won't meet the goals you've set out for yourself- so going against the WW plan is ok. Sometimes I find myself thinking the only way I can care for myself is to not care for myself and then beat myself up afterward. Don't let Harriet tell you that you aren't worth caring for or that if you have a bad summer it is the end of your life. As you say, resist the urge to judge yourself as a failure- there is so much more to you and your life than what goes in your mouth.

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I forgot to say that I felt I had to face up to the fact that I have gained weight since the summer. I had left my weight tape measure here on SPeople at the weight from last summer. I kept thinking things were going to change for me and I would drop back down. They haven't, so I made the change today. Harriet is having a field day because I am almost up to the weight I was about 5 years ago when I went to Weight Watchers and lost 20 lbs. I had even then over a period of time whittled that down 7 lbs. more, mostly through consistent exercise. I did not adhere to the calorie recomemednations of WW becasue they just seemed too low. Anyway, there has been a lot of water under the bridge since then. I'm having to really resist judging myself as a failure because I've known about the principles of the SY program for that long or longer, yet I haven't implemented them, either. My plan is to set the timer to work on decluttering and cleaning the kitchen back and forth for an hour. Then I will go into my online SY records and decide on something fun I will reward myself with later. When push comes to shove, I either eat or do something else. It's up to me either way. emoticon

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I'm having a time this morning. I've been feeling queasy the last couple of days--pretty sure it was from some soup I had at a deli--, so no real hunger to speak of. Yesterday, I still ate and found that the queasiness dissipated for awhile. However, now I'd like not to eat until I am hungry, but Harriet is telling me it's okay to nibble just to get rid of that semi-nauseaous feeling. I know I'm also anxious because I need to work on paper clutter and it's bringing up all the frustration with not knowing what to do with it all. I don't want to run away from it or I won't be able to have any company over while I'm off. I'm attracted to the idea today of just being with the feelings--the urge to eat as well as the stomach upset. It's not really that bad, and it's temporary. Wish me luck. emoticon

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I agree with both of you... I counting calories and on the Beck Diet Team challange. That has been good because I am tracking all the food that goes in my mouth.

I know especially with the Holiday and all the goodies it is a real temptation, and we have to get control of that urge to overeat.

I have been using real mayonaisse and cheese etc, since the low fat no fat, just doesn't do it. I would rather have a little less of quality stuff, then chock down diet stuff that you don't really enjoy.

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Ooh lala- your words are perfect 'I know I'm not there yet, but just writing this reminds me that it is a much worthier goal than following a specific diet, with certain foods and times to eat. This is the only thing that sounds like real freedom over food.' I agree- personally I need to be careful when I commit to eating healthy that I am not depriving myself because then I end up with a very LOUD Harriet!

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I agree that the urges to eat unnecessarily aren't always emotional in nature. I remember once working with a young woman who was quite thin. At Christmas time, our boss bought a box of See's and left it in our small office for us, the employees who worked at night. I remarked that it was nice of the boss to leave us chocolates, but that it made it hard to "stay on a diet." My thin colleague said, "I've been skinny and I've been fat, and it's not going to stop me from having a See's during Christmas time!" Of course, she had only one, and probably didn't stop later to buy more chocolate and eat a half a pound of it!

I think I have posted before that researchers have found that the brains of "dieters" show the same patterns as drug addicts in withdrawal--who experience an intense anxiety, i.e., emotional reason, to use the drug--, but that complete abstinence of "palatable" food makes the reaction worse. It really does seem that the only way out is having small amounts of rich food at times and outlasting the desire to overeat that they will engender. Repeating that will change the pattern. Once again, Gould's program seems perfect for that, even if he doesn't present it that way. We are always learning to thwart our pattern of having food quell an emotion. I know I'm not there yet, but just writing this reminds me that it is a much worthier goal than following a specific diet, with certain foods and times to eat. This is the only thing that sounds like real freedom over food.

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Oohlala, I get overwhelmed by paper too. I recently cleaned out a basket I have for unopened mail; some of it dated back to the beginning of the year! Since then I am trying to deal with the mail the day it comes in, but that's not always easy to do if it requires more attention than you have time for. And as you pointed out, sometimes things fall into gray areas...

