Nicky, wow. You must be an old soul for your chronological age betrays you! You are indeed a wise woman. I'm looking forward to taking a look at your sparkpage to see what else you have to say!
Laurie - I know *all about* how weight effects health! Tragically, I wish I didn't, but I also know that consoling myself with a tub of Ben & Jerry's (which I have done!) doesn't make it any better. Please believe me when I say it's great when you can find someone who understands where it is you're coming from, and they are there too! I have loads of thin friends who just don't get *it*. They are supportive, but...
Another thing, cardio isn't the end all and be all of working out. You need to do strength training too, and that will help boost metabolism. That burns calories even when resting!
But most importantly, don't beat yourself up. Keep taking those baby steps and know that we're all here for you!
The best thing to happen to me since I joined spark people is the amount of support and kindness I have received from total strangers.
It has inspired me in ways I can't begin to tell you, nor can I ever really express how much it has meant to me.
Keep up the good work!!!
"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. " - Plato
"You must strive to find your own voice. Because the longer you wait to begin, the less likely you are to find it all. Thoreau said, 'Most men lead lives of quiet desperation.' Don't be resigned to that. Break out!" - Robin Williams as John Keating ~ Dead Poet's Society
I can really relate! I have NEVER seen myself for what I truly am. I recently saw some photos of myself at my heaviest and just couldn't believe it!
I still have a very difficult time with body image and what I actually look like vs. what my mind thinks I look like. I continue to work on it and am SOOOOOOOOOOO happy I made the choice to get healthy and lose weight! I'm a new person inside & out!!
I just decided one day that I was going to go for gold!
I wont say I'm the most perfect role model but I am really motivated and know what I want!
Some good advice that a fellow spark member told me
- Write down all of your goals, weight related or not.
- Write down how you are to achieve them
- Write down when you want to achieve them by and also a REALISTIC time.
Sometimes we want the weight to just drop off, but it doesn't always happen like that. You are already motivated Laurie! Because you have realised that you are unhealthy and have come to this amazing site to kick your unhealthy behaviours!
wow check you out! You seem to have the motivation to follow your daily spark training. You are in the mind set that I need to be in to lose. I'm taking baby steps. I know I'll have to get more physical to lose faster. Me and my daughter just started walking at night because it is so hot in the daytime and I'm playing Wii Olympics with the kids that seems to be burning some calories. Other than that I need to get off my duff. I want to be in the same mindset that you are in. Good luck to you and keep doing what you're doing!
I completely understand what it feels like. I saw one picture of myself with a few of my girlfriends and felt horrible. When we went out that night I felt great, we all spent time together getting ready and I felt awesome. Later when I looked at the pictures I realized that even dressing well and putting on a little make-up wouldn't make me look as thin as my friends. It's a tough realizaiton but I agree that it is a blessing in disguise. We can get through it and don't get discouraged, now you have even more motivation to push you towards our goal!
"It was a high counsel that I once heard given to a young person, 'always do what you are afraid of.'"
I joined because of the Ellen show also! I couldn't quite understand what the name was but I then stumbled upon it through searches. You are all keeping me going and i want to thank you. I almost gave up trying.
Seeing a picture of myself is what led me to Sparks. I know exactly how you feel. I didn't see myself as fat, I was shocked to see what I had become. I also agree that it is a very difficult thing to do, like breaking an addiction. I love food, I love to eat! that's what I know, how do you change it? Sparks is def helping educate me and knowing that there are other people feeling exactly the same way porves I'm not crazy! We can do it! One minute at a time if that's what it takes.
"If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." Wayne Dyer
Laurie....that picture was a blessing because it is a wake-up call for you and you have responded. It is the start of only good things to come. I recently went through the most agonizing depression over my circumstances. I made two of the best decisions I have ever made, worked hard to make them come true, and I am the happiest I have been in a long time. Sometimes we are shocked into change, but are grateful for the opportunity to better ourselves in the end. I see all of that for you!
It's harder than quitting smoking. I have more health issues as a result of the weight gain. Hopefully I'll lose those when the lbs come off. thanks for the uplift. I'm so very frustrated and feel horrible right now.
Boy do I know what you mean ! But don't give up, we're all in this together. I stopped smoking 9 months ago and gained . But it's worth it ! Now we'll work on our weight, even though I pigged out today . Look on the bright side,tomorrow is a new day with a new start ! Cindy
I've never been overweight. I've never had to 'diet'. That was always something someone else was doing. I saw a picture of myself taken last week. I had no visual understanding that this is the shape that I am in until now. I have a business convention to go to with lots of parties that we are invited to. Now I am so depressed and cried all night because of that picture. I'm just going to swear off food and get back to my old self. I can't do this weight thing. The trip is in 3 weeks. I was looking forward to it and now I'd just rather crawl in a hole.
SparkPeople, SparkCoach, SparkPages, SparkPoints, SparkDiet, SparkAmerica, SparkRecipes, DailySpark, and other marks are trademarks of SparkPeople, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
SPARKPEOPLE is a registered trademark of SparkPeople, Inc. in the United States, European Union, Canada, and Australia. All rights reserved.