I have these problems, too...I want to see him all the time, and I'm the one who broke up with him! But I know he's not healthy for me, so I'm trying to stick to this while still being fair to him. Another rough factor--I work with his mom! I constant reminder every day...
You are smart too, you are just struggling because of your feelings for him. I know it's hard to not contact him, and I don't blame you. Think of other things to do to keep you busy. I don't have too many friends either, my good friends and family are super busy in their lives and I'm not. I've been on spark for the last few weeks... I spend a ridiculous amount of time on here every day, reading posts, blogs, tracking things, etc. because on my days off I don't have enough to occupy my time.
Be kind to yourself, and talk to as many people as you can. If you're anything like me, I have to talk and write to process my feelings.
I'm in the same boat.. at least you ladies are smarter then me.. i still talk to him and text him but i dont see him. its so hard for me.. we should have been married last month but we broke once before, got back together and now he moved out.. sometimes it feels like he it putting everything he does in my face yet i cant delete him off facebook or block him.. i dont have many friends that contact me to keep me busy.. I'm trying but its so hard.
Aww, I'm sorry to hear that :( Some exes have that tendency to try to "hold on" to someone... they feel better about themselves to know that they have that power over you, that you'll be there to talk when *he* wants to talk. He can still tug on your heartstrings when he wants an ego boost, or to appease how guilty he feels. I'm going with no contact too, but for me it's only been two weeks. Stay strong. You deserve this time to yourself. You can talk to him only when and if you decide that you want to talk to him.
Its been 2 months since ive talked to him and of course he pops up randomly on my mind or in conversation but no contact whatsoever for 2 months... i went as far as deactivating facebook everything i dont want to see how happy he is with the new g/f... for the two months its gotten easier and just when i thought i was ok... he calls out of nowhere i battle with myself to ignore or answer the call and of course my curious nosey self answers... the minute i hear his voice my stomache is in knots i cant breathe and i feel like im going to puke... he has a g/f why call me just to catch up there is no point... and i realize i cant put myself through that i thought i was ok but clearly and physically im not... vow to myself no more answering his calls whenever he decides to randomly call for sh*ts n giggles...
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