Well, I've managed to stay off of Facebook for almost a week now and I have to say, it feels like a healthy decision. I get email notifications if someone invites me to an event or sends me a private message (both reasons that I used to tell myself that getting off of FB was not an option for me), but I have not logged on and am not spending my time seeing what other people are up to or comparing myself to others. I am hoping that I can keep it up since it seems to be helping my mental health to focus on myself alone and not be so concerned with what others are doing and thinking.
Facebook, like any social media site, can be a great cause for anxiety. You have to make choices when communicating, especially on Facebook. I have found that if I am careful about the friends I keep there I feel very safe. They know me, they know my heart, I use it totally as a form of communication and a way of seeing what my friends are up too. I rarely post, but when I do I put a great deal of thought into how it will be received. Ex. This past summer I posted on a friends page "Thoughts and prayers are with you." About 2 weeks later a bunch of us got together (this friend wasn't there) and every singe person asked me how she was and what was wrong with her. It was a simple matter of her having been on my mind for several days and I just thought that a quick note like that (on a public) forum would be alright, I learned it's not. Everyone was worried about her... Use it wisely, PERHAPS you can limit the amount of time you spend on Facebook instead of going " cold turkey" from the site. Like only allow yourself to sign on 2 times a day for 30 minutes at at time. That is plenty of time to catch up with everyone and say hi ... and then get on with your day...
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I'm finding that Facebook is a huge trigger for my anxiety and depression. Whether I'm anxious about something I've posted and whether or not I've made myself look like an idiot, or seeing other people's interactions and suddenly feeling bad about myself...lately all it seems to do is make me feel awful. But I have a hard time letting go completely, since it does help me know when events are going on, and sometimes I get positive feedback from friends online that makes me feel good about myself. I imagine I'm not the only one who feels this way. Any suggestions? I was thinking about setting a goal on Spark of # of days since logging on to Facebook, but I'm not sure it'd actually keep me from signing on at all. Please help. Thank you.
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