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12/4/08 6:15 P

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For me, learning to eat when hungry, stop when satisfied (rather than starve myself/restrict everything I eat as long as I can hoping to lose an extra ounce-then rebounding into a binge, that turns to a free for all that lasts twice the amount of time spent "dieting")dealing with emotional swings of minor or major degree is the most solid fundamental thing I can do to change everything. Weight loss will follow as I stabilize, but more than anything I will have peace of mind putting an end to this contentious, fight to the death battle I have had with food my entire life. What will I do with all that extra energy not spent thinking/obsessing about food/exercise/how fat I am? I guess I'll get to find out. What a gift that will be!

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12/4/08 1:40 P

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NOMOREEXCUSES48,
That is really a great question. When I started SP back in Sept/Oct time frame I was VERY focused on the scale but after a few disappointments and some great advice from other Sparkers I changed my perspective.
I can see the progress I'm making in removing emotional eating from my life and that is truly making a difference in me and on the scale.

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11/30/08 1:58 P

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Well said, thanks!

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11/29/08 4:47 P

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CLTEN63,

I applaud your focus away from weight loss and more toward behavior.

Let's all remember to give ourselves credit for every meal eaten when hungry, every meal eaten just to satisfaction, every time we don't eat when the non-hungry urge comes, every time we face our feelings or distract or whatever we do to live life not bound to food. It's so easy to think all these are wiped out by a binge, especially because the feeling of being stuffed is so much more intense than not! Scientists have found that it is almost universal that humans remember difficulties better than they do ease. We must make the effort to counteract that. I think the process will still be slow, but I think we will feel stronger with this habit. Perhaps we should consider keeping a little daily list on each success and place it in the bathroom at the end of the day. For those who choose not to weigh themselves, reviewing their list of successes could take the place of the weigh in. Forget the failures! I prefer to think the success list is a better picture of who we are than a number of pounds or definitely our failures. Actually, we are neither one, but while we come to such wisdom, we can use this tool.




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CINDYT63's Photo CINDYT63 Posts: 1,251
11/29/08 4:24 P

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For me, right now, I am weighing myself once a week. And so far that's been okay. But the most important focus for me right now is not binging. That's all I'm concentrating on. I eat mostly healthy. Eliminating binging is my biggest concern.
It's rough though.

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11/26/08 1:53 P

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Oolala: That's a good point and I agree - I don't want to do anything on a 'diet' that I cannot maintain for life or wouldn't want to maintain for life because otherwise the weight will just come back, as it has before.

Now, regarding the scale question - I too find the scale to be more of an enemy than anything. When the number is high I get depressed but stupidly, when it is low I think 'ooh what a good job I've done' and promptly feel the need to reward myself - WITH FOOD! I've gone through periods where I've had to put the scale away for weeks at a time, and several months once. If I find that the scale seems to be controlling me, it has to go! Right now I'm doing well weighing once a week so the scale can stay out.

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11/25/08 6:45 A

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oolala, your last response on this thread has made more sense to me than anything else has since I've been with SP. I get so caught up in trying to do it everyone else's way and that doesn't work because everybody sees things differently. That's a little off track, but I needed to say it.

I've been at my current weight within 5 or 6 pounds for about a year now and have weighed more and less over the years. If I can do something that will change those habits that keep me on the roller coaster, then that's what I want to do. I am not taking the weight off at this point anyway, so why not try doing it slower and learning more on the journey? You really gave me a lot to think about today. Thank you.

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11/24/08 11:30 P

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I have to remind myself all the time that sane habits are much more important than weight loss. I'll find myself thinking, "Oh, such and such a practice is supposed to produce more weight loss." Then I remember that's not the point. I could get faster results, but would they last? I've gone up and down 7 or 8 lbs. over and over the last two years. I'm not really sure that I will lose much weight, even with good eating and activity habits. I'm about ten pounds higher than my highest normal BMI, but I am not willing to starve or work out more than I am willing to sustain for the long run to lose it. I will eat moderately in response to hunger most of the time and exercise (eventually) a minimum of 30 minutes four times a week. Whatever body that gets me has to be good enough.

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11/24/08 2:16 P

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NOMOREEXCUSES48,
What a wonderful post! Good morning to you too.

I could not agree more. Yes, the scale moving in the downward direction is wonderful but more so these days the feeling of getting the emotional baggage off me from years of emotional eating.
It is definately a process but I can feel the changes in myself regarding perfection (trying so hard to achieve it).
I realized last night that it really is ok to be me. I'm not perfect but I am trying to achieve a healthy lifestyle and emotional contentment and with SP's help...I am succeeding!

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11/24/08 9:16 A

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Oh my goodness- do I ever! The scale is my best friend and arch enemy. I actually keep a 'commitment list' of things I am committed to do during the week. This week I put, 'only weigh myself once this week, Thursday morning.' on the list. Next week I have to put, 'do not weigh myself this week'. My body fluctuates so much that every other week I am usually up, no matter how healthy I eat or how many step classes I attend. It's just my body is on a different schedule. The net in the end is a loss and as you've mentioned I'm not binging and I'm taking care of myself but all I see is that '+' on the scale.

I think that Shrink Yourself would say that the issue isn't so much the weight that's just a by product of what our emotional behaviors have created. So focusing on where we go with our emotional behavior and what we lose of the destructive habits are really the winning losses.

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Just wanted too say good morning, girls...
I'm considering, today, that I should not become agitated or disappointed as the weight slowly leaves.
What I'm changing is a habit that has defined who I am for over 30 years. To overcome binging has to be the most sensational feeling! The weight loss will come along, and I shouldn't lose my focus.
Do you often focus on the scale rather than how far you're coming in removing emotional eating from your lives??

blessings, Sue

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