I can also vouch for the fact that cleaning with a partner is NOT reality! I hate doing it solo too, not to mention that I the task demoralizing as it's usually dirty again within a day or two. I deal with it by having house cleaners come every other week; the week in between I do a quick vacuuming. I also do quite a bit of pickup before the cleaners come to keep the clutter under control. Perhaps an expensive option but one that keeps me from feeling resentful "doing it all alone" as well as hating living in a dirty house.

I'm having trouble staying on track, but it seems to be more about being overwhelmed by the abundance of sweets this time of year than any emotional need. When I don't think about chocolate I don't crave it, but with the holidays it is EVERYWHERE. Not to mention that I'm mentally anticipating goodies in my stockings, holiday desserts this week, etc. So my "chocolate sensor" is on overload and I'm having a hard time ignoring it. I am at least trying to stick to my workouts and healthy meals whenever possible, but I don't know how to block all these holiday messages to eat chocolate!


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Ooh la la- Recognizing your feelings is a big deal. Perhaps a room or a section of a room a day would make the mess insurmountable.

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I'm struggling with eating this holiday season, but I'm not beating myself up about it. My goal is to get hungry twice a day. I never get over being amazed how impatient I can be in just waiting to get hungry. I'll busy myself with tasks, but a few hours later when I'm still not hungry, I find myself getting resentful. I've stated something like this before, but it keeps coming up, so here I am. Just writing this is making me want to stick it out, but my first thought is just to go try to sleep some of the hours away. My house is a mess right now. I'd love to see it straightened up, but I just don't want to do it. I have this fantasy about someone living with me and we would clean together. I'd say I've imagined having a husband do this, but reading here on the boards and talking to married friends makes me think this is really a fairy tale. Then I've thought of a sister, but I don't know anyone with that kind of relationship with their sister, either. It makes me feel so childish to think I need to have a partner to do this with. Why can't I just be a grown up and clean my house? to tell you the truth, it's mostly paper mess. Paper is so much harder for me to deal with than dishes or such. Some paper is just so obvious to either throw out or file, but there are many papers in gray areas for me, and I feel overwhelmed. I'm determined not to eat over this right now. Talk to you all later. emoticon

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Good going...you defeated Harriet and got exercise at the same time.

Hope your Mom is doing well. Keep the work going. Don't listen to Harriet, she's always there, ready to say somethink negative.
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So maybe I'm making some progress. I messed up and didn't file an unemployment claim for a few weeks so my claim has been shut down. Harriet is having a field day telling what a screw-up I am, when the truth is I got overloaded with schoolwork, volunteering, my mom's surgery, etc. But instead of wanting to eat, I am feeling a desperate need to... work out! I'm also not giving in to my usual "this is the end of the world" mindset. I *am* worried, but think it likely I can get this straightened out.

Update: I got everything straightened out with unemployment, and have made notes to help remind myself to file so I don't make the same mistake. I reminded Harriet of what on old manager said to me once about mistakes: "Tell me 1) what happened, 2) what you did to fix it, and 3) what you've done to make sure it doesn't happen again. That's all the conversation we need to have about it." A wise woman and wonderful manager!

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Sounds like success all around. I ate a big healthy dinner and tracked it. Afterwards I was pushing myself for dessert- knowing that I didn't want it in my body (I was full) only in my head. So I told Harriet to back off- we were listening to the stomach today.

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I convinced my friend to walk to local restaurant for dinner. We ran into some neighborhood friends. Good food, nice company, and the walking pushed me steps today to 10, 800. A lovely end to a hard day--and no desire for cake or the like.
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I was having a good day until about a half hour ago. Harriet was telling me that this eating when hungry, and what ever I want won't work. Your only going to get fatter. Well I told Harriet, I will get on line and change my thoughts and not compulsively eat.

