Ugh.. Definitely got a farent on my hands too. The only time she really wants anything to do with the kids is when it's something fun or makes her look good in other people's eyes. She isn't around for them other than that. They come very last on her priority list and it's disgusting. She would rather party and sleep around than actually take care of her kids. Luckily, I have a pretty good relationship with the kids. I just hope someday they will see her for what she is. They still hold a candle for her, and always will I'm sure. It's just sad to see them missing her and her not really caring.
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Pounds lost: 61.0
Fitness Minutes: (1,395) Posts: 136 7/25/13 12:57 P
Well, the hubs has become rather frustrated with the bio mom. 7 months behind in support payments, yet can take his daughter to go get her hair done every two weeks at the salon. 130 dollars on that childs head, while she completely does nothing for her son. I am so furious.
The only thing I can do at the moment is just step back.
I wish I had answers for you too!!! I also have that problem, kind of! The biomom doesn't want anything to do with her kid. He is 15, and the middle kid. My problem is dad wants to be a farent too! I am strict, I have talked to my hubby, hopefully that works. Hang in there!!! I am the wicked step monster extrodinaire!! LOL
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Fitness Minutes: (5,752) Posts: 611 7/10/13 11:13 A
I'm dealing with the same thing. She has No rules,boundaries,or anything. I'm the mean step -mom who makes rules and holds him accountable for his actions. There are days I'm at my wits end. She is the good time Mom that is So fun....Me not so in his eyes. I've tried to talk to her and it's like talking to one of my teenagers. I don't have an answer for you. Sorry
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Fitness Minutes: (1,395) Posts: 136 5/21/13 3:08 P
Are you wondering what is a farent? It is a parent who would rather be their child's friend, than to instill values and discipline. So the questions posed to me is how do you get the farent to be on the same page as the one trying to set rules and boundaries? Especially if there is friction between the farent and the step mother? Any suggestions?
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