I know how it is to be stressed and have a million and a half things to do.
At the beginning of this month my Mom had Triple Bypass surgery. She had just moved a few months previously down to where I live, and I am the only family/friend within 900 miles.
So I spent 2 weeks at the hospital with her, and then once she was released, and I had to return to work. My husband would spend the day with her while I was at work (he is unemployed), and I would spend any time not at work at her house, doing all her care, housework, cooking, etc.
Somewhere in the middle of all that, my husband and I decided to divorce, which added a million more things to a day that was already too full. And of course at work, where I missed 2 weeks rather than the expected 1, I am still playing catch up.
It's easy to get overwhelmed, because everything seems of great importance, and everything has great consequences if I mess up.
It is a total cliche, but the only way to get through it, is to take it one day at a time. You can't let yourself get overwhelmed. Just remind yourself, that the fate of the entire world IS NOT resting on your shoulders, even though it feels like it.
And though its hard to do when everything is so important, but do your best to prioritize. My list goes like this...
1. My Mom's life is the most important, so the first things on my list are things that involve her post-op care.
2. Job. If I lose my job, I will effectively become homeless. So work is next.
3. Divorce details. Some are more important than others. I try and get a few things done each day, of the hundreds that need to get done.
So when I wake up in the morning, my to-do list for the day might look like this...
1. Take Mom to 11:30 Cardiologist appt.
2. Call Pulmonologist about oxygen
3. Work Stuff
4. Work Stuff
5. Work Stuff
6. Order annual free credit reports and verify that all joint accounts are closed, and all authorized users are removed.
7. Call Paralegal and find out status of divorce docs.
8. Meet with Mortgage lender about house refinance.
Though there are about 200 other important things on my list that NEED to get done. All I can do is what I am capable of doing. And stressing myself out, and making myself sick is not going to help me do things any faster.
And that is how I keep myself sane!
(Oh, and you might ask because, it never seems to make the list...but after being away from home for a month, and never having time to deal with it, my house needs to be thoroughly cleaned from top to bottom!!! For now, I just try not to notice during the hour a day I am here! LOL)
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