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8/18/08 1:34 P

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This sometimes happens to me as well.. I get anxious and edgy and the kids don't back off so I end up snapping and getting really grumpy. My daughter has gotten much better about it, she is 11 and I think she picks up that I sometimes have a hard time in certain situations but my son (6) still has no clue and usually gets hurt feelings that I need to smooth over after I snap.

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8/18/08 11:35 A

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I have had several in front of my family, all of which they determined I was angry at them. I really wasn't, sometimes it is the slightest thing. Like plan changes at the last minute or, constant, Mommy this and mommy that, makes you feel like there is not enough to go around to everyone. But, they are starting to see the episodes before hand or at least when it is happening and they give me the space I need,or at least they try. My hubby doesn't quite get it. He doesn't understand the extreme feelings without reason. I appreciate all of you. It helps so much to know you at not alone.

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8/17/08 8:26 A

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Thanks for sharing everyone. It helps me to understand better when my husband has an episode. I've always likened him unto Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, as his personality would seem to change and make no sense to me. I've spent a lot of years being angry with him for the things he's said during these attacks. Not sure how patient and loving I can be, but I know that giving him his space is the best response.

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8/16/08 12:44 P

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I also have an amazing hubby that is VERY supportive of any anxiety I may have. He doesn't quite understand it because thank you Lord he has never suffered with it but he does not make light of it to me and does whatever he can.
My daughter is also very wonderful, I have not had to many in front of them but even now they can both tell if I am started to struggle.
It is so great to be able to voice our concerns, feelings, and opinions here and get ideas and advice.


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8/16/08 11:32 A

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Thanks for your repies... when I would call my husband on the phone because I was having an attack he used to not be so supportive about it, but after I was diagnosed and he realized I just did not really have much control over it he has become more supportive. I talked to him about it last night when the kids had gone to bed and told him thank you and he was very sweet about it. I feel a lot better - thanks!!

The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.

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8/16/08 10:01 A

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I was having attacks for over a year before I finally busted out one in front of hubby and his sister and her hubby.
I was so embarrassed. My hubby looked at me like I was joking or something. I suppose he had never seen anything like it before...
But once he realized what was going on he made me go get medical help.
He is so sweet to me, and is so patient with me. I am grateful for that.

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8/15/08 11:38 P

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I hid them from my husband for years and now wish I would not have. He is such a support and it sounds like your husband is too. It's so much easier to get through the attacks knowing he won't get mad, he will only help. Makes the attacks shorter most of the time. My husband now helps me on bad days, he will say, let's go for a drive or walk me through a store just to show me I'm okay and if I need to get out quick, he is right there with me. Let your husband help you and don't feel upset with it.

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8/15/08 10:25 P

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I have only had a few with people in the car. Before my son could drive he was really good at calming me down and after he could I would pull over and let him or whomever was with me drive. You are lucky to have a supportive husband. My son was about 5 when they started and he has been my biggest support. If I start to have an attack while I am driving alone he is the 1st one I try to get ahold of on my cell phone. He leaves for College next week but I can still call!

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8/15/08 9:36 P

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I ended up having an anxiety attack while driving tonight with my hubby and kids in the car with me. He was excellent, very patient and he seemed to instictively know what to do (which was ignore me and direct the kids to look outside at things and try to distract them) but I feel so humiliated about the whole thing.. this is the first time I have had an attack in front of him where he could witness everything.

How do you guys deal with this?

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