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1/27/10 11:11 A

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The Goddess is always looking out for us. Glad to here your problem is resolved.



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1/27/10 11:01 A

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Update: After some thinking, I decided I would not change my plans. Something was just telling me not to give in. Well, as it turns out, my sister will be having her baby around the 2nd of Feb. So, she threw a fit for nothing and, other than a few days of debating, I still got what I wanted. The Goddess always seems to be looking out for me.

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JEWITCH's Photo JEWITCH Posts: 18,857
1/19/10 4:01 P

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Lavender_Moon, from another Gemini I know what you mean. But I think you need to establish boundaries with your mother and sister. Your son's birthday was a around long before your sister got pregnant and if your only going to be gone a few days it shouldn't make a difference. You might want to meditate on this and ask the goddesses and gods for guidance.

As a Gemini I have had to learn that I need to think of myself first and take care of my needs before I take care of everyone else's. I know this is difficult to do at first but over time it becomes easier. I hope this helps.



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1/19/10 1:58 P

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CELTGIRL1974, I'm a gemini. Which makes situations like this worse. One half of me is saying, in a way they're right and the other half is saying, forget them; do what you want.

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1/19/10 12:25 P

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Put your own nuclear family first (husband & kids).

There may be a need for you to establish and enforce boundaries with your sister and others. The first time is always the hardest.



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1/19/10 10:22 A

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I know this sounds harsh, but you have to think about your family, and I mean husband and kids.

Are you a libra? Sounds like you are trying to please everyone except yourself. I use to be that way too and then I was killing myself to please everyone else. Doesn't work so well.

I know that your Mom and sister will be upset, but they should be supportive and understand that you need to do what you need to do for you. It's not always easy, but you will be happier for it.

I am worth it. I just sometimes have to remind myself of that!

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To release 3-5 pounds per week.

To become more educated in why I crave the things I do (bad foods)

To become a leaner more healthier person.


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1/19/10 9:39 A

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I have been learning and practicing Wicca for 10 years off and on (had some issues with my spouse at the beginning of our marriage). However, I have always maintained the core beliefs. When I first found Wicca, I introduced my mother to it and in turn she introduced my sister. I cannot say whether they continue to study it or not. I know they don't observe the Esbats or Sabbats. Yet they call themselves Wiccans.

Here's my problem, I have always strived to think about others and how my decisions effect them. I have not always been successful in this, hurting my family with the decisions I have made for love. However, now my family has moved near me. My sister is pregnant and (while the age of her baby keeps changing) she swears that she's due around Feb. 15. My son's birthday is Feb 11 and since it's during the week we planned on going on the 13th to see some of my son's friends and a friend of my husband's and mine 3 hours away (we moved from there last year). Now my sister and mother are throwing a huge fit. Telling me I don't ever think about them and their feelings. This angers me because despite the fact that my mother is a surgical nurse and I'm a minimum wage worker, I'm the one who drives 30 minutes one way just for her to see my kids. And when I get over there, it never fails that I have to give my sister and her boyfriend cigarettes (don't even get me started on her smoking while preg!). I keep my mouth shut about things I know will upset them.

I have no idea what to do. Should I postpone my son's "Birthday" party until March like they want or should I go ahead with my plans? What would you do in this situation?

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