I went searching today in a basic Google search for the answer to this question. Yet one more time, someone that is supposed to love me has done something that is meant to hurt me. This person has made it obvious that that they hate me, yet they have never had the courage or self-respect to come out and tell me as much, or to tell me why. For me, certainly, if I have a problem with someone I will let them know and I will want to discuss the issue and work it out. I have no idea why anyone would want to do otherwise. It's bothered me so much over the last couple of years that this person doesn't like me that I've had months of nightmares about it. Today... one more small, & over-all, insignificant thing they've done to bug me. So I started to wonder... why do I care? I went searching for an answer. Here's a great article that I came up with that I think may help me change my way of thinking about some things.
I think my time of anxiety over this person deserves to be over. I know that I've done nothing to this person to make them feel the way they do. I also know that just because they've treated me the way they have I have a very good, and very valid, reason to dislike them... yet I do not. I love this person as I always have. So it seems to me that I am the 'bigger' person for it. If / when this person wants to talk to me and fix things between us, I will hug her and talk about it with joy and I'll welcome her back into my life. Until then... I've done nothing wrong! As the article says...I do not need her approval or disapproval. Either way my life will not change.
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