While this is definitely social and may be anxiety, I'm not sure that what you're feeling is Social Anxiety: the condition.
You seem to be dealing with a lot of changes and responding to them in a way that seems pretty natural.
When I read your post I had just read an article the day before that discussed chronic tardiness and prompted the reader to explore the possibility that they were late social events (lunch with friends, etc.) because they were avoiding things that bothered them.
There were lots of possibilities; but one was that their friends may be making them uncomfortable for various reasons.
It's not hard to see why you are not completely comfortable with your new friends and might want to avoid them sometimes. You wrote that they are not close friends -- so while you enjoy doing things again as you did with your old (more close) friends -- you haven't gotten to that point with your new ones.
Maybe you're just cautious -- which is wise since it takes time to figure out new people. Maybe there are things about some of your new acquaintances that make you uncomfortable.
It's good that you are questioning your change in comfort level. But I do think that in addition to looking within yourself, you should also look outside at the situation(s) that are causing this change and then you will be able to deal with it accordingly.
P.S. I have never liked surprise visits either. It would rattle me too if someone called me and said that someone else was coming over! I like to prepare for things, and I get annoyed when anyone besides close family just drops in.
Edited by: CAIRI1 at: 5/14/2008 (11:29)
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