What gets me is when my mother in law says something like "if you guys ever have kids" or things like that. I know she isnt trying to be mean or hurtful but hearing that sucks. People also like to talk to me about their fertility issues when they are trying to get pregnant. They dont actually have issues but they go on and on asking questions because ive researched a lot about fertility, but in all honesty I have NO interest in helping someone get pregnant. I know its selfish of me, but i want to tell them to go do the research themselves. I think people need to be a bit more sensitive.
They do not realize how hard it is. Unless you have a hard time conceiving you don't know what it is like, how it feels EVERY month. It's grieving a loss, every month. Sit down with them and explain how you feel. Just pick a calm time and talk to them. I was on metformin for about a year and a half before I got pregnant. What helped me was to really look at what I could control. I couldn't control getting pregnant. I was getting really stressed and depressed. It consumed my every minute, every thought, and it was something I had so little control over. I decided I could control eating and exercise. I started looking at that as a way to get me closer to my goal of getting pregnant and it made me feel better to be doing something that could help. It worked and I got pregnant pretty quick once I made that decision. Good luck and if you have any questions about what worked for me, feel free.
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I live with my sister in law and my brother and their little girl. We are trying to help them out because they hit a rough spot and need some help. So about 5 months ago they started trying to get pregnant again. After 3 months my brother came up to me and started complaining about how long it was taking them to get pregnant.
I was diagnosed with PCOS two years ago after a year of trying with no success. Me and my husband have been trying for over 3 years now, and that feeling of hope when I am late each month only to be sorely disappointed each month. Well, lo and behold she got pregnant the next month.
Now all I hear is complaints about how tough it is being pregnant and how I have no idea how annoying cravings are and how annoying going to the bathroom all the time is.
I have to control myself to not throttle my sister in law and my brother because they act like this all the time. Do they not realize that every month I hurt when I am not pregnant? Do they not realize how easy and nice they have it? Do they not realize how selfish and rude they are being?!
I am on Metformin and have been for over a month. I thought I was pregnant last month, but of course, I wasn't. I don't know how much longer I can deal with their ungratefulness without snapping.
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