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6/13/08 12:56 A

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It's true though, if you had cancer or something tangible the workplace tend to understand a break from work, but depression and anxiety are "soft" and still sometimes not recognized as being serious illnesses.

My thoughts are with both Julie and Rhonda, I hope things get better for both of you.

And I noticed Irish say she needed support in her huddle so my thoughts are with her as well.

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6/12/08 8:31 P

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Thanks

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6/12/08 7:48 P

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Rhonda and Julie - I'm glad you're both having a better day. Things will work out well for you - just keep that positive attitude and take care of yourselves.
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6/12/08 7:45 P

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God willing it will. I am doing good with everything right now. I found myself in a unsually good mood today. YEAH! So I am having a pretty good day. I hope you do too.

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6/12/08 7:16 P

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I hope everything works out for you, as well as for me.

When I get to 150, I'm going to have all my old friends, who treated me bad come to a bar. Then I'm going to walk in and strut my stuff in a mini skirt and black boots, and say "Look at Me Now!" LOL JK


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6/12/08 3:43 P

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AROSEFORC;

THanks I appreciate your thoughts. I am doing better with it today. I just have a need to know that I can take of me and my girls if I have too. I don't believe he is going anywhere soon, but if the issues arise again I may have to send him packing I pray I never will. Thanks again.

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6/12/08 1:31 P

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Julie~ So sorry you and DH are having problems. I wish you all the best in job hunting. I'm sure it's stressful and somewhat scary to think of the possibility of having to support yourself. I know when my dh and I went our ways I was terrified. Sometimes I still am because I struggle to make ends meet.


I am glad you have a coworker who understands and covers for you. I know when I worked I cherished my boss because on the days I was too anxious to wait on customers she would let me come in wearing jeans and t-shirt to do stock work.

Izzy it sounds liek you have really come a long ways. I like what you said about if we were diabetic we would take our meds....so true. I have some people in my life that mean well, but don't understand why I need all my meds. They have gotten better, but at one time one person tried to convince me to get off of them. I was so angry and hurt.

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6/11/08 2:45 P

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Thanks Izzy,
I appreciate your support. Hopefully I wont have to go there. We are working through alot of stuff and things are 10x better. Thanks

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6/11/08 12:42 P

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I feel for you Julie cos I went through the same thing, and marital problems along with looking for a job (and for me, throw in 2 kids under 3) don't do much to help panic and anxiety. That's why you have to take care of yourself - and believe me, it DOES get better and easier. I promise.

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6/11/08 11:26 A

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Great advice Izzy. I am proud of you for stepping up and letting your co-workers know about our illness. I have one co-worker who does, and when I am having a moment she helps me and covers for me I guess you would say. I had a pretty rough night, ended up at my sister's house in the bed with her. I just didn't want to be a alone. My hubby and I were having a marital issue, one that continues to creep up and ruin things for a while, until I can regain my composure. I am on a quest for a new job as well. One that provides more benefits, so if I have to support myself I will have insurance and better benefits. Wish me luck too. emoticon

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Forgot something:
One thing my doctor told me that really resonated was: 'If you were a diabetic, you'd get the medical help you needed. Why wouldn't you do the same for an illness of the mind?' Keep that in mind...there is nothing 'weird' about us, we just have an illness and we need to treat it and keep it under control.

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6/11/08 8:31 A

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I agree with Katherine. We tend to keep our anxiety and/or depression a 'secret' out of some antiquated feeling of shame and it's ridiculous. About 15 years ago I suffered what they called 'burnout' at work and my doctor ordered me to take 3 months off and work on my anxiety/panic disorder. That meant taking meds, seeing a psychologist, seeing my doctor every week for an update, eating properly, exercising, the works! It really set me on the path to recovery and I haven't looked back. When I went back to work, I decided to bite the bullet and tell everyone what my issue was - I was amazed at the number of people who came to me privately afterwards to say they had the same illness but thought they were alone. After I'd made it 'public' I set my boundaries and had no problem tellling people when I was having a 'moment' - it was great and made work so much better. I worked in a pretty high stress area (for a departmental Minister - I think you call them 'Secretaries'? in your government system down south)but was able to do my job much better. As a matter of fact, I became more confident than I had ever been and was promoted. Speak up...get the help you need, and never think you're alone in this.
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6/10/08 10:53 P

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I just came off a 2 year long term disability from my job (which I had to fight tooth and nail for with my insurance company but finally got it, after they made me even worse). I just returned to the job and so far it's going okay because I have a shift that works for me although it's still hard to work 5 straight days in a row.

