I know exactly how you feel...it's seems like most of the people I date are not as outgoing to positive as I am. Then I end up dumbing myself down around them so that my personality isn't overwhelming them. No more! I'm just going to be my normal, happy self no matter what mood they're in!
My ex broke up with me because he wasn't ready to commit, and wanted to explore his options... but instead of telling me that, he blamed everything on me. He said I was too negative (I was stressed, but I was working two jobs and going to school), he said we were too isolated as a couple (completely untrue for my social life... and wasn't his social life his responsibility?), he said I never did anything for him (also completely untrue). The first two weeks I was distraught, thinking I had screwed up this amazing relationship, how could I live with myself? Then I finally realized the true reason for the breakup was his issue, not mine. How dare he blame it all on me? I am rediscovering myself, and learning to love myself. Sure, I am not perfect, but I am also human and I deserve forgiveness and understanding. I have a positive outlook on life, I have great relationships with my friends and family, and I am a loving and caring person who will do anything for those I care about. No one can tell me otherwise, and those who try to tell me otherwise must not truly know me or appreciate me. I deserve better.
Thanks for this topic, I guess I had to vent lol.
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I am a loving, passionate person! I am interested in the world around me, and actively engaged with the people in my life. I care deeply for my friends and family, and I like being active! He never brought out these traits in me, and I found myself accepting and matching his apathy. NO MORE!
What are some things that you other users have discovered about yourselves (or re-discovered) since the break-up?
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