I can completely commiserate with you. My husband and I have been married for 7 years now and we have been actively trying for a baby for the past 3 years with no luck, despite fertility treatments. I am beyond frustrated and deeply saddened every time I see someone else around me get pregnant. It certainly doesn't help that I work in mental health/addictions and I frequently see patients who are abusing drugs and/or mentally unstable getting pregnant. I can't even begin to describe what I go through emotionally every time that happens. I'm trying to stay optimistic and hopeful, but it sure is frustrating to feel that you are so deserving and well-suited for motherhood and it just isn't happening...
My husband and I have been trying to start a family since before we were married. (6 years of trying) My sister-in-law and her husband got pregnant, accidentally. They already had 2 boys. (which I love very much!) For months, all you would hear from her was, "it was an accident... I should give the baby to you.... we already have 2 handfuls.... you will know what I mean when your a mom....." I just wanted to dunk her head in the toilet and swirly her until she stopped breathing!! Grrr! But, I couldn't do that.
Now, she has this 2 year old little boy, (whom we love as if he was our own) when she really wanted a little girl. (which makes me feel a little better, but it's a hollow feeling) I still hear "you will know when your a mom" comments from her, but I just tune them out. You just can't fix stupid.
I know that when we have a little one of our own, biological or not, I will be a better mother than her. I have her as an example of what not to do, and my Mum for excellence. **evil smile** ;)
I am so sick of these tv shows with unmarried couples, secretly in love with other people accidentally get pregnant and then following the inconvenience of that and how it effects the couple and their other love interests and blah, blah, blah.
I want more than anything to start a family with my husband. We've been married for almost 5 years now. We've been trying for 15 months now. And that story line in tv shows just pisses me off. I know that kind of thing happens in real life. People "accidentally" get pregnant.
Seriously, from where I'm sitting, lucky them.
Why does tv shows have to portray it all as such a problem I find it frustrating and insulting and insensitive. I just wish I wasn't so sensitive to all this. I wish it was easier for us to start our family.
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