Hi!! You most definately deserve to have time with your kids on holidays and non-school days.
As far as driving, splitting that seems fair. But I'd prefer him picking up the girls and you retrieving them, but that's me.
I am not sure how often he sees the girls now? How different will it be to "live" with dad every other weekend compared to now? I'd be freaking out! I am so sorry for you. It's hard when things change. I do think that if he hasn't been an active dad thus far, he won't change. You may stress out, set up an elaborate plan for visitation only to find that it doesn't hold anyway. That he falls back into his old ways.
Still, fight fight fight for what you want. I am puzzled why you would take him back to court regarding visitation if the girls didn't want to go? If it's because he was making demands because he was moving, if he is anything like my ex, he'll be all talk and no change. I know you'd prefer that the girls have a relationship with their dad, but you said it, you can't force it. As long as the girls have opporunity there's not much else you can do. I know many out there say to force young ones. My feelings are that if a child is at the age they can explain their reasons for not wanting to visit, I don't think forcing is a good idea at all. Even if their explanation doesn't make total sense.
My step-daughter was 8 when I married her father. He didn't do anything to try and have a relationship with her. Yes, we took her out now and then but mostly, she didn't want to see him (or me?). I used to get so angry because I thought he should be doing more. 12 years later I was blessed with this beautiful young ladies' friendship! We got surprisingly close. She told me that she wasn't ready for her father's attention. She was happy that I never won that battle with him. She said she needed to come to terms on her own. As you see, it took a long time. (she was killed by a drunk driver which is why this sounds past tense, I miss her).
My experience with 11 very different children is that the relationship will happen but it will be on the child's terms. They are going through so much, it takes time to weed through all their feelings.
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