I won, ready to take on day 4 with Shrink Yourself and my team support emoticon emoticon

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I have a friend visiting and we had a nice dinner. Afterwards, I was looking at a book I had gotten from the library about obsessive compulsive disorder. At the very moment I was thinking in the back of my mind that I was going to go back and have more chicken just because I thought it would taste good, I read that people with OCD actually change their brain patterns by ignoring the urges to do their rituals and finding something else productive to occupy their time with. This dovetails exactly with Gould's recommendation to have a list of activities to do instead of eating. So I didn't have any more chicken and I'm so glad now because I'm full.
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Hi to all,

My 2nd day was much better than the 1st. Today I defeated Harriet and made it through a head hunger time and then didn't eat after I found out I would not start working for home on this Friday, but next Friday.

Ate what I wanted (slowly and thoughtfully) and until I was comfortable.

So thankful for this team and finding Shrink Yourself.

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Harriet worked her charms on me over the weekend. But not yesterday, when she often talks me into stopping for junk food on the way home. Yay! I told myself I had to wait only four hours between lunch and dinner, if I wanted. I'm often hungry by then anyway. It got me past the peak "urge" hour and I was mildly and pleasant hungry for a simple dinner an extra half hour later. A good day.
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May I weigh in here (NPI!) LadyIris- cancel the dinner! My DH cooks EVERY year. He loves it and he acts like 'Julius Child' running around trying to make everything perfect. A couple of years ago he was working 60 hrs a week. In fact, he had to work every day from Nov 10 through Xmas eve, with 1 day off- Thanksgiving. When he started to plan cooking I said, 'honey, it's your 1 day off. Why don't we just relax and go out to eat'. The dinner turned out great- everyone relaxed that day and there were no leftovers.

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That's great Lisa! I bet even your inner voice chuckled at that one.

I was listening to a meditation lesson yesterday and it was so timely. We were instructed to remember that taking a few minutes each day (preferably morning) to 'set our intention' for the day is very important. It can shift our mood and lighten our load. This is really what Dr. Gould instructs in a different package - think for a few minutes about what our 'highest good' is, what our goals are, and then set our intention to have a good day and to be strong and passionate about our own choices. It occurred to me that this is not something I do every day, but I sort of let the day happen .. to me. Does that make sense? I buy food that is in my eating plan, but I don't pre-plan or pre-consider .. I make food on the fly.. I exercise on the fly. I wonder if it would help us to take take some time each morning to consider how we want our days to go, and to remember our goals. I think Dr. Gould called it, "keeping my weight in mind."

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Iris, I hear ya on being buried in classes you do not like. I'm not really struggling with the material, I'm just not enthusiastic about the amount of writing required for two of the three classes I am taking this fall and having to push myself hard to stay on task with the reading and term projects. Having to continually push yourself to keep doing something you don't like is hard! No wonder we both feel school stress; it's not just the amount of work but the work itself that is stressful. Not getting enough sleep certainly doesn't help, and the irony is that the more stressed one is the harder it is to get good sleep. Not to mention dealing with an injury that is restricting exercising! I think the fact that you are NOT binging is something to celebrate! Even with more awareness of what triggers stress eating, it is really, really hard to resist 100% when under the gun. The fact that you haven't gone overboard is real progress. Give yourself some credit for that.

Maybe I'm getting punchy, but I had a good giggle working on one of my assignments. I was creating a mock-up of an order entry screen for a restaurant ordering system, and one of the food items I put in it was "Deep Fried Fat with Salt and Sugar."

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Lisa, I completely understand about school stress eroding your focus. I am getting buried in classes I do not like and am struggling with. They are taking up all my time. And, I have a shoulder injury that keeps hurting like the dickens every time I exercise, but I can't get in to the doctor until next week so my movement is off. And, my sleep is off. Today one of my cats woke me after 3 hours and then I couldn't get back to sleep, which meant a mid-afternoon nap. Days like this I feel all out of whack, but I don't have time to be off track, and I've had several of these the past two weeks. I haven't binged, per se.. but I also am not mindful and I'm certainly not my #1 priority right now. I am just trying to hold on until the break next month.

I'm seriously considering canceling Thanksgiving dinner. It was just going to be DH and I and I fear I will fall into gorging ... because I'm tired and frustrated .. a bad combo for me when there's food around.
I hope things get easier for you soon!

The brain chemistry information makes sense. It really does feel after a binge that it is that much harder to get back on track. I guess there are no real 'days off' then?

