Forgiveness has very little to do with the person who wronged you, but everything to do with you. Forgiveness does much less to affect the wrong, but has great positive effects on the wronged. If the other person actively seeks forgiveness, then s/he tends to need to forgive her/himself just as much as receive your forgiveness, whereas if s/he doesn't care then whether you forgive or not means nothing to her/him. But giving forgiveness allows you to move on with your life without continuing to feel the victim and allowing it to take over your every day.
Forgiveness goes along with acceptance. Acceptance and forgiveness doesn't mean liking what happened, only preventing it from taking over the rest of your life. Leave it in the past where it belongs and allow your present to accept the future without burdens.
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In the Jewish religion, if a person asks for forgiveness three times and is rejected three times, then the sin is transferred to the other person. (I'm sure there's more to it than that, but that's what I remember.)
If you can't forgive, at least try to forget. Put the unforgivable in a box, nail the lid on tight, shove it in a dark corner of your mind, and never let it out again. To let the unforgivable rule your life is like a cancer. It spreads and sickens you until you can't think of anything else. Forgiveness may not always be possible, but we can strive to forget, and get on with our lives.
Interesting and appropriate quotes for the day after the Presidential election. Thanks for sharing. ( p.s. I'm not trying to sound partisan here. My candidates, largely, won. I just hope all of us in this country can now focus on getting along together without some of the partisan vitriol.)
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