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6/20/07 12:34 P

Is she pushy just with you, or everyone? My MIL has a big "bowl you over" personality- she assumes her way is the right way, until/unless someone proves her otherwise. BUT, she's this way with everyone. I've learned by watching my husband interact w/ her that you need to be somewaht aggressive back with her- just being firm about your convictions, and not going along with her just to be "nice" (which I tend to do a lot). She might be surprised/offended at first when we don't agree with her plans, but she's over it in like a minute.

If it's just with you, I'd talk to your fiance about it- find out if he can figure out why she's treating you differently than others. She may see it as a power struggle with you- you're taking her boy away! Hubby-to-be will need to learn to support YOU in issues like this, as you are to be his WIFE.

Good luck!!

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6/3/07 10:29 P

Mine is pushy too.

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5/22/07 9:02 P

Set boundaries, clearly, firmly and respectfully. And have a conversation with her if it's a real problem; "I feel really frustrated when..." may open up a helpful conversation about what's troubling you about the relationship (of course, not in the heat of an "exchange" or in front of others). She may be just as unsure of herself or perhaps even jealous or protective of your new role in the family.

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5/22/07 8:35 P

i have one of those. Push back. That's the only way I've found to deal with a push mother in law.

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5/22/07 8:12 P

Hello sparkies, just want to know how do you all deal with an aggressive mother-n-law.

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