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I'm not sure what "fly" means, but thanks! I think.
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Tough times at work AND relationship issues can send anyone over the edge. It's good though that you're focusing on what will help you in the LONG run over the short-term fix that eating provides. I read "The End Of Overeating" this summer and it pretty much stated the same concepts as the articles you posted. I particularly liked your comment, "I can't afford to keep whacking out my brain." So true!

For myself, I am feeling like I need to invest some time and effort into the exercises in the book when my courses end. Unfortunately I cannot afford the online program right now, but feel I do need to re-ground myself in the Shrink Yourself mindset. School stress seems to be eroding my awareness and self-control, and I refuse to regress back to mindless emotional eating.

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Your Y is pretty "fly," LKG.


I heard and then read of some info regarding food's addictive quality that was pretty frightening to me and helps support Gould's premise that strict diets aren't going to save us, as well as more ammunition to fight Harriet with. The stuff that hit home most for me was the fact that the brain actually changes and makes it harder to eat reasonable quantities of sugary foods after bingeing, especially if the person had been severely restricting "palatable" food. I knew it had been observed in people's behavior before, but this explains it at the level of the nervous system (not metabolic, as some had claimed but that research has not borne out). It just reinforces the idea that I need to eat mostly non-junk food with reasonable amounts of all the nutrients when hungry but periodically also include small amounts of sweets so that the body doesn't freak out that they are gone. BUT I REALLY GOTTA DO IT. This info has already made it easier for me to say no to Harriet in some situations. Lately, I had been giving in to stress eating just because 1) my life is more stressful right now at work than it almost ever has been and 2) I have had to accept recently that the man of my dreams that I thought surely had mutual feelings does not. Thus, I was thinking I would just go ahead and eat because these things are more than just the daily frustrations and it just seemed I was being too hard on myself to not just use food for awhile. I know things will get better at work and I know I will come to terms with the loss of this man, so I was thinking the food thing would get settled, too, but this info has made me think that I can't afford to keep whacking out my brain. I'm just going to have to keep looking for other ways to soothe myself and solve my problems. Sometimes it will mean just plain ol' toughing it out until the urge passes, AND IT ALWAYS DOES. I've definitely been successful before, but the motivations have not lasted. This one is truly scary to me, though, because we are down to the cellular level and that has got to be respected because this is not just someone's opinion; this is at the cellular level and my nerve cells just don't care if I like it or not!

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The only thing I could find called a Power Glide was this: www.nettracing.com/board.htm . My Y has a rollerblading-type machine which I use called the Techno Cardio Wave: www.technogym.com/gb/viewdoc.asp?co_
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Swimming is just one of the cardio activities that I do. I also bike (both stationary and outside), walk, and at the Y use the cardio wave machine and another Precor machine: www.precor.com/comm/en/amt/amt100i/

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I looked on SA for that Power Glide machine using their search feature. Basketball hoops kept coming up. Is it a type of elliptical? treadmil? emoticon

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LKG, I like that swimsuit, but I looked at S.A. products and see that they have a POWER GLIDE fitness machine that works your glutes, and that is certainly something I need. I'm sixty and my rear needs a work out along with my leg muscles. I hate doing swats because of my knees. Thanks for directing me there!

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Already done, because it was scratchy and physically uncomfortable.


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It is the 12 LONG that is an inch longer than the 14; the regular 12 is 1.5 inches shorter. I might be able to wear the 12 Long, but a regular 12 is simply too short.

You know what helped a great deal with the whole swimsuit size saga? When my itsy-bitsy BFF (she's 4'10.5" and ~105 soaking wet) told me that while she normally wears a size 2-4, she usually ends up getting a swimsuit size at least two sizes bigger than that. I had a good time smugly pointing out to Harriet that I'm 10 inches taller than my BFF and much more well-endowed, but I'm currently wearing a swimsuit that is only 3-4 sizes bigger.