I know that in my area they have job search agencies which are specifically geared for people who have a mental illness, such as depression and/or anxiety etc. I was going to check them out, but returned to work and found it to be okay so I haven't, but maybe you should look into something like that in your area?

I know it's very different in Canada compared to the States, but you really do have to be very assertive about your illness and it's affects on you and your life, including your job, no matter what country you live in.

It's nice that you have someone who supports you. That's not always the case, so you're very lucky there. And you always have us as well to rebound your thoughts or concerns off of.

I wish you luck and don't give up. There are always opportunities out there, you just need to look harder sometimes.

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6/10/08 10:33 P

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I am glad you have such a supportive boyfriend. Goodluck with the job interview. I am currently looking for a different job as well. I am having anxiety about, because I want that job really bad. But I feel blessed that I have a job. I feel like if this other job is for me, then it will happen. Pray for me too, I have some personal struggles with my hubby and I feeling pretty sad right now. Good luck with your job. emoticon

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Thank you for support I really need it. My boyfriend, said he would help me out through my struggles and my family. I split rent with my boyfriend,and he told me since he has a good income that he will pay for rent and the groceries and everything until I can get a job, which makes me feel worse, but I had an interview for another job. And, I'm going to call them today to see how everything is going with my application. Cross your fingers for me!

When I get to 150, I'm going to have all my old friends, who treated me bad come to a bar. Then I'm going to walk in and strut my stuff in a mini skirt and black boots, and say "Look at Me Now!" LOL JK


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6/10/08 10:19 A

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My thoughts and prayers will be with you. I agree with what's already been said....being anxious and panicy over the situation is fine. Yell, scream, cry, but try not to let this whole thing consume you to the point where you are parylized and can do nothing. Talking with friends or someone who cares and may be able to help is a great place to get started.

If you are having trouble paying bills....rent/mortgage, utilities and such there are many organizations out there that will help with these things. Also churches are helpful. They often have benevolance funds to help those in need.

Hang in there and I wish you the best in finding another job.

Cynthia

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Hi Rhonda,

I am sorry to hear of your situation. Izzy is right. Have a support chat with friends that can give you a different prespective. Update your resume and remember it is okay to have panic and a good cry. Just don't stay there. Work anywhere is better than no work at all. Visit a the web postings for jobs and talk to an agency. We have a Texas Workforce here that is helpful and several agencies. See what you can find. Make a job of finding a job. Good Luck. Prayers are with you. Julie

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Hi Rhonda
I know how that feels. I remember when I'd taken the (some said stupid) step of buying my first house without having a permanent job. I'd just moved out and was told I was being laid off! I nearly died. Two kids under 3, a mortgage and no job! First I cried. Then I got some friends over to talk and drink a bit of wine. Then I worked out a plan. And that's what YOU need to do. Panic and cry if you need to, but don't sink too far into it. Can you get a friend or relative over who doesn't suffer from panic/anxiety who can help you look at the situation from a different perspective? The obvious first step in your plan is to start looking for another job - no matter what it is. Something through an agency? I don't know what you do, but it doesn't matter at this point - what you want is money coming in. Then maybe you can look at your CV, re-do it, and flood the area with job applications. Keep yourself busy - even with volunteer work - so that you're not focussing on the thing that makes you panic. Deep breaths.....it will be ok. Keep up posted and keep in touch.
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I just found out I'm not working again for the seventh day in a row, I'm laid off. Can't collect Unemployment. I'm basically losing my job. My heart is racing, and I think I'm going to have a panic attack.

When I get to 150, I'm going to have all my old friends, who treated me bad come to a bar. Then I'm going to walk in and strut my stuff in a mini skirt and black boots, and say "Look at Me Now!" LOL JK


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