Judy, One way I beat Harriet at her own game is when she tells me not to exercise. I make her a deal. I say, 'OK, I'm going to exercise just this once. And if I don't feel better about myself afterwards I never have to exercise again.' I've been working this trick for 9 months and Harriet hasn't won the deal yet
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Thank you friends! I knew you would understand. I appreciate your support. Harriet is a "goner"! I did get another 20 minutes of elliptical done, and I showed her! I also did not "pick" at the blue cheese as I was making our salad for dinner. She tells me that I must "pick" while preparing food (because that is just what I do), but I told her that just because I have been doing it for almost 50 years, doesn't mean it has to continue! Now, let's see how we do with those mashed potatoes the DH is making!
Judy, I think it's safe to say that just about everyone who is trying to lose weight struggles with this. If we all thought the thoughts that had us eating just enough good food and were active enough for good health, we wouldn't be here! I wish I could say there is a sure-fire strategy to defeat those thoughts, but actually doing some of the exercises should help. It is usually true that not participating in any habit, such as listening to Harriet, will decrease its hold, but aha! moments help, as well as remembering the advantages of what you're aiming for and taking action on the real needs. I'm not there yet, either, but I'm confident we are both on our way.
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Hi Judy, I go through this ALL the time. It is always, as you said, the very opposite of what will get me to my weight loss and fitness goals. It's like a constant battle against myself. VERY frustrating.
I haven't found a solution to this other than doing my best to recognize when I'm trying to 'con' myself and using self talk to tell the con woman to shut up, and replacing those negative messages with others. Easier said than done.
I can use all the help I can get with this one, too. Thanks for posting this topic. Hugs, Leslie
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As I attempt to incorporate better nutrition and fitness behaviors I have noticed that my mind continually tries to fight me and talk me out of it. Even the smallest thing like whether to do that extra 5 minutes of cardio, or finish that last set of a strength training exercise, or whether to spend the extra time to cut up some veggies for my snack versus doing something quicker and less healthy. No matter what it is, big or small, my brain kicks in to tell me not to do it - or to do it....whatever is the opposite of what I need to do to meet my goals.
I don't know what techniques to use to stop it. I plan to go through the exercises the book and actually do them instead of just read them. This may be a version of my inner "Harriet" talking to me. It is tiring.....
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