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And well you should be proud! Oh, size issues! You just have to wear what fits and figure the size is the manufacturers' "problem." I know designer clothes are sized differently so that a 12 in cheaper clothing would be a 10 in theirs. It doesn't mean I am not guilty of succumbing to the size lie. I have definitely bought clothing that was sized a number I wanted it to be just because it actually fit, not because it was a color or style I needed-and most other clothing that day had to be a size bigger to fit. Funny thing about the 12 in the swimsuit being longer!??! Anyway, you just tell Harriet to stuff it and go swim your heart out!
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Swimsuit update: I proudly wore my new, size 14 Speedo to the pool yesterday. You know what I realized? Harriet's been haranguing me about the size, yet when I looked at the size charts, I realized that I need a larger size not only because I am well-endowed, but I am TALL (at least by swimsuit standards!). Even if I lose more weight and had a breast reduction, I'm still going to need the larger size for the longer torso length. Know why I could slip into a 12 Long eight years ago? - it's actually an inch LONGER than a 14 regular. I opted for the 14 because I could get it in the superior "endurance" fabric (I am SO tired of replacing swimsuits every 6 months) and I could get it in a much prettier color.

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Iris, yes it seems that using our "Harriet" muscle is a lot like our other muscles...it gets stronger the more we work it!

The swimsuits arrived, and they are TOO SMALL. I went back and read the online reviews, and there are a lot of complaints about them being too small. It has me floored that I can order the same size from the same brand as I did in May, lose ~25 pounds, and then find the new ones don't fit. Harriet started to get smug, but I told her "Look here, this just doesn't make logical sense, does it?" and she shut up.

I am coming to the conclusion that a number of swimsuit manufacturers have changed their sizing and I will have to go back to a store and try on the darn suits to figure out what size they now think I am. I am frustrated that I will end up having to pay full retail since the sizing online is essentially meaningless.
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That's great Lisa. Doesn't it seem like the more consistent you are, the stronger you are, the stronger you BEcome, and the quieter Harriett gets! Congrats.


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Rachel, I do like the Lands End suits, but not for lap swimming. I'm very particular about the straps and back, preferring wider straps and an "H" style back. I've got the following suit on order from Sports Authority:
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I've had good luck with Dolphin suits in the past. I'm also trying to balance paying a bit more for a chlorine-resistant suit with not paying a lot as I *may* need a different size down the road when I'm at goal weight. They are slated for delivery today - stay tuned!

Meanwhile, I re-listed the two Nike suits that I got on eBay and made sure to mention that although they are labeled as 14, they seemed smaller. I also measured them and unstretched they were only 14.5" across the bust. I think I maybe could have worn them when I was 13!

Harriet has been pretty quiet lately, I think she's in shock. I've been acing all my homework AND sticking my neck out with volunteer activities with DD's robotics and science team. I'm also .2 pounds away from a total loss of 50 pounds and 3 pounds from being 3/4 of the way to goal. Not much opportunity for Harriet to go ballistic, I'm happy to say!

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Have you tried Lands End? While they can be pricey I find that their suits are pretty body friendly. Also they seem to have good lasting power.

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Rachel, The usual swimsuit issues are compounded by the fact that I'm shopping for a somewhat "athletic" swimsuit for lap swimming. I think Tyr and Nike have decided that well-endowed women don't swim laps. Well, their loss; from now on it's Speedo or Dolphin brand for me!

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Got nothing else right now except to say you are all terrific, even if you don't feel it this second.
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Lisa,
Please let Harriet know that women's swimsuits are designed to humiliate most women not fit most women! Great idea about going to the school gym too.

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Rachel, emoticon on staying accountable to yourself instead of opting for the candy bar. I personally have a very tough time traveling; I'm out of my routine and usually lonely. I also posted the link to endoffattalk.org as my status on Facebook today.

Iris, I can appreciate the personal space issue with working out. Even though my DF and DD are both very supportive of my weight loss, I wouldn't want an "audience" either! Do you have access to a gym, perhaps through your school?

I'm also struggling a bit with the "fat talk" from Harriet this week. I've been shopping for new bathing suits and finding that many of the manufacturers have decided that women who swim don't have chests. Because I am well-endowed I am ending up in the upper end of the size range, and Harriet is gloating: "See, even with 48 pounds gone you are still fat!" I'm trying to tell her that being tall and well-endowed does not mean I am fat, but then she accuses me of being in denial. Sheesh!


