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11/15/08 3:34 A

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I agree with all, good on you for stepping out of your comfort zone and making connections with others. As someone mentioned, that lady may have had a bad day or wasn't feeling well or had her mind somewhere else - could be many reasons. Just don't give up. Keep reaching out and I agree, if you enjoy that volunteer work, keep it up. You did great.



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11/13/08 6:14 P

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What you did is great! You did nothing wrong, nothing! The sad truth is sometimes, even in churches, people can be mean BUT sometimes too, they are going through the same thing you are and are afraid to let anyone know. So it's a catch 22, give it time, pray about it and watch God move.
I'm proud of you - I could not do what you've done. way to go!!

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"The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes of mind."
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11/13/08 5:59 P

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It is really cool that you did that. Just remember, it is only one night. It generally takes time to get those conversations started, relationships initiated...I'm new to my community and job right now, and I just keep reminding myself that I will have some friends, it just takes awhile to make it happen. If you enjoy working with children, keep volunteering with the nursery, at least you like to do that and you are getting exposed to adults with whom you can start building relationships. Good luck and keep trying! Hold your head high and talk about things you are interested in.

"The price of being a sheep is boredom. The price of being a wolf is loneliness. Choose one or the other with great care." - gapingvoid.com


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11/13/08 4:56 P

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you did the right thing.. that is also very scary and upsetting to me too..
i am sad that church is one of the hardest placed for me to , do what you did..
i admire you .

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11/13/08 11:23 A

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I am proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone and trying to socialize. I know it is difficult, but be proud of yourself. I have had similar experiences, I find that the more familiar you become, or they become with you, the easier it will get. Hang in there. emoticon

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11/13/08 12:52 A

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Hey Aron, you are not alone (I have this anxiety too as well as many others) and I congratulate you for making the effort and getting out their and trying.

It may not of gone as planned, but that may have nothing at all to do with you, maybe the other lady was just preoccupied with something else... you never know. I encourage you to keep trying, in the same environment or a new one, but good for you for being brave and giving it your best shot.

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11/12/08 11:04 P

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Hey Everybody:

I went and volunteered at my church's nursery during services tonight. I did it in order to try to make some friends as well as help out my church. It didn't go as well as I hoped. I just don't know how to talk socially with new people. There was one other lady in there with me with the kids. I tried to engage her in conversation, but she just didn't seem interested. I thought this was a great idea for possibly making new friends. What did I do wrong? What else should I try?

Have a great night!

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