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TOPIC:   Avoiding self-sabotage . . . 


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HEYRLB
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8/5/08 9:42 P

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It's challenging changing my lifestyle in social events. Parties, restuarants....limited control to what is on the menu and what is a healthy choice!

Take one day at a time, small changes will start adding up. Try not to beat yourself up! You had a great week! Ok so the weekend was challenging....I'm right there with you! I had a great week last week, then had a weekend function in which I ate and drank. I'm back on track as of Monday, but am challenged to get walking in because I'm spending so many hours at work this week! We can do this! Don't give up!



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ACRUMMY
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8/5/08 9:27 A

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I think I understand what your saying Squigi. Dr. Phil actually says this alot...there is a reason you aren't losing weight. For expample...you may have been hurt by someone when you were smaller so you associate the hurt with the skinyness. You should read his book or look up some like it.
My eating is very emotional and I still struggle with abandoment issues, so I link the food to the feelings.
I think this is what you were meaning when you say you slide back. Hope it helps!

April


"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."
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"Our intention creates our reality"
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MEXICOBILL
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8/4/08 11:44 A

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Try to avoid STINKEN THINKENemoticon


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TREZZY
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8/2/08 4:31 P

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I have done myself in this week a couple of times. You could even say I fell off the wagon lol. I will get back on track TODAY!!


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COLLEGECOOK6
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7/14/08 10:18 A

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Yeah I have gotten my mom on SP so she is heading on the right path as well. But I have also finally come to the realization that I can't harm my own health for her, and that if I am successful, I will be much more of an inspiration to her and some of my overweight friends than someone who is just always "trying" to lose weight.

"It was a high counsel that I once heard given to a young person, 'always do what you are afraid of.'"


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OAKDALE3
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7/14/08 10:01 A

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I think that is what I did this weekend when I went nuts and binged all weekend. I was doing great with my food. I was eating healthy and working out and then I spent the weekend at my parent's cottage with my family around and binged the entire weekend. I blew a week of hard work.

I am not sure why I did it. I am not sure I have the self control I need to lose the weight I need to lose.

"Don't Panic" - Arthur Dent

"The greatest accomplishment is not in never failing, but in rising again after you fall." - Vince Lombardi

Pray for snow!!


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MAMAHOPE
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7/14/08 9:07 A

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I self-sabotage constantly! I really relate to what you are saying. And I can also relate, not my mom, but basically all of my closest friends are quite overweight. I actually think one of the reasons why I haven't lost much is because I feel bad that they aren't. I won't do that anymore! I can't keep harming my health just so they won't feel so bad. I'll never understand the real reason why we sabotage ourselves, sometimes I think for me it is because I am not only afraid of failure, but I am afraid of success. With the positive reinforcement we get from SparkPeople we can stop this destructive behavior. I am so thankful to find a place that keeps me motivated and encouraged!

Live life intentionally!


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SQUIGI
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7/14/08 1:36 A

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Thanks! And you're right -- I do much better when I focus on the health benefits, and not on the weight loss.

Also, in thinking it through, I realized that I do really well when I focus on things I can control -- eating right, exercising every day, drinking water -- instead of on whether or not I am losing weight. It's when I shift my focus over to the weight loss that I let myself get weirded out.

So, I am going to shift my goals around a little bit, so I can set up a structured program for continued success, but basing my "reward system" on days of exercise, sleeping, drinking water, eating healthfully, taking my supplements, etc.


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COLLEGECOOK6
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7/13/08 11:05 P

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I don't know if it is exactly what you are dealing with but I think in some ways I do sabotage myself because their are fears that come with losing weight, like dealing with new attention from people and personally for me, losing weight and watching my mom still struggle with it. What I am trying to do right now is not think so much about the weight loss and more about the health benefits. That will help to keep you encouraged, even though losing a pants size is a bonus, the realy reason for your hard work is your health. By thinking that way it might be easier to stay on track. I really hope this helps, Good Luck!

"It was a high counsel that I once heard given to a young person, 'always do what you are afraid of.'"


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SQUIGI
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7/13/08 3:23 P

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Thanks, JENNI BELLE for your comments.

I'm not sure I communicated the problem well, though. I am not worried about what other people think. Changing clothes sizes, and people's comments, are both separate triggers which seem to set off (over time) a similar response in me.

Improving my health is for me. The problem is that I have a hard time continuing when I can see the changes in myself. Hard to explain. For a lot of people, it seems like they are just happy, and are able to congratulate themselves for losing weight, etc., so it might be hard to understand where I am coming from.

If anyone else has experienced what I am experiencing (fears or other issues related to losing weight), I would really appreciate hearing from you!


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JENNI_BELLE
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7/13/08 9:48 A

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I guess you could buy the new clothing and not tell anyone about the new size and when people compliment you just thank them and say you have been working really hard but you are still a work in progress, then change the subject. Don't dwell on the weight loss issue and don't make a big deal of it in your mind. You know you have done great thing so be proud of yourself. once you love yourself allother issues you are working on in life will become easier to deal with. Not sure if i am making any sense but i think what i am trying to say is that all this life changing is for YOU and you need to love yourself and be proud of who you are!~

KEEP SMILING! YOU ARE WORTH IT :)



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SQUIGI
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7/13/08 2:15 A

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Does anyone have any ideas on how to avoid self-sabotage? I have lost more than 15 pounds in the past six months, and I am just about to drop a clothing size. Usually, when I get to the point that it's a noticeable change (either when people start commenting on my weight loss, or when I drop a size), I backtrack and start to gain the weight back.

Obviously, I have some fears and issues associated with being a healthy weight. In the past, I have just thought, I am not ready to lose the weight yet, and I need to keep working on my issues.

At this point, however, I really just think I need to get healthy. I don't think I am avoiding life issues, I just think they are working out more slowly that I would like, but I am sick of waiting to live until all my "issues" are worked out.

Any ideas? -- I would especially appreciate thoughts from people who have had a similar experience, and been able to break through it!




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