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Have you seen this? www.endfattalk.org/ it was on a Spark People Daily blog and it is quite fascinating. I'm telling Harriet- no fat talk this week!

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I am at a conference this week. Today I was very careful but I know as the week goes on it will be more challenging. I left the buffet dinner not feeling all the full but I knew in my head I had enough calories for the day. I came back to the room thinking I would venture out to the gift shop for a candy bar. Then I decided to log onto SP and track all my food for the day. I was within calories but if I had gone for that bar (which I didn't need- I had 2 chocolate dipped strawberries off the buffet) I would have been over for the day. I've had enough 'over' days lately so I'm glad I'm staying on track. My alarm is set for 6 AM so I can try out the gym first thing tomorrow.

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About DH, it is less 'him' and more that our house is teensy tiny - just a little over 1,000 square feet, and there is almost no privacy. I don't like working out with an audience, and with it being rainy and windy, I have bee working out indoors. I need to get over that, I suppose.

Oolala ... sometimes white sugar is diet 'crack' ... *lol* I find that is true with several foods for me. Simple sugars seem to make me very hungry, and I find it hard to control myself. DH had dental surgery and I needed to make soft foods, and he really wanted mashed potatoes. It took a lot of willpower and a reminder to Harriett what my goals are, to take just a little.

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Iris, I'm sorry this has been a hard week. What is it about DH's presence that makes it difficult to eat well or exercise?

Rachel, Good for you for getting back on track. Remember: progress, not perfection!

Oohlala, isn't it amazing how one small taste of the "sugar on fat" as described in End of Overeating just starts the whole cycle? Good for you for resisting.



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I had cake this afternoon (birthday party for three dancers at my African dance class) and a friend invited me for dinner. I ate small servings, no dessert. I'm full yet on the way home I can't believe how many times I thought of going to a supermarket and buy a small cake so that I could eat more of cake. I'm perfectly full. I don't need a thing. I know I'll feel so good If I can go until tomorrow morning. emoticon

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Harriet has been challenging me lately too (chocolate chip cookies AND Baklava) but I just tell her each morning that it is a new day and I will do my best. If she won't give up I CERTAINLY won't give up.

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It is interesting how holidays, or the anticipation of holidays, often brings stress instead of celebration. We're not close to DH's family because they are always trying to force their religious beliefs down our throats. DH had it with that by the time he was in high school and it isn't any better now. We always did holidays with my family,if we did them with anyone. Now both my parents are gone. We are trying to create new traditions, but many of our friends have moved to other cities, or have their own kids/grandkids to celebrate with. I'm not sure what we will do this year as I don't want it to be an 'eat until we bust' sort of experience.

I wish I could say I've been great at dealing with Harriett but this has been a hard week - midterms, DH had no work for 2 days due to the storms, then went back for 1 day, then had dental surgery and has been off since, nursing his swollen jaw/face. I find it very difficult to get exercise or good eating done when he's home. Once I start to feel 'out of control,'my mood lowers and my resolve weakens. I haven't binged, per se, but just have been weary and not interesting in trying very hard. Harriett is screaming, "can't you take a BREAK, for heaven's sake." eeehhhh

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There's a long history with me about Thanksgiving. When I first moved to Boston I was away from my family, and consequently spent a number of years having to find a place for myself on Thanksgiving. Then I got married, and for years was part of my ex's HUGE family bash every year. Then I divorced, and my ex had first dibs on DD for Thanksgiving (it was only fair, I basically had her just about every other holiday). So I was back to having to find a place to go on Thanksgiving, without DD, was really hard on me. Then I met DF, and we started going to his family in South Carolina for Thanksgiving about 4 years ago. I still wasn't with DD, but I was part of a family again and we did make Thanksgiving a tradition. So it's somewhat disconcerting to feel like I just set up some new traditions, and they're already changing. OTOH I did know that these traditions were going to change sometime in the foreseeable future as we would all get together at DF's parents who are in their mid-80s, and every year there's doubt whether they'll be around the next year... The irony is that it's DF's sister and her kids who cannot make Thanksgiving this year. I will be inviting DF's parents to come here this year, and maybe that will happen. If not we'll figure something else out...

