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9/14/11 3:57 P

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Debbie - If you have not discovered Skype yet, you should! This is free over the internet and you can both see and hear your loved ones who live far away. I have been doing this with my son who lives about 150 miles away. It's the next best thing to being there and really helps fight the lonlies!

My sons who live close, I only hear from when they need help with something. I figure I have done my job of launching them if they are doing OK. Hopefully some day they'll call just to talk! emoticon

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Hi Janet,
I'm glad you've joined us and jumped right in to tell us about yourself.
How wonderful that your son works with his dad. Nice!
I'm so glad you and your daughter-in-law get along as well as you do.
Yes, I understand what you're trying to say. My daughter and her husband are in the same county as us, but we let them live their own lives too. My son lives across the country, and he's not married yet, though is sure hoping to be in the not too distant future. :) It's hard having him such a distance. I cry every time he leaves, but am thankful for the times he visits. It's usually a week or so at a time. Which is wonderful.
It's great to have you with us.

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Hay Everyone
My name is Janet.As you can see I'm a memaw.My granddaughter is now 4years young.She is an only child as her dad(my son grown 32 yrs.of age).My husband &I are lucky.our son works with his dad.Easy for me cause I know daily how he is.Daughter-in-law & I get alone just great.If our son & his family moved to far from us I dont know if I could handle the complete cutting of the apron string.
No I am not one of those moms that have to be in their grown childs life daily &I'M not .I just like knowing they are close by.We live in the same county but far enough away to not get into each others business.
Sure hope you all understand what I'm tryiny to say.

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4/11/11 7:48 A

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Hi Debbie,
You did great sharing here.
How nice to have an eighty degree spring day. I hope you got to enjoy it thoroughly.
The count down to the two week mark and five week mark is no fun, is it? Boy did I cry when my son moved a distance away. However, he knew that it was just because I love him so much, so he was okay with it. He keeps in touch in various ways, as I'm sure your daughter will. It's not the same thing, that's for sure, as having them there with you, but when we were their age we needed to get out and be the adults we were raised to be too.
I am sure SparkPeople will help you through this difficult time. Share whenever you need to.

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4/10/11 10:25 P

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Hi everyone, I'm Debbie. This is my first time writing on a blog. Hope I do it right. It was a gorgeous 80 degree day in Michigan today. It was also my youngest daughter's final choir concert at Alma college. She is graduating in 2 weeks, then moving to Virginia 3 weeks later. Not only will my home be totally void of kids, but I'm going to miss having her with me. I love both my daughter's equally, but this daughter and I have a special bond. Does anyone else feel that way towards one of your children? And how do you deal with a child moving so far away? I'm glad I found SparkPeople. Here's hoping it will help me through this difficult time.

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3/4/11 1:55 P

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Welcome to the team, PHYLISSCR . Hop right on in and tell us about your empty nest?

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2/28/11 1:31 P

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Hi to you both:)
I'm glad you're getting a good visit with your daughter, Cindy.
Sure hope the water dries up quickly and the storm damage can be cleared away easily.

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Good Monday to you all! I am tired of the rain already. Our yard is cover with limbs and water from the storms that we had the last few days in Western KY.

Daughter came home this weekend. Have a good visit.

I hope all is going well for everyone!

Everyone is doing the best they can with what they have and where they are.

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2/27/11 6:24 P

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Hi, I am finally exploring the message boards here on this team. I am excited to get to know more people on this team. Sorry to read about so many that aren't speaking to their grown children. I did go through a short time of turmoil with a daughter, it broke my heart. I am so glad that we have a great relationship now. Instead I have problems with my siblings, I have tried so hard and I have had to just let it go and go on. Take care everyone!

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2/16/11 2:03 P

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congrats on dropping that size, Cindy!

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2/16/11 11:53 A

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Welcome Diana! You can do it and we are here for you!

I found out last night I am down a size. I am trying not to weigh so much so I am going off of how my clothes feel!

We finally are getting some sunshine here in Western Kentucky! Had enough snow last week so ready for spring!!!

Have a great day!

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2/14/11 8:59 A

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Welcome, HOPE2KIDZ. We'd love to have you tell us about yourself! :)


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2/9/11 9:59 A

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That's right, it's a great place to be open about such. I've fallen into that at times too, but we forgive ourselves and get right back on track. It's so nice to have an outlet like this, as well as the support.
You'll do great today!

