I have some social anxieties, but it manifests itself a bit differently. I think working on social interactions is helpful. I think once we get self conscious it's hard to pull out of it. Like a dripping faucet, once you hear it, it's hard to stop hearing it. There's a few things that I tell myself to try and balance. I think we all have a tendency to overestimate how much attention people pay to our own actions. You may key into the social dynamics around you, as it's something you're concerned about therefore more sensitive to, but for the majority of people I think most are fairly oblivious.
I've found that most people are so concerned about themselves and if they said or did anything stupid foremost, that they aren't really paying attention so much to what others are doing.
And I've noticed, as I have a good memory, and I remember the people I meet well, about 80-90% will meet me and forget completely that it ever happened, more then once. And I'm not shy, I speak up, I'm extroverted, I make an impression, but it's just that people by and large forget, they don't pay attention. Really and truly.
And lastly, I realize that I have no final control over how anyone perceives me. Everyone has their own preconceptions, and I can't manipulate that, and have given up thinking that I can. They'll simply think what they want regardless.
I find that these observations offer me some freedom from putting my own harsh self-evaluation and judgements about myself into others heads and thinking that's how they feel about me too.
I do make social blunders - I have a chemical imbalance, I'm a bundle of nervous ticks waiting to happen sometimes - and that's where being able to laugh at yourself can be a way to cope, or just to lighten up the microscopically intense self focus that we can get, and find some of this stuff as comical, rather debilitatingly embarassing.
I don't know if that helps at all. I wish you the best with your meeting with your therapist.
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