Oohlala, making these changes is not easy, go easy on yourself! I was thinking this morning about how implementing Shrink Yourself methods means choosing to be uncomfortable, because you are denying yourself the comfort of food and dealing with uncomfortable emotions. It almost sounds as if contemplating being uncomfortable is making you uncomfortable, does that make sense? And I can understand, it seems overwhelming to keep choosing to be uncomfortable, denying yourself the comfort that you're used to as well as facing emotions that you'd rather not deal with. BTDT...

I'm happy if I can provide some inspiration, but believe me I'm not perfect all the time either. In fact I'm expecting Harriet to be in full-on mode when I start actively looking for work again once I'm done with school. It's one thing to deal with Harriet when she's whispering quietly in my ear for a few minutes because I'm feeling a little lonely, quite another when she's screaming constantly about what a loser I am, how incompetent, how I'll never manage to get an interview and even if I do I'm sure to blow it.
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Too bad about your Thanksgiving plans. Absolutely awesome handling of Harriet. You actually implemented the technique! That is so much better than sitting and watching "The Biggest Loser" while eating ice cream, as I have done... In fact, I think I have eaten 1/2 a bag of Hershey's kisses while reading Shrink Yourself! But, not last night. I think it's the first time I've gone to bed in days when I wasn't feeling stuffed. Yay! But, I swear I'm going to remember your strength when I get done with school today and face the desire to eat a lot of sweets or bread. "Lisa did it. I can, too." Not only can I, I really need to. I have been creeping up in weight and am only 5 lbs. from obese again. Got to do it for my health and peace of mind.
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Lisa,
My family hasn't had a 'family' thanksgiving in quite a while- since 2001 when we moved to the UK. Since then we have been too far from extended family. We still make a special me and make a point to spend special time together - just the 5 of us. The next morning 1 or 2 of the kids come out shopping with me for a family that we have 'adopted' for the holiday season. We buy the kids things off of their Xmas list. It's become our new Thanksgiving tradition. Maybe it is time for you and your DD to set some new traditions?

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You're probably right, I should do some exercises to strengthen my knees. The problem is, I really, really hate calisthenic-type exercises. I can swim forever, walk, bike, etc., and I manage to psych myself to lift weights at the Y 2 times a week. But crunches? Pushups? It's a really tough mental push to do those.

Harriet was acting up a bit tonight. I was feeling a bit lonely because DD was at her dad's, DF is on a trip, and I was home alone working on schoolwork while listening to my neighbor's party. Also got an email that our annual Thanksgiving visit with family is not going to happen this year. So I was folding laundry and putting it away, and had to walk into DD's room where all the chocolate in the house is kept. Harriet started whispering "Come on, just a little bit..." I said firmly, "Harriet, you know I am finishing up my special diet and even a little bit of chocolate is not on it. Not to mention that having some chocolate isn't going to make me feel any better about Thanksgiving or any less lonely."

Edited by: LKG9999 at: 10/11/2009 (23:46)
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I don't want to presume about your knee problems, but I do know that at one point when I was afraid because of knee problems, I went to a trainer who had me do a squat-like exercise with very heavy weight very slowly and only 4-8 reps. I'm telling you, my thighs were shaking! Amazingly, I never got sore, but legs got stronger and my knee problems were pretty much gone. That was more than 10 years ago and I didn't keep up, but I still sometimes just practice getting up and sitting down on a chair without using my hands 8-16 times in a row. I work up to just barely touching my bottom to the chair. I've gotten creakier in my old age (just turned 56) but I ascribe that to not enough range of motion in using my joints and perhaps too much jumping movements in my dance classes, not to squats. Anyway, you've got your experiences, too, and we're here for the long haul. I've been looking into something called Circular Strength Training, but I'm not allowing myself to buy anything until I'm using MY T-Tapp dvd's consistently!

I binged on cookie dough yesterday. Today, I was thankfully hungry when a friend offered to take me for a belated birthday lunch. We shared a meal salad and a lovely sandwich at a darling bistro. I know she wanted us to get dessert, but I was absolutely satisfied without it. Even Harriet knew not to make a peep. Ah, contentment!
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