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1/22/08 6:25 A

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Good morning, all - just dropping in to say hello and to say a special hello to Monique!

"Love God in front of others, and love others in front of God."

"The most self-destructive thought that any person can have is thinking that he or she is not in total control of his or her life. That's when, 'Why me?' becomes a theme song."

"Kindness is the language that the blind can see and the deaf can hear."
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1/19/08 7:25 P

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Hi Monique,

I just wanted to drop a note and tell you that I was thinking about you and your mom. I hope all is well.

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1/16/08 8:43 P

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Well said, TIME*4*CHANGE!

"Love God in front of others, and love others in front of God."

"The most self-destructive thought that any person can have is thinking that he or she is not in total control of his or her life. That's when, 'Why me?' becomes a theme song."

"Kindness is the language that the blind can see and the deaf can hear."
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1/15/08 9:51 A

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I am sorry to hear about your Mom. I have 2 Aunts that were diagnosed with BC 2 days apart and that was 7 years ago! It doesn't have to be the end of the world, just keep praying that God will use both the situation and both of you to his Glory!!! emoticon

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1/12/08 12:38 P

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Hi Monique,

I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you and your mom to deal with this tragedy. Be grateful that you are in a country where you have access to the best medical services available in the world.

I'm always amazed of the things we learn and the strength we find in ourselves to deal with tragedies in our lives.

I do not want to say this is a positive thing for you and your mom, because it's not but things like this brings the best out of us, it'll bring us closer together.

Be there for your mom. Be there for yourself but don't forget yourself. Eat fresh food and make sure your diet has plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables. Don't forget to drink 8 glasses of water and your 8 hours of sleep.

You are not alone on this. We are here for you. Keep the positive attitude and stay in touch with us.


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1/11/08 8:17 P

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Hi Monique,
I am truly sorry to hear about your Mom's diagnosis, but I want to give you a word of encouragement and remind you that above all things, GOD IS IN CONTROL! I will reach out to you in a personal email as well, but just know that you are not alone, nor is your Mom.

"Love God in front of others, and love others in front of God."

"The most self-destructive thought that any person can have is thinking that he or she is not in total control of his or her life. That's when, 'Why me?' becomes a theme song."

"Kindness is the language that the blind can see and the deaf can hear."
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1/11/08 5:17 P

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Monique let me say first off I am sorry to hear about your mom. I will definitely put her on our prayer list at church. You and your family are in my prayers.

Secondly, Hon, it's all about planning. Carry some healthy choices of snacks to the hospital with you. Walk around the hospital, like go and visit the maternity ward and see the new lives that are entering into the world. This may also help with keeping your mind occupied on other things. Some hospitals have workout rooms. See if that hospital has one and see if you can utilize it. Do you have a laptop or could you borrow one in order to be able to log in your calories and keep in touch? These are some suggestions I have.

Sincerely,

Steph

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No one can do what you are called to do, but you!

Great works are performed not by strength but by perserverance. - Samuel Johnson


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1/10/08 8:35 P

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Great advice everyone. It is a natural tendency in times of family crisis to neglect ourselves and focus on the issue at hand - but you will be better strength and support to your mom if you are healthy and well and maintain part of your focus on staying that way. I spent the better part of 5 years in and out of hospitals caring for my sister and I won't lie; it is a huge stress on your system. It is too easy to fall into the trap of eating whatever you can find at odd hours, skipping meals, lack of sleep from worry - it can all play its part to bring you down - not to mention what it does to your immune system. Pack those healthy snacks, hydrate, go for walks, take your supplements and keep some inspirational reading materials with you for those long days in the hospital - those can help you lift your mood and continue to focus on the positive and keep things in perspective - your mom may benefit from reading them as well! I wish you and your mom all the best.

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1/10/08 8:29 P

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just wanted to say i am thinking of all of you who have had experiences with cancer....or are still having...my heart goes out to you all

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1/10/08 8:10 P

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My heart goes out to you! You will get through this. Use the time with your mom to get to know each other better.
My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer July 2006. During the work up for the breast cancer, they found cancer in one of her lungs. She finished up her last radiation therapy session in September of 2007.
My advice to you is to keep exercising - it relieves stress. I did not do so well in terms of nutrition and I gained a lot of weight. If I had to do it again, I would have packed my own lunch and dinner. The hospital had a fridge and micro-wave families could use. You might want to take advantage of it.

