This is my story pretty much down to a T, except I still am at university. My bf broke up with me too, because he didn't want to do the long distance thing, but yet he still texts me, and calls me, and we see each other if we're both home on weekends. Lately though he has been acting weird. He "falls asleep" before calling before bed like he normally did, and he doesn't invite me to any of his family events that I always went to before (I think this partly has to do with his mom, she doesn't seem to like me very much, I don't know why), and he will only come over to visit late at night, stay the night, and then leave the next morning. When I do see him in person he's sweeter than ever before, but once he's gone it the opposite. We were together over 3 years, and he has been here for me for everything, and I find it so hard to let him go, even though I know I should because I deserve to be treated better than this. I completely understand how you feel, and if you ever need to talk let me know!
Please don't give this guy too much free rent in your head! Nothing wrong with staying open to the idea of him being your guy as long as you don't build your world around it.
Stay focused on your goals and what you enjoy and need. Then get out there and "interview" lots and lots of men.
I've been heartbroken and in that place of feeling that there could never be anyone else. Then when I picked myself up and got out living my life I was amazed to discover that there were lots of men out there who were much more enjoyable than Mr. X.
Also, try to avoid the euphoric recall. Balance that out with memories of his bad behavior too. One thing I can promise you, once you get married the bad behavior only gets worse.
Jess Seattle WA
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I am still looking for someone new but this week something funny happened. His mom and my mom are friends on facebook and his mom wrote on a old picture of me and him from our senior prom. she said something along the lines of how cute of a couple we make. basically I am going to be the girl that his mom wants to marry but it never happens!
hI, I GUESS now what u are sayin is a different picture.. and i Think ya u shud focus on urself... and be ur best. Find someone good enough for you whos loyal.. You are still young give ALL the time to urself to find that perfect one. I hope you do soon!
As far as excercisin is concerned.. ofcourse it builds u from inside!
I love all the advice! He actually did get another girlfriend for a couple of months they are broken up now but even before he started dating her he would tell me about girls he liked. I think he just wanted to get me jealous after choosing to still leave. We still kept in somewhat of contact even when he had a girlfriend but it got to the point when I wanted to just say good bye forever so I deleted his number and what not but I actually got a new phone so I lost all my old contacts anyways.
He actually texted me the other day and was upset when I had to ask who it was because I no longer had his number. While my best friend swears she will be the brides maid at our wedding because she has been in the middle being friends with both of us separately.
I think I'm going to focus on myself for now and I think I'm ready to at least try and find someone else. I wont push myself in a relationship just to be in a relationship and I have turned down guys before but if I find someone right I think I am ready for it.
if he stays away from and still loyal to u - i guess u shud never let him go... but if he gets another gal in da mean time u knw that u shud be moving on then...
and this so called "Distance "will itself prove wheather this love is worth all da pain... but dunt go ahead and mess ur life wid multiple guys... dunt go so far that u start feelin its impossible to return when u actually want to turn bak.
Getting fit is gud... great actually - but one shud be loved for what he is not what he looks like..
I mite sound very mom like but something very similar happened to me too.
I truly believe everything happens for a reason and I'm still looking for the reasons around it. I think that everything now is taking a happy turn for me and it has nothing to do with him. I'm proud to be happy by myself and not just happy through him. I think that to be in a good healthy relationship both people have to be happy with who they are by themselves before they can be happy with anyone else. Thank you so much for your support!!!
You have the right attitude about wanting to find someone just for you. You have to believe that everything happens for reasons and sometimes those reasons don't come to play until years later. Like the reason that you two broke up and he was mean to you. Then you decide that you wanted to go to a school away from him, that will all mean something in the bigger picture. Maybe you are going to meet someone really special and you would have missed out if you were with that other guy!!!! God has a way of making things work out in the long run. Good luck with your journey to get fit and healthy and I wish you all the best in finding someone right for you!!!!
"Enter every activity without mental recognition to the possibility of defeat. Concentrate on your strengths, instead of your weaknesses... on your powers, instead of your problems." -Paul j. Meyer
"Love yourself, love yourself, love yourself and when you get tired of doing that, LOVE YOURSELF JUST A LITTLE BIT MORE, THEN TRY LOVING SOMEONE ELSE."-ME
Basically I am stuck over my high school sweetheart. The only reason we broke up was because I went farther away to college and he didn't want to do long distance. However before I left, the last night I was with him, as we were both crying he told me that he knew I was the one he was going to be with. Well its been a year and we are not back together. I'm actually back in my hometown only 20 minutes from where he lives now. Apparently he told my friend last year that he wants to get back together in 7 years, now 6 years, because I am the one he wants to settle down with. The time we broke up in high school he told another friend that he wished he had met me when he was 23 because he would for sure marry me. He also once told me that the only reason he was ever mean or things didn't work out was because he was scared and he didn't think that he should have met the person he wanted to be with for the rest of his life at such a young age.
here is the thing though, the only reason I chose to go farther away and not the same college that we had planned to go together was because during senior year when we broke up for a bit, he was the meanest person I have ever met. I wanted to get as far away as possible. then when we got back together before I left he was back to himself and I didn't want to leave. He didn't want to put in the effort of making sure that I would still be around. He knows that he might not get me in 6 years when it is convenient to him but he is willing to take the chance of losing me.
That is why I want to get fit and find someone that isn't willing to lose me. Because when you find your true love you don't want to let them go right?
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