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2/8/11 4:50 P

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Thank you for your lovely welcome. Today was not the best workwise and I'm afraid refuge was sought in the cookie jar ( or biscuit tin as we say here).
This is where I now truly appreciate how SP works. Formerly I would have spiralled on the back of a day like today. Tonight I'm here, able to type my thoughts and I know I can pick up again tomorrow.
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Diana - welcome. I hope you find love and comfort and lots of support here. You have a great start under your feet. emoticon Welcome!!!

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Well of course we'll have you. Welcome, Diana! :)
That's too cool how you happened upon Sparkpeople by looking for exercises online, and have been loving it since. Five weeks of learning already, and completing boootcamp and a couple starter challenges-wow-great!
Yeah, eating for comfort was my theme too, it seemed.
We want to be here for you as well.
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Hi. I'm Diana from England. I joined SP 5 weeks ago and am having a great time, learning lots and picking up on exercise again!

The Empty Nest Syndrome is one reason why I let myself get all 'grumpy-frumpy'. The kids slowly left to do their respective things. This coincided with DH working abroad more and, although I still work and am kept busy, I guess I started eating for comfort.

Anyhow 'Fresh Start January' and a rather high Cholesterol reading coincided and I found SP purely by chance when I was looking for Home Exercises online. I'm loving it!

I completed Bootcamp and a couple of starter challenges and am looking for interest groups. I hope I can offer something here if you'll have me?



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I'm so glad she's with us. I welcomed her with a spark goodie message earlier today. I am not sure if she has read it yet, but it'll be great to have her with us when she does join in.:)

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YAY! LIVING4HIM_INWI is my FRIEND, and she's now a member of our team! She is PRECIOUS! WELCOME her, everyone! emoticon emoticon



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Hurray! I'm so glad you're here! I'll be around more when all the company leaves this weekend!



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12/30/10 12:06 P

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Hi everyone. I am new to SP, but am already feeling the companionship. Thanks.

I am single and have been an empty nester for a long time now, and most of the time I love it. Free to go where and when I want, do what and when I want, etc. The eat what and when I want is what gets me into trouble. Without having people around all the time, I do not have very good self control with food and do not make myself excercise as I need to. I am definitely looking for a food and exercise buddy if anyone knows of anyone in the Spanaway/Grahma, WA area, please contact me.

I am getting to where this yo-yo weight lifestyle is taking its toll on me and I am asking for help in any way.

By the way, love to travel, flower garden, walk, and camp.

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11/27/10 2:38 P

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Hey, we have ANOTHER sparker joining the Empty Nesters team! Please be sure to welcome AMARLAVIDA, as she is new to SparkPeople and will no doubt need our support and friendship as she begins this journey to better health! emoticon emoticon



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Wow! Another friend has joined our team! Please be sure to welcome my sparkfriend, SWINKIE57 (Carol) to our team! Our team is growing, and that is great! I don't have a lot of time left tonight, but I wanted to be sure ya'll got acquainted! Please just jump right in and I hope you find our team to be one you can relate with, Carol!



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emoticon One of my favorite SparkFriends has just joined our team!!! Get to know SANDYJAS, as she is funny, witty, upbeat, and sometimes, well, she's just hilarious and I LOVE HER!

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I all. Well this could be the test for me. My daughter usually comes homes every weekend. but this weekend she has some things that she is involved in and is going to stay at the college. Next weekend I leave to go to a craft camp. But I know it will be ok. Just different. I hope all is well with everyone!

Everyone is doing the best they can with what they have and where they are.

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8/26/10 11:58 P

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STEELKICKIN has just joined our team! Please go to her blog from today and read it! It is priceless, and I know that we all can relate!

STEELKICKIN, we are all looking forward to getting to know you! Welcome to our team! You will find a lot of wonderful people on this team, and I hope you will jump right in and get involved!

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Hey! EMPTYNESTRI has joined our team! Welcome! emoticon (I forget, but isn't your name Suz?)I am so glad you're joining our team! I hope you like what you see! It's summertime and a lot of us are running here and there (my 2 year old grandson is here), but we do try to be here for each other as much as we can! emoticon Please feel free to add me as one of your SparkFriends! emoticon



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A big welcome to ANGELWNGS60!!! Sparkpage must be set to private because I couldn't seem to send a personal message. Everyone be sure to welcome ANGELWNGS60 as our newest member of our team!
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Welcome, Deb! I tried to make you my friend, but maybe you have your page set to private. If you want your page to be accessible to us, you might consider changing that. We'd LOVE to get to know you, give you support, and encouragement when needed! I am SO GLAD you've joined our team! All of us have different situations, but the common thread we all have is that our children are children are in the the process of leaving the nest, or they've already gone (usually, that is! everyone's welcome!). I think you'll find our team warm and friendly, with a strong desire to better our lives as best we can! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon



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Hey Deb - I understand your dilemma completely. I have three children. The oldest is a daughter just married and loving life with her honey in California. She can't wait to be a mommy some day and looks forward to my involvement with that. We talked regularly and she is always my best cheerleader. My middle daughter is also recently married and has two children. She and I are fine but my SIL has control issues and I don't get to see them as often as I would like. I live in Ohio and they are in Indiana - a 3 hr road trip, but they have not been to my home in three years, I always have to go there. Also, there is always a sense of needing permission to make arrangements to get to see them. Its getting better, but still a pain.

I hope you are able to find some support here on the team. I do think by posting you will get lots of feedback and understanding that we all wear different shoes, but they fit the same. emoticon

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This is my first time on Empty Nesters. Hope I am following the prompts right. Somewhat computer tech challenged.

I have 8 children (ages 25 to 38) and 5 grandchildren (Twins-almost 2, brother 5, and cousins 5 and 9). Have been empty nesting for 6 years now. What a difficult trip it has been for me.

As I grew up with 6 siblings younger than me I have been a "mom" since the age of 4. I've loved being a mom for these 54 years, (I am 58 years old)has been the norm for me, so have felt quite a big hole even though I have no problem keeping "busy"'

I live in PA, 2 of our grandchildren live in TX (are able to have good visits several times a year)and the other 3 live midstate PA.(both parents have OCD and are overly protective of their children) Very painful to have our daughter unable to leave my husband and I alone with her children even in another room. Very limited visiting allowed.

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This is my first time on Empty Nesters. Hope I am following the prompts right. Somewhat computer tech challenged.

I have 8 children (ages 25 to 38) and 5 grandchildren (Twins-almost 2, brother 5, and cousins 5 and 9). Have been empty nesting for 6 years now. What a difficult trip it has been for me.

As I grew up with 6 siblings younger than me I have been a "mom" since the age of 4. I've loved being a mom for these 54 years, (I am 58 years old)has been the norm for me, so have felt quite a big hole even though I have no problem keeping "busy"'

I live in PA, 2 of our grandchildren live in TX (are able to have good visits several times a year)and the other 3 live midstate PA.(both parents have OCD and are overly protective of their children) Very painful to have our daughter unable to leave my husband and I alone with her children even in another room. Very limited visiting allowed.

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Hey, everyone! We have a new member! Everyone be sure to welcome DONNAD222 to the team! emoticon It's weird! I can't find her page!

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Thanks Ladies! It's still hard not hearing her voice...we used to talk almost every day, but I have to know that I gave her the roots and now she has the wings...I just pray that she will return. The door is ALWAYS opened and so is my heart!

MANY THANKS!
Nancy

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Ahhh, someday, if you dare, go read my first blog or two... I was a doozy growing up! emoticon

Dawn and Nancy, I'm so glad you're here! emoticon s

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Hi, everyone! Finally got a moment to post and intro myself here. I'm Dawn; I have a 18yo son in college with JUNIOR status (he started last year when he was 17!) and a 22yo step-daughter who has an almost-3yo son. I tried to warn her about the "don't get pregnant just because you think it will make your boyfriend grow up" thing, but it didn't work; needless to say, now she knows what I was talking about. My DS is a good kid, but I've had a hard time navigating the "letting go" portion of the program, especially since he went away to college last year!

I wanted to thank everyone for the warm welcome I got when I first joined; I've just been too busy to thank everyone personally, which I'd prefer.

Coach Nancy, hang in there. I was a pretty rough young adult to handle, and went through some interesting life experiences, but I turned out fairly well. Just let your daughter know you love her unconditionally; that's really all I ever wanted from my parents, and didn't really get from them.

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Nancy,
My thoughts and prayers are with your family. Like Lori's post below, I can also empathize. Years ago, my younger daughter started dating a guy who was every parent's worse nightmare, as far as habits, choices, values, morals...and most importantly...influence over our daughter!

For a period of about a year, she would randomly take off with this guy and not tell us where she was for days on end. When she did resurface from God only knows where, she would tell her dad and I to "let go" and "leave them alone", because they were "over 18." I'll never forget driving around all night...looking for her...calling her friends...the guy's parents...hospitals...and even the police...wondering if she was somewhere in jail, or much worse.

Eventually, things came together for my daughter, and she's now a wonderful young wife and mother, who is studying to become an RN. Some of the lessons she did have to learn, herself. And while she never apologized to her dad or me, I'm just thankful that things worked out, and pray that our blessings will continue.

Nancy, hang in there, and please lean on your friends here at SP anytime. There's always someone here who is ready to listen...cry with you...pray with you, or just be here for a hug. Please keep us posted!
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Oh, Nancy, that sounds SO difficult and sad! First, I will say that I will be praying for your daughter, AND for you and your husband. These periods in our lives can be so rough, and cut straight to the heart.

Last spring, during finals, our son, Jeff, ended up in jail for the entire week of finals. We could have bailed him out, but he needed the lesson. He got F's in all the classes, and the future looked pretty bleak for him. Fast forward to now, and praise God, he went through the university's appeal process, and is enrolled again, and I think, doing pretty well!

That's just a snippet of one of our four, but it seems each child has had their own dramatic crisis, and it leaves us (Drex and me) so drained and frazzled! THAT is another reason SparkPeople appealed to me! I CANNOT control what others do, I just can't. But I CAN control what LORI does! It has meant so much to me!

You have really touched my heart, and I hope that you know that the team members here will rally around you and at the least, let you know that we're all in this together!

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Hey Everyone!

I hope this team will be a source of great love and guidance for me. While I may be a community expert and coach, I too, share in many of your situations.

Our daughter walked away from her senior year in college one month ago to live with her boyfriend. She did not tell her Dad or me that she left and now she refuses to have anything to do with us. She is over 350 miles away. We used to talk every day just sometimes just to say 'hi'. To say our hearts aren't breaking is an understatement, but I do pray that one day these hearts will be mended. My faith and the love and support of GREAT friends will pull us through.

THANKS for welcoming to the group!

HUGS!
Nancy

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WELCOME Coach NANCY!!! This is emoticon that you have joined our team!!! It is rather small as far as currently active members, but we are a emoticon group of friends! emoticon I have learned SO MUCH from you, and well, I'm just thrilled that you are here! emoticon Lori



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Alison, I am soooo bad!!! I know that my older daughter is working a part time second job even though I don't know what her schedule is. She works a few evenings a week as a front end manager at a local grocery store. (She has a very good full time job also working with families/children...enough said about that) Anyway I was going out to dinner with younger daughter and SIL Friday night and wanted a gift card to the restaurant. So off I went to the grocery store to earn the bonus gas points on it. It is just a little something extra...why pay cash at the restaurant when I can earn points and save on my gas by buying the gift card. Anyway my older daughter was filling in on a register while the cashier was at lunch so I made sure to go through dd checkout line. She just talked up a storm like there was nothing wrong. Of course I know it is because everyone there knows I am her mother as many of them are my friends and would wonder if she didn't talk to me. She talked for at least ten minutes about things going on in her life and with her car...nothing about my grandson. At least now I saw her and know that she is ok and so are the kids or she would have said. I finally told her I had to go. She said she loved me and would talk to me later. Of course that is what she said the last time I was there and she was working. But she knows that I love her and where I am also.
There is no way you and I can not love our kids...no matter how many times they break our hearts. Keeping you in prayer that your DD will see the light and contact you soon.
I am proud to be added as your friend.
Blessings and hugs,
Helen

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1/27/10 10:27 A

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Dear Helen,
Thank you so very much for including me in todays post, you'll never know how very much I needed to hear that from an adult who really cares, outside of my home.

You are an inspiration and your daughter is lucky to have you as a mother, you're a good one at that. I too will pray that your daughter sees the light and comes to you soon.

I always keep the lines of communication open with my daughter, I've never changed my phone number or my address so that when she needs me she can always find me. I will always love her no matter what, she has my unconditional love for life just as my son does. I love them both equally.

Again, thank you so very much. Take care and I hope you don't mind but I've added you as a friend so we can keep in touch.
Alison


Oh Great Spirit who dwells in the sky, lead us to the path of peace and understanding. Our lives are so short here, walking upon Mother Earth's surface. Let our eyes be opened to all the blessings you have given us. Please hear our prayers, oh Great Spirit.

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Good morning everyone. It is probably easier just to read my spark page to keep this short. I am 56, mother of two daughters, a 15 year old grandson, an 8 year old adopted grandson, granddogs, and of course, my borrowed child...six year old McKenzie who is the sunshine in my days. Although I am an empty nester, my daughters live within twelve miles of me. My younger I talk to daily and is also a "sparker", POOH_BEAR_69.
Allison, I know exactly what you are talking about. My older daughter is angry with me and hasn't talked to me since September. This is very difficult because I really love my 15 year old grandson (I helped raise him) and I rarely hear from him. She has used him to hurt me in the past and continues to do so. Now he isn't allowed to talk to me, spend weekends with me or anything. It makes it very hard sometimes. I too am an emotional eater but it helps that I am also diabetic and can't go overboard. I am walking in your shoes daily. I send her text messages occasionally as she doesn't answer the phone when I call. I continue to pray for her, my grandsons and her living situation...I know the actual main issue is her partner of choice. I cannot and will not let her lead my life. God is in charge at my house and that is just the way it is and will remain. I continue to praise him for everything He does in my life...believe me when I say this is a lot!!! Angela will grow up again some day...I just pray it isn't to late. I could boohoo about this but I refuse. My life is about more than my spoiled child. We only get one chance so I live each day to the very fullest in all that I do!! Be strong, you can do this!! It only seems like the end of the world. I will keep you and your situation in prayer daily. Just continue to love her and keep the lines of communications open if you can. You don't have to like her and what she does, but love her in spite of or because of her faults. She only has one mother no matter what she thinks!!! Enjoy the relationship you have with your son and thank God daily for him and your dear hubby.
Richelle and I talk several times a day and not a week goes by that I don't see her...actually I see her every evening or every few evenings. I am at her house daily as I let Phoenix (her Australian shepherd) outside and play with her.
But enough about me. Feel free to stop by and visit my Spark Page at your convenience. My door is always open and I am available to help anyone I can on this journey to great health!!
Blessings and hugs,
Helen
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Helen/Southwestern PA Joined SP 9/23/2007
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"Without faith, nothing is possible. With it, nothing is impossible."
~Mary McLeod Bethune

"If you planted hope in a heart today in any hopeless heart, If someone's burden was lighter because you did your part, If you caused a laugh that chased a tear away, If tonight your name is mentioned when someone kneels to pray, Then your day was well spent.


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1/12/10 1:33 A

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Hi there, I'm Alison, I'm 47 mother of two adult children, both have flown the nest and live on their own. I have a daughter, she's the eldest and a son who of course is the youngest. My daughter is angry at me and won't speak to me right now, she doesn't like the idea that my hubby is younger than I am. Now I just found out she's engaged and it just about killed me. How do I deal with this ? Without turning to food ? I'm an emotional eater and I'm fighting the urge. I've dropped 54lbs and I don't want to gain any back. Has anyone else been in my shoes ?

My son and I have a wonderful relationship, he's friends with my hubby and they help eachother out. I admire their relationship it's wonderful to be there to see it transforming.

Well thanks for listening. Hope your day's going better than mine.

Oh Great Spirit who dwells in the sky, lead us to the path of peace and understanding. Our lives are so short here, walking upon Mother Earth's surface. Let our eyes be opened to all the blessings you have given us. Please hear our prayers, oh Great Spirit.

"Native Amerian Prayer for Peace"
Tsalagi, Sasa Ageya


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I call myself a half a nester as I still kinda of have one at home! Let's just say her clothes are here, she occasionally sleeps here and every once in awhile I eve get to talk to her! My son lives and goes to school at NDSU in Fargo(senior) and my daughter will start at the MN School in Cosmetology in Jan and hopes to get a place of her own. Of course once she moves out her room becomes my craft room as it's the second biggest room! At the moment my son's former room is!

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Hurray for Empty Nesters Team! I am a queen of empty nesters... just look at my Spark Page and you'll see it's "Empty Nest Momma"!! I love Jill--get to know her! She is a GREAT FRIEND! It is not easy having an empty nest, especially when three go so quickly after each other, like mine did. This is a safe place where it's ok to agonize over it, cheer your adult children on, and just make friends with similar situations! I love this team, and I love Spark People!! emoticon emoticon



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Good morning to you.

This team was originally started to help those of us transitioning into the "Empty Nest" phase of our lives. We have now grown to 74 members and it is becoming quite a lively and supportive team.

I'm hoping we will become even more active as we move through this journey together. Along with our struggles to balance our new lives with empty bedrooms and children away from home we also have our struggles with weight, nutrition and fitness.

I would welcome any comments or suggestions of how to make our team more beneficial to you. Thanks for all your support every day.

Emptynesters ROCK!
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