Moreover, focus on today and be in the present. These were tough times for me, but we managed to have some good times too.
Bless you - and let us know how you are doing!
Kathleen

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1/10/08 8:33 A

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I'm so sorry, You, your mom and your family will be in my thoughts.

I really think this is a time to not forget about yourself. And think if you can make it through this without gaining weight - you can make it through anything and the weight you loose will be gone for good.

Plan to pack healthy snacks for the hospital to help keep you away from the vending machines. Bring a bottle of water with you everywhere.

Don't give yourself excuses. Your mom needs you healthy in everyway to help support her.

Be strong for her and you. I know you can.

As for exercise . . . check out the "office" exercises on sparkpages. Print out some exercises you can do waiting in hallways etc. They are simple little things like claf raises that no one would notice you doing - but you'll know you're doing something. Also, walking - walking - more walking. Don't discredit the little exercises.

You can do it!

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1/10/08 8:27 A

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As a mother of a child who is in remission from cancer, I have been where you are. Great advice by the way to take each day at a time and not look too far ahead. Here are a few tips for you.
1. When in the hospital, use the stairs when you have a break or your mom is in tests. Also find out if there is a walking track==some haspitals have a route mapped out in the basement. Take 10 min for yourself and walk. Pretend it is a "smoke break" Having previously smoked I know smoker's never miss a cigarette break.

2. Stay away from the quick section of the cafeteria which has chick strips, hamburgs etc and instead get a veggie plate or hit the salad bar or soup. Just beware of how big your salad is and the dressing you use. Get fresh fruit. Pack some bars. If mom will be inpatient, pack a healthy meal and heat it up in the microwave on the floor.

3. Most hospitals now have computers for families to use or allow laptops.(Right now I am in the ICU typing this on mine) You will be able to track your food and exercise. Even if you miss a few meals tracking, you will have an idea of where you stand.

4. Pack resistance bands in your purse. They are lightweight and pack a punch. Also, Spark has some great workout videos for the office that can be modified for your situation.

5. Take care of yourself. Your mom will benefit from a healthy you.

Good luck to you. I am praying for your mom and for you and your family.
Jamie

PS My daughter is fine--she had a revision of her leg surgery on Monday and we are in ICU post surgery for a few days. She remains cancer free.

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1/10/08 8:21 A

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Monique, this must be hard pressing on you, and I truely sympathize. Even though the cancer will be hard ( i know, i have brain cancer), this may be the time for both you and your mother to evaluate your health and lifestyle. Eating healthy is going to be important to your mothers recovery. You can be her model and show her the way to a healthy lifestlye, thus helping her on her journey through the cancer and keeping up with your own health. It will be hard but her health is what is of importance, as is yours. Keep your head up and spirits high.

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oh monique your poor poor mother, and poor you too xxoo

my advice just now is don't worry too much about dieting and stuff right now, just try and be healthy but get your head around it all first and be there for your mum, you're not in the right frame of mind to be making decisions and you don't need that pressure. Just say to yourself that you don't want to give up and you won't, but just that you need your head space for the moment to deal with this issue. Maybe in a few days or a week you will feel a bit more able to make a bit of a plan. I would say you could plan healthy snacks and eat regularly, in fact plan your whole menu....walk around the hospital block...drink water, do what you can when you can...plan to be flexible. But above all don't be hard on yourself, give it all a bit of time, take care of you and your mum. All the very best xxxx

ps, take one day at a time too, if you look forward and think how hard it will be you'll get scared and feel overwhelmed, but if you do 1 day at a time, and that's all you have to cope with, you can manage that :-)

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1/10/08 7:11 A

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Yesterday my Mom was told that she has breast cancer. I know what is going to happen with her. We have a long hard road ahead of us as a family. What I need help with is staying on track.
I just started really working to lose weight in the past this would be the perfect reason to stop worring about my weight and throw myself into my Moms problems and issues. Eatting the whole time for comfort. And probley gaining more. This time I don't want to do that. How do I stay on track. With endless days at the hospital and chemo. Where do I get my exercize when I'm two hours from home without my gym or my home with dvd's that I can use. Or a computer to log my calories and write you guys for support. Is this selfish that I'm even thinking about this? Is this a time for me to stop count calories and working out to be there for my mom? I don't know how to feel about this. I really need some advise on this subject. Yesterday I had Ice cream for the first time in months. I can feel me slipping. Please help! Monique emoticon